8 years after my long term marriage ended
I met a guy who has changed my mind about
re-marriage. We live together, are
(were) thinking of buying a new home
together, we make plans for the future
together - and I stupidly asked him the
marriage question. He is going through
difficulties with gaining contact with his
child from his marriage.
Well he said no when I broached the
subject yesterday and I feel shattered by
it. He is awy on business today and is
due back tomorrow night and I just want
not to be here.
Any advice?
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Jyng
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 16 Nov 2004 Posts: 3 Location: Washington, DC
My Advice, For What It's Worth Posted: 11-16-04 15:03pm
Take the "no big deal" approach. You
have a good thing going, you are happy
together. I know you want a commitment
but what's the hurry? He obviously has
some baggage he needs to work through, so
give him time, love him, and help him
through it, with no pressure.
If it is meant to happen, it will. If I
were him, I would want to come home to the
life we had built together so far, not
have to face pressure that I wasn't ready
to face, and to feel like we were in it
together, even if one of us (me) wasn't
ready to talk about marriage yet.
For you, my advice is to relax and take it
day-by-day. You are obviously happy or
wouldn't be thinking about marriage.
Enjoy what you have and see what happens,
who knows?
