I have been going
out with this guy since about 2 years ago,
everuthing started out great and then just
went down hill from there. We fight all
the time and the last two nights we have
been fighting his parents keep jumping in(
we live with his parents) his parents told
me I was a bad mom and to get out of there
haouse and that I am the problem with
everything in the house. They dont see
that there son is having other girls call,
that he calls me a female part of the body
and a syco nerd and a lazy ass. But I am
the one that is in the wrong. I cant do
this anymore I dont know what to do, I
have no place to go because my mom said I
cant move back in and no on e else wants
to help.
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Heathergirl
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004 Posts: 719 Location: Michigan
Posted: 10-21-04 11:52am
Well i'm sorry about the way things are
going! We're here to help!
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babyrae
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 2957 Location: Manitoba, Canada
Posted: 10-21-04 11:53am
U can turn to the government for help and
support. Do u have any friends?? His
parents shouldnt tret u like that and u
shouldnt stay with someone who treats u
like that. I hope u can find somewheres
else to stay
would u be able to delete some of these
posts?? I think theres like 7 of em
shauna
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GuitarJade
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2004 Posts: 330 Location: Pennsylvania
Posted: 10-21-04 12:00pm
Oh, honey... It's ok. I know that
sometimes parents only see what other kids
are doing wrong because they don't want to
admit that maybe their own flesh and blood
is at fault. I know that you don't think
that you have anywhere to go and that
nobody wants you, but you have to know
that's not true! All of us girls here
care about you and want to make sure that
you're doing ok. I know that things are
tough right now and I won't tell you that
things are going to become perfect
overnight because life just doesn't work
that way. I suggest that you sit down
with your boyfriend and his parents and
talk to them... See if you can work this
out calmly and rationally. And if they
just won't listen, get a mediator... A
counselor, teacher, pastor, trusted adult
etc. Are you preggy right now or did you
already have the baby? And I suppose that
the guy you are with is the father? Also,
how old are you and how old his he? I
know that this is a really rough time for
you right now, but remember... When
you've hit the bottom, there's nowhere to
go but up!
My mum has a list of laws (they're called
friday's laws) and they're really helpful
when it comes to tough stuff like
this...
1. Life is difficult.
2. Perception is reality.
3. Change is the toughest thing a human
being can do.
4. You can never change another human
being; you can only change yourself. Once
you change, they change, but you cannot
change them.
5. I am responsible for everything I do
and say. I am not responsible for your
response.
6. The future and the past are seldom as
good or as bad as we anticipate or
remember.
7. Nobody has a squeaky-clean psyche.
8. The only thing that lasts forever
is...Now.
If you ever need anything, feel free to pm
me or im me or anything!!! Don't sit back
and watch life go by without you. And as
much as I hate when people say this to
me... I know how you feel. I've been
there. After my parents got divorced my
whole life went downhill. 7 years later,
i'm still here and i'm glad I am. Please
please please talk to somebody!
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 10-21-04 12:02pm
Don't worry! They'll get what's coming to
them, and you'll get what's coming to you.
You'll be fine. We're here for you!
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 10-21-04 12:32pm
You don't deserve to get treated like that
at all what so ever! Try staying with
some friends....I wouldn't want to stay in
that hell whole for nothing!!
Im sorry you had to go through this!
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JeNNy985
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Oct 2004 Posts: 295 Location: INDIANA!!!
Posted: 10-21-04 12:39pm
Hello..My name is jennifer and i'm new
here! I just want to let you know that my
ex boyfriend was sooo mean to me and we
were together for 4 years! I told him
that I might be pregnant and he said that
he wanted me to fall, break my ribs, and
hopes that it makes me miscarry! Some
guys just don't understand how hurtful the
things they say really are! You don't
deserve any of it and don't think for one
second that you do! He should respect you
more than anybody because you are indeed
the mother of his child! Maybe you could
check into and homes that allow teen
mothers to stay at until they get on their
feet. I can't say that your mother is
wrong because I don't really know the
whole situation, but I know if my daughter
was treated like that I would atleast let
her stay with me until she got back on her
feet. Maybe if you talk to her about
giving you a time limit or something that
you can stay with her until you get
somewhere else to go that is more
permenant! Don't worry, you aren't alone!
We are all here for you and you will make
it!! Jenyb
eny13@hotmail.Com if you need to talk
privately girl!
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jessamyn
Moderator
Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4101 Location: San Diego, CA
Thanks: 11
Thanked:3
Posted: 10-21-04 14:04pm
Where r u now?
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nippz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 2173 Location: ,
Posted: 10-21-04 16:52pm
Wow, that's so ignorant of them to do
that.
I hope everything works out, but I mean
they should really be there for you,
especially your mother. Family should
always be there for you in the end. Plus,
like shauna said, you can go to the
gorvernment, like wic. Apply for
foodstamps and cashaid, that's what I did
goodluck with
everything, and yeah, where are you living
now?
I have been going
out with this guy since about 2 years ago,
everuthing started out great and then just
went down hill from there. We fight all
the time and the last two nights we have
been fighting his parents keep jumping in(
we live with his parents) his parents told
me I was a bad mom and to get out of there
haouse and that I am the problem with
everything in the house. They dont see
that there son is having other girls call,
that he calls me a female part of the body
and a syco nerd and a lazy ass. But I am
the one that is in the wrong. I cant do
this anymore I dont know what to do, I
have no place to go because my mom said I
cant move back in and no on e else wants
to help.
goodluck with
everything, and yeah, where are you living
now?