I have a problem, and I know other girls
have posted about it...But can anyone help
me?
One, my boyfriend doesn't last more than
thirty seconds during sex...Sometimes he
can fo for about a minute...And I know he
can do something about it! There was a
time when he went for about five minutes
and I was so happy, even for the little
five! And so for him not to try to
please me...It upsets me....Bc I do
everything for him...He doesn't have ask
for anything in bed, and he knows he will
get it...When i'm on my period he gets
"pleasured" every day, sometimes
twice...Bc I love him and want to make him
happy...And during this time he always
talks about how he is going to return the
favor when i'm off my period...And
then......Nothing. And then he will be
like, let's have a quickie this time and
then we will have a round two...Which we
have never had but I am always up
for...And then he says he is too
tired....So I am so lost. I feel like
crying bc it seems like I haven't even
touched the sexual experience that I
should be enjoying....He is the only
person I have ever been with and we've
been having sex for four months...And I
just feel like a toy to play with when he
needs his...And he has started to manually
touch me....He won't do orally, even
though I do, and this was something I
refused before him....But I never get off
this way...And when he touches my "clit"
it is too sensitive...It feels good but
tickles too, and I make him stop bc I
don't know whether to moan or laugh...Lol
do I ever have a chance have being pleased
sexually?
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misscamie20
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2004 Posts: 27 Location: ohio
Trouble In Paradise Posted: 10-19-04 09:01am
My bf is a minute man too.... Well a
seconds man. Anyways, I have the same
problem, he will please me with foreplay
but intercourse is just like a waste of
time b/c by the time he gets off im mad
cause I didnt. Its been three years and
im still dealing with this issue so I
suggest getting comfortable with foreplay,
some say foreplay is better than sex.
Laugh and moan do whatever feels natural
just close your eyes and let him lead
you!!! One thing though.... If he
wouldnt orally stimulate me he better
believe I wouldnt do it to him. Sex is
50\50 !!!! Good luck :d
Heather -- your questions was "do I ever
have a chance have being pleased
sexually?" well, it doesn't sound like it
with this guy. First off, he doesn't
sound like he cares at all whether you are
enjoying it. In my (not inconsiderable!)
experience, a good lover is far more
interested in the woman's pleasure than in
his own. It's not even got much to do
with if he loves you or not, really --
just that a good lover gets off on the
woman enjoying herself. I'm not sure if
that's something a bloke learns, or
whether it's how they start off, though.
But asks yourself as well -- what is the
incentive for this guy (seeing as he
doesn't get off on you enjoying it) to
improve his performance, either in the
staying-power department or in the oral
department? He's getting as much from you
as he wants, no cost to him and you just
keep putting out and putting up with it!
Hello?!!!!
This guy needs to know he is crap in bed
and get his act together! And by the way,
I do think that if you say "please have
some consideration for my needs and
satisfaction", and he doesn't make some
better attempt, he's being pretty
contemptuous of you. You really don't
need that kind of man -- there really are
some wonderful lovers out there!
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kitty2luv
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 1089 Location: with my love
Minute Men Posted: 10-22-04 13:35pm
Yea y do the nut so fast could it be from
me being tight I have had sex many time
but the guys always nuts first and I never
get the chance to make myself happy y is
that?
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dominique
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2003 Posts: 83
Posted: 11-15-04 12:32pm
Yeah. I agree. You're boyfriend has some
issues with that. You need to tell him
how you feel about it and try to make him
understand that sex isn't just about him.
That isn't fair to you to never get
anything from it. What's the point if
he's the only one having fun? Lol also, I
know this sounds really sick and I
apologize. My fiance is always worried
that he's to quick yet he really doesn't
have to worry about it. He sometimes
masturbates a few hours before we plan on
having sex. That way he'll be able to
last a little longer and he has time to
save up some energy.
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BeckLyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2004 Posts: 476
Posted: 11-15-04 14:52pm
Try viagra! Or the herbal form of it.
Or what the new one??? I can't remember.
Anyway, thats what they're supposed to
help with... Otherwise maybe he needs to
talk to someone. A doc. Or something...
And I find that I cum real fast if I
ride, so maybe u just need to do that to
start off with.
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Granps
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Nov 2004 Posts: 225 Location: Arlington, TX
Minute Men Posted: 11-16-04 00:30am
Kitty2luv
try going to http://www.Talksexwithsue.Com
use all lower case.
This lady is a nurse and can help you
understand more about your sexuality.
Stay focused on education. What grade
are you in and what do you hope to achieve
in life?Sexy men are a dime a dozen. Go
for independence.
Pattyv recommended a vib (rabbit- it has
other names, too. Check the web.) that
can help your sex obsession. This is a
vib that has a 6" penis and another vib
that touches your clit, too. This could
help cut down on your sexaul obsession w/
men.
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Tubby
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Aug 2004 Posts: 120
Posted: 11-16-04 00:42am
Assuming that this guy is either your age
or close to your age, I would suggest
trying an older man (you look quite young,
so maybe 35-40 wouldn't be too
unreasonable). Older men are more
experienced with women, more mature, and
don't act like little boys as much when it
comes to sex. Of course, this is assuming
you don't mind being with an older man.
And then there is the problem of finding
an older man who is available. Just a
thought.
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PosrscheLvr
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Oct 2004 Posts: 304 Location: Plano, Texas
Posted: 11-23-04 17:01pm
Ok all I am going to say is that is crap.
30 seconds??? If you have regular sex
after a while you can gain stamina. I
just think you should get rid of the guy
honestly. If someone is not willing to
take the time and effort to do it right
while you are in the bedroom, how is he
going to act towards the rest of life?
