Pregnancy Forum - Right Time For Pregnancy/baby?

So....Here's my situation. I am currently a college senior, graduating in may. I'm 21 almost 22 years old and in good health. I have been married for almost 2 years and have been with my husband for 7. We are very happy together. Financially, we are doing okay. We have student loans, but no credit card debt, a decent apartment, and some savings.

So to get to the point...I have been having baby fever for the last several months. I love children, have spent a lot lot of time with them, and I really want to start considering getting pregnant. My husband is 3 years older than me and wants children soon as well. I am trying to think about this logically, and I keep telling myself that it's not right yet. We've been planning for me to go off the pill when my husband graduate college in october. But I can't help but get incredible pangs! It seems so far away. I even got a kitten to try and get rid of some of this and it hasn't helped. I want a baby. I am psychologically healthy, don't have any love issues or anything like that, so it's not like I just want a baby so that i'll have someone to love or something. I can't explain it. I just really want a child. I want to be a mother, I want to see my husband and I create a new life together....I want to take care of a child, I want it all.

How do you know when it's right? Is there any "good" time to have a baby? Advice? Is there anything you wish you'd done differently? Any things I should just focus on now to make the pregnancy and motherhood easier later? Any thoughts at all? :d thanks in advance,

jessyka

Replies(5)

jessamyn

replied on October 19th, 2004

Extremely eHealthy

First I was going to say no no no to you because I kept seeing you want a baby baby baby then I saw child and mother... As long as you know you and your husband are in it for the long run and are emotionally set to become "parents" then I say do it girl i'm 5 months pregnant and workign and all that so school shouldnt get in the way for now... Your ready your commited... Goodluck!

pitterpatter

replied on October 19th, 2004

Active User, very eHealthy

First off let me tell you I understand how you feel. Before my husband and I started trying we had to talk a lot about it. I am going to be a teacher and even though I can sub, if I got pregnant chances are I wouldn't want a full time job and I wouldn't be able to get one for awhile. If you talk to your husband and he's cool with everything and you've made a plan for what you will do than you should be fine. To be honest though a lot of people say to wait. However, I wanted to be a younger mom and I wasn't going to wait till I was 30 and birth defects jumped. With that said I say go for it. Besides, if you waited till it was a typical person's idea of a "good time" you'd be retired and old! Do what makes you happy and just make sure you have a plan for your future. Make sure you will be able to spend the time a child needs with it's mother and father. If you can make sure your child won't be the one that comes into my class acting up because of attention issues than go for it!

Dancinchick0587

replied on October 20th, 2004

Experienced User

Go for it! If it feels right and your husband whats this 2. You have everything in order I would say go for it. Start taking prenatal pills before you get pregnant. Even if you do start trying now, its not for sure that you will get pregnant right away. It might take months. Good luck ill wish you some baby dust!
-kindra

Dancinchick0587

replied on October 20th, 2004

Experienced User

One more thing, if you think your ready and everything. Before buy this book called what to expect when your expecting its a amazing book and goes into detail about everything. Also gives you advice on what you can do 2 prepare your self for your pregnancy 2 come. Good luck again!

rahel

replied on April 5th, 2009

New User

I am also trying to find out when the right time is and the only answer i got so far was, whenever you feel that itÂ´s time.
Looking forward to a family is for me both, joy and fear, will i be able to provide my child everything necessary for the life, will things work out financially and will i be able to find a work after the birth.
I am not even pregnant yet, but already trying to find a solution for all problems which might arise.
Also i tend to care too much about what others might think, i should stay with what i feel is right.
I hope everything is working out fine for you, that you have your baby by now and that you are doing great!

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