my partner and myself have been together
for coming up to two years and we are both
very very happy however I wanted to
ask for some advice on here from people
that invariably know more about this sort
of thing than I do.
I feel terrible for my partner as I know
that intercourse is almost always painful
for her.
we always have a substantial amount of
foreplay before penetration but I guess
dryness, one of the most common causes, is
not the culprit.
After a little research on the internet I
am sure that the problem is most likely
vaginismus as I know that she is terrified
of vaginal examinations and has as a
result never had a smear test (typical
traits of people with this condition).
Is there anyone out that can give me
advice or suggestons? Has anyone had a
similar problem and overcome it? If so
how? Do you think there could be another
explaination?
Any information would be greatly
appreciated.
Feel free to ask any questions that you
think would help.
I really want to get to the bottom of this
as soon as possible!
Thanks in advance
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BADSAL
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Sep 2004 Posts: 257 Location: PA
Posted: 10-20-04 08:24am
I'm sure this isn't what you want to hear
but she really needs to go get an
examination. It could be anything-
something simple or something more
complex. Call ahead and find a Dr. Who
will be sensitive to the fact that she is
very scared and nervous.
How old is she?
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blink
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Oct 2004 Posts: 3
Posted: 10-20-04 09:32am
Thank you for the quick reply...
Yes you are probably right,
she is 27 and very self conscious about
her body, I guess that is why it is
difficult for her.
Any other thoughts or comments from
anyone?
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misscamie20
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Oct 2004 Posts: 27 Location: ohio
Here to Help Posted: 10-20-04 10:25am
First thing that came to my mind was. You
need to make her feel comfortable first
and foremost and second of all if she is
27 and hasnt been to the doctor..... She
has to go ! No one likes it, its just
something shes got to do. If you can get
more info from her like does it burn,
bleed, smell, down there those type of
questions. Good luck to you and her. And
tell her to go see the doctor asap. :d
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Sweety1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Aug 2004 Posts: 34 Location: Canada
Posted: 10-22-04 01:08am
Hey blink!!
I need to tell you this, as I was in
exactly the same situation as your
partner. I'm not going to say that this
is what your partner has, it's just a to
let you know it's a possibility.
I had a condition called vestibular
adenitis. This is where there is an open
sore on the vaginal opening that heals and
forms scar tissue. With penetration, the
sore can become open again. It does not
have to be very big to hurt, as mine
wasn't that big. I did not even know
that anything was torn until the doctor
told me.
I was scared to go to the doctor because
it hurt like heck to go anywhere near the
area. Even when one finger was inserted,
it hurt like heck. However, I did go to
the doctor and was referred to an ob/gyn,
where he diagnosed me. I had to have
minor surgery to correct this. It was an
outpatient surgery.
Hope this helps a little.
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blink
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Oct 2004 Posts: 3
Posted: 10-25-04 05:03am
Hi sweety1, thanks for that.
and thanks to everyone else for comments
too.
I'm trying to persuade her to take that
first important step to see a doctor!
I'll let you know how it goes.
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Sweety1
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 28 Aug 2004 Posts: 34 Location: Canada
Posted: 10-26-04 11:49am
Great! I really do hope she takes the
first step and decides to go to the
doctor. It will be the best thing for
her to actually find out what is wrong.
I know I was relieved but terrified all at
the same time.
however I wanted to
ask for some advice on here from people
that invariably know more about this sort
of thing than I do.
