Joined: 22 May 2004 Posts: 20 Location: Charleston, South Carolina
Someone Please Help Posted: 10-18-04 12:35pm
I have been depressed for a couple of
months and it is getting worse. I
appoligize now for this being so long...I
had to retire early from my job early due
to a seizure disorder. I have been a
housewife stuck at home due to a law in my
state that does not allow people with
seizures to drive. I just so happen to
have seizures so often that I have not
been able to drive for about 2 years.
My husband and I have (4 months ago) have
his cousins 2 girls live with us instead
of them living in foster care. Well, we
both love these girls and I take care of
them all day...They arent in school yet.
I am stuck at home very rarely do I get to
go out. His mother is retired and in the
beginning I was talking to her on the
phone...She is a person that is hard to
get motivated, so I have learned not to
ask much from her. My husband knows that
I am miserable here. He does not like to
bring up subject re: that. I call his
mother she does not answer the phone and I
leave messages and she does not call me
back...So needless to say I quit calling
her...He asked me why I was mad at
her(falls back on me)she goes to all of my
husbands dr visits with him and I want to
go with him...He tells me that I need to
watch the girls. I want to go with him.
We get no assistance for the girls from
the state nor the parents or grandparents.
If I bring up anything re: that
situation, I feel the tension.
I love him and I know that he loves me but
I am so hurt and feel so alone my friends
are his friends and they end up telling
him if I get upset so I do not mention
this to them.
Please help ... I tried to keep this
brief... But I have even more
help>>>i feel so alone.
Connie elaine
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trap
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2004 Posts: 65 Location: california
Posted: 10-18-04 14:31pm
Hey connie go out for a walk -take a bus
-catch a cab-driving yourself is not the
only way to get around-if his mom doesnt
want to talk to you then thats her
deal-get a friend you can talk to
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connie elaine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 May 2004 Posts: 20 Location: Charleston, South Carolina
Posted: 10-19-04 07:04am
Thank you for your reply.
We cannot really afford a cab~we have been
caring for the girls and have not had any
assistance...We are hoping that we can get
custody of them and the dss is trying to
get the father to take blood tests to
prove that he is the father, we all know
that he is...He just does not want to
support them. Once that happens
hopefully(got my fingers crossed) I will
be able to drive.
The only busses around here are school
busses...Are neighborhood is basically
vacant during the time my husband is at
work. My husband, on the weekends carts
us around anywhere we want to go, even
though hes tired.
I dont want to sound like I am trying to
dodge your suggestions...Weve looked at a
bunch of avenues, im not even supposed to
ride a bike, walking is basically out of
the ? Any store or mcdonalds with a play
park is about 45minutes to an hour walk.
Thanks,
connie elaine
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connie elaine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 May 2004 Posts: 20 Location: Charleston, South Carolina
Posted: 10-19-04 07:08am
Oh yeah, we take walks all the time...I
think I need new legs(feels as if I wore
these slap out )
thanks again
connie elaine
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trap
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2004 Posts: 65 Location: california
Posted: 10-20-04 12:04pm
Gee vanessa ya think?!
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vossy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2004 Posts: 39 Location: pakenham
Posted: 10-20-04 16:10pm
Good to see you being helpfull again trap
. People ask for help not sarcisim
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trap
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2004 Posts: 65 Location: california
Posted: 10-20-04 16:14pm
Bow down baby bow down!!!!!!
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vossy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Oct 2004 Posts: 39 Location: pakenham
Posted: 10-21-04 04:38am
Take no notice of trap hes a serial pest
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connie elaine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 May 2004 Posts: 20 Location: Charleston, South Carolina
Re Meds. Posted: 10-27-04 12:32pm
I am taking depakote due to a seizure
disorder. I am not taking anything for
the stress. I feel that I need to be
totally "aware" of the situation that I
have been placed in.
As to the other sarcastic reply I can and
have been dealing with alot of idiots and
have learned to ignore silly and ignorant
remarks.
Thank you for your posts I feel that every
one has been enlightening and I learn alot
from them.
A wise old owl lived in an oak;
the more he saw the less he spoke;
the less he spoke the more he heard.
Why can't we all be like that wise old
bird?
Connie elaine
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kruger
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Nov 2004 Posts: 3 Location: South Florida
I Feel Your Pain Posted: 11-22-04 00:31am
Hi connie,
i am new to the seizures, but not anxiety.
I live in fla. And started having
seizures about 6 months ago. I have had a
history of anxiety for some time though.
I have been on meds for some time now.
