Dear smo,

i'm so sorry to hear that you have been having relationship problems. I'm not sure why your boyfriend won't except that it is his child. Does he have a reason to doubt the child is his ? A lack of money and unpaid bills is enough to cause friction in any relationship, it does cause a lot of stress. It certainly doesn't help matters when you are both disagreeing on what you should be spending the last few dollars on. As for how to deal with the situation, I think what is most important at this stage is to wait until you get your pregnancy test on friday, if you are actually pregnant then think about your options then. You may not be pregnant yet. The enormous amount of stress you have been under could quite possibly be the reason your period is a little out of whack at the moment. Stress is enough to actually make your period stop completely, so you really need to try and relax, look after yourself a bit. Your boyfriend doesn't sound so caring, so you really need to take some time out for yourself right now. Pamper yourself, do something nice, go out for lunch with your mum, go to the local pool or spa with a friend, anything, just get your mind off all this until you do your test. Your boyfriend has no place making you feel bad about the possibility of being pregnant, as it is as much his fault as it is yours. Without him, you wouldn't be pregnant. If he thinks you should be feeling bad, then he should be feeling just as bad.

Good luck,

.::suzy::.

Ya see I think what the probalem is, is that he is more scared of the stuation then I am, becuse of what happened last year. I don't think the stress has that much to with it, because, I am peeing every 10 mins is it seems, sharp pains in back and belly, light headed, little bit of nausa, heart burn like I don't know what!

Oh well, only time will tell right thanks for the reply

smo1980

And my hubby is the same way. Don't work, but spend as much as he can. Anyway I got preg 3 1/2 mo after we were together, and he's been with a lot of girls that he didn't get preg. So the whole preg was like...It better look like me and r u sure it's not someone elses. It hurt so bad, but after he saw him he knew (or so I thought). However, this convo comes up all the time (about all 3 kids) and i've told him i'd do a paternity test, except it's too expensive so i'd be willing to go on a show or something. I would never (not know) or let my child (not know) who the real father was...It's definetly my hubby (he's the only guy ive ever had sex with) but I did talk to other guys after a few accusations. I don't know who my father is and mom doesn't know (so she says) and it hurts not to know who I really am. I don't know if I have brother & sisters, neices & nephews, and there is a set of grandparents that I never met.

I think we finally came together just this past week though...After I posted about my marriage. I got a lot of good advice and I am thankful for it.

Hopefully everything works out for you, but don't let it stress you too much, it's bad for the baby. There were points that I just ignored my hubby when he said it. I just hope now he realizes that they are all his and I love him very much and want us to be a happy family.

Good luck and best wishes,

jennifer

Thanks, it's not that my boyfriend can't work, or doesn't want to, he has had some health problems, every time he starts a job he trys so hard & just ends up stressing him self right out, he just wants to make something himself so bad, and he jsut ends up doing what he does to himself. He can't see that is actually his merves and anxity that is cusing him be sick and stuff! He is working know, and it s going okay, but we'll see, ah! Were still just young, well not young but not old either i'm 23 and he's 26, and ya see my boyfriend himself is adopted, doensn't know his parents, all he knows is when he tried to find his mother she didn't want to see him! She was only like 14 when she had him and doesn't know who the father is! I also think that is why he is so distant about all of this, he has not had an easy life over the past 10 years or so!

Well I will keep informed, friday the 17th I am getting a ptest and will try is sometim ethat weekend! Don't know how I feel!!!!!!