Tendencies tend to run and overlap into
different parts of life. You need someone
who wants to make you happy and who you
want to make happy. Until then, get rid
of the loser.
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starshyne530
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2004 Posts: 90 Location: NY
Posted: 11-24-04 00:15am
Get rid of the loser? That would be a
good decision if your entire relationship
was based on sex, and I hope it's not.
Anyway, assuming you have a healthy
relationship, you two need to sit down,
have a chat about it, and explore your
options. Vibrators and toys might help
out for you... But I would definitely
recommend the talk sex with sue website,
because she knows everything.
have fun kids!
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Hotness
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Nov 2004 Posts: 16 Location: Florida
Maybe Posted: 11-29-04 00:59am
Well, my boyfriend had this problem for a
while. We were long distance for a while
and when we got together, he could barely
get up and if he did it didn't last for a
while, either he'd cum or get soft. You
know the first thing that pops in my head
was that he was cheating but he swears up
and down on the bible and everything that
he's been faithful.
He told me that it's a mental thing. He
says he gets so worked up about wanting
things to be right and pleasurable to me,
that he doesn't realize that it stresses
him out. He also had some other issues
goin on in his life. I don't really
understand it, but things have gotten
better. I'm guessing because he's a lot
more comfortable with himself and his life
at this time. Ever since he's gotten a
new job, we rarely have these problems.
Maybe your man is stressed or has a
problem. Maybe he should see a doctor
about it. My man mentioned it to his
doctor and she reassured him that stress
and whatnot could do that. I think that
also eased his mind on top of the things
in his life getting better.
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Granps
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Nov 2004 Posts: 225 Location: Arlington, TX
Sexually Upset Posted: 11-29-04 02:25am
Make him lay still while you ride him.
(him on the bottom and you on top.)that
way you have control of your sexual
pleasure and you can control his climax by
sencing his. Don't let him move. (as
one lady suggested.) ) I can't let my lady
do this, without moving, but I do wait for
her to cum, before I let go. Really, my
total pleasure is to have her experience a
very good, heart throbbing climax. I
love the feeling, watching the expression
on her face and the wetness that she
produces.
Rock on, girl.......... Or dump his
ass.......
Foreplay dont
even have sex until you are ready to
climax if thats possible
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vc061370
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2004 Posts: 12 Location: West Palm,Fl.
Minute Man Got U Down? Posted: 11-29-04 20:03pm
Well maybe you should get him off first
than allow him to recover than have sex;
he will last longer or just go black, you
will never go back and you want have to
worry much about the 30 second & he's
flat.
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drexl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 37 Location: canada
Posted: 12-14-04 04:11am
Sorry I never got past around the hird
insensitive response I read the guys got
some problems, she didn't say that he was
trying to disrespect her, I really wish
some of you people would read the
questions before answering with your stale
sentiments.
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vc061370
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Nov 2004 Posts: 12 Location: West Palm,Fl.
the Truth Is Meant to Free the Mind Not Upset the Heart. Posted: 12-14-04 12:12pm
drexl
wrote:
sorry I never got past
around the hird insensitive response I
read the guys got some problems, she
didn't say that he was trying to
disrespect her, I really wish some of you
people would read the questions before
answering with your stale
sentiments.
wait a minute I thought you enlighten
canadian are supposed to be open minded
and all accepting you certainly can accept
gay wedlock but the mention of interacial
exploration upset you; it's like I always
heard having an interactions with
decendents of slave traders is like
having unprotected sex; you never know
what you are going to come in contact
with. :p want you great brit wanna
bees practice what you preach.
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lauren_prk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Dec 2004 Posts: 253 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 12-14-04 13:25pm
Most men have a problem with premature
ejaculation, I mean 30 sec. Is pretty
rediculas, but a lot of men are minute
men. Johnson & johnson are
researching a drug to help men with this,
and should be out with in the next few
years. I know that doesn't help now, but
it's better than nothing. Viagra and
other similar drugs do not help with this
problem, they help men get an erection,
not last longer, they will come in the
same amount of time, they will just stay
hard afterwords. Have you ever
masterbated??? Because you need to be
able to please yourself first. If it
tickles you when your man stimilates you,
do it yourself. Men can prolong there
orgasims, but husband does it all the
time. When he feels as though he's going
to cum, have him pull out and go down on
you or other fourplay acts. I don't think
it's possible for a relationship to last
when one isn't happy with the sex, so I
really hope this gets stratened out for
you.
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MyLoveBugs
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Dec 2004 Posts: 42
Min Man Posted: 12-14-04 22:07pm
I think that you should talk openly with
him. Talk to him about what you want
from him, and how it upsets you that he
really does not please you in bed. Like
say baby I want us to try this, or this is
what might our sexual life better.I really
do believe that when you can talk with
your man about anything it really helps
the relationship out. I am sorry that you
are having this problem, I know I did not
help that much but if you need to talk I
am here.
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xConfusedx
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Nov 2004 Posts: 32 Location: Michigan
Posted: 12-15-04 17:45pm
Well, I look at alot of guys when u tease
them its like wut already letten the flow
go...But now if your talking he goes 30
secs and goes limp then that boy has gotta
major problem! But who cares if he's a
minute man...As long as he can keep going
after the fact he done let it go...Gotta
give a few mins to let him get ready to go
awhile!!! Geeze dun diss on the min. Men
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lauren_prk
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Dec 2004 Posts: 253 Location: Wisconsin
Posted: 12-16-04 12:24pm
She already said that he says he'll go for
round two, but than when it comes down to
it he says he's too tired.
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