Not for the seizures only stress and
anxiety. Then I had my first seizure due
to not taking the ativan. I lost my
licence and my job because of this. Long
story short I recently had another
seizure, but this time the doctor put me
on klonopin. I am still able to drive
with this med and not only does it prevent
seizures, but it takes care of the anxiety
as well. As far as the kids may I ask how
old they are? I have 2 myself and a new
grand son. Maybe look at it as a blessing
to not be totally alone. I know it's hard
but i'm divorced and would like to see my
kids more. I feel alone alot too. Do you
have the seizures while taking care of
them? If so do they know what is
happening? Maybe I have rambled too much
here if so i'm sorry. I am new to all
this as well. I would love to be of any
support I can to you.
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connie elaine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 May 2004 Posts: 20 Location: Charleston, South Carolina
Thanks Posted: 11-22-04 13:20pm
Im sorry I was changed to keppra about a
year ago and my memory is shot, I forget
what med I am taking for them. I have a
dog that has quite a keen sense of
seizures and he is with me almost always.
I usually get an audio aura before I have
one.
The children are 3 and 5. They have not
witnessed them yet.
Bad thing my son, 15, has started having
seizures and we are waiting results back
from his tests. He feels all alone. He
lives in ky with his father and his step
mom. He told me that they dont believe
him.
I let him live with his dad 1.5 years ago,
he thought that it would be cake living
with them. You know summer vacations are
alot of fun. Well, he is considering
moving back and I hope that he does. He
says that his step mom laughs at him and
she hits him. I talked to his father but
he is in denial.
I have had seizures since my childhood,
they went away when I was pregnant with my
son and they came back 2 years ago...I
thought I out grew them, guess I was
wrong. The meds are terrible...Tremmors
to short term memory loss. I really have
to watch myself with my meds cause I have
accidently taken too much med and forgot
to take it as well due to the memory
loss.
How old are you? Are your meds working
for you...You know thats the terrible
part, weaning on and off can really play
with your mind. What kind do you
experience and do you get a warning
aura?
If you need to talk to anyone, im here.
Connie elaine
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kruger
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Nov 2004 Posts: 3 Location: South Florida
Posted: 11-22-04 23:44pm
Hi connie,
thanks for the reply. I am 40 soon to be
41 in december. I sorry to hear about
your son. I know you don't need that
added stress. I hope he gets to come live
with you, it would be good for both of
you. I was on keppra for a short time
after my first seizure then changed to
dilantin for some reason. That was for
just a few months then I was put on ativan
only. I was seizure free for a short
time. They ran every test possible with
no answers. I assumed that I was not
going to have any more (what did I know).
I had the gran mal last week and was put
on the klonopin. I must say it is working
well because i'm not having any anxiety
nor a seizure. I have only been on it a
short time though. The one side effect is
drowsyness. Do you know why you have the
seizures? Sorry if I ask dumb questions
this is all so new to me. When you have
one are you completely unconcious? My
last one lasted for a few minutes in a
public place. I scared alot of people
including myself. Well I could go on but
I wont put you through that. Thanks for
your return message.
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connie elaine
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 May 2004 Posts: 20 Location: Charleston, South Carolina
Posted: 11-24-04 09:49am
They run in my family. I am totally out
of it when they happen. Its like I wake
up from sleep. When I finish I usually
know somethings up when I am not in my
bed. I have gran mal type. And I feel
horrible afterwards. It takes me about
15-30 minutes to be able to understand
what people are asking me when I come
around. And when I rest afterwards, I
can sleep for like a day strait. It
totally drains me mentally and
physically.
I have daily auras and some are quite
strong and make me feel like I need to get
ready...But I have not had one in a while.
My Dr. Says that the strong auras may
be small seizures and I am just not
passing out. They have been going on for
about 2 years. I had back to back g-mals
and since then I have been experiencing
the strong auras. Feel free to ask any
questions that you may have. I dont mind
at all.
Connie elaine
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kruger
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Nov 2004 Posts: 3 Location: South Florida
Thank You Posted: 11-26-04 23:53pm
Hi connie,
nice to hear from you again. I was told
that seizures were not normally genetic.
How many of your family members have them
and were they given a reason that was
causing them? Other than genetic. I
understand about the physical and mental
drain after the gran mal I feel the same.
I have had some trouble with short term
memory loss since on the klonopin as well.
Things slip my mind but if reminded it
usually will come back to me. I am having
a hard time with that because I have
always had a sharp memory. With my work I
have alot of responsability, and always
was good at multi tasking. Now I find
myself writing everything down to cover
myself. Well I guess there is the good
and bad of everything because the klonopin
seems to be the best for me so far. I
think I understand the auras. It has not
happend every time but I had what I belive
to have been an aura with a mini seizure
the other day. I did not pass out though.
How is your son? I hope well. If you
would like I can give you my personal
email as well I would like to keep in
touch.
Dawn
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