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kitty2luv
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Joined: 22 Oct 2004
Posts: 1089
Location: with my love
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Is It Wrong....
Posted: 10-22-04 13:10pm
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To have a friend w/ benifits???????
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Forum Girl
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Joined: 15 Oct 2003
Posts: 207
Location: Orlando, Florida
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Posted: 10-22-04 20:59pm
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Its not wrong - its just difficult to do.
Inevitably one of you ends up having
feelings for the other. Sometimes it
works out but sometimes the other person
has no feelings beyond friendship for the
other person and the friendship fails.
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brezzy87
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2004
Posts: 71
Location: new jersey
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I Kno
Posted: 10-22-04 23:10pm
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I dont have n e feeling for him and hes a
man prostitute so thigns are just no
feelings for now but I dontthink they will
grow I guess its a good thing
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kitty2luv
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004
Posts: 1089
Location: with my love
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Sry I Have 3 Names
Posted: 10-22-04 23:12pm
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I hate some ppl on here they think I am
lying about every thing I post so if u
have ne q's just ask and I will tell the
truth
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Daile
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004
Posts: 319
Location: Missouri
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Posted: 10-23-04 03:33am
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I don't think it's wrong to have a friend
with benefits, but it may be dangerous.
Because you two are not emotionally
involved, he will see no reason not to
have other "friends". This can lead to
you getting an std. Make sure to use
protection with your friend, so this won't
be such a worry.
Daile
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PattyV
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Location: Chicago area
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Posted: 10-23-04 11:56am
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It's not wrong,as long as everyone knows
that the situation is just for
fun.However, as someone else said,someone
almost always gets too attached or starts
to have feelings for the other person,
and then someone gets hurt.So,no I don't
feel it's wrong,sounds great on paper,but
in reality, having sex makes people feel
closer to their partner, and what you both
said would be a no strings attached
relationship ends up in knots.
Patty
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Jag
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Location: NY
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Posted: 10-24-04 18:55pm
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Yes, it's wrong. It's using someone
else's body, even if it's with their
consent! And you'll probably end up
getting hurt in some way, better avoid it.
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kitty2luv
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Joined: 22 Oct 2004
Posts: 1089
Location: with my love
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Yup
Posted: 10-24-04 19:14pm
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I used to get attached to my friends w/
benifits but I dont wanna do that anymore
too much drama to deal with when he/ she
is prolly doing other people
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sdwood2
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Jan 2004
Posts: 645
Location: KY
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Re: Yup
Posted: 10-24-04 23:50pm
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| kitty2luv
wrote: | | i used to get attached to my
friends w/ benifits but I dont wanna do
that anymore too much drama to deal with
when he/ she is prolly doing other
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well hes not your bf so you know he is
having sex with others
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SHM85
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Joined: 02 Sep 2004
Posts: 34
Location: United States
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Posted: 10-25-04 01:13am
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I believe its wrong because thats just
showing no respect for your body just
sleeping with someone for the fun of it
makes you look bad and makes the guy look
great. I dont want to put you down or
anything but the best thing is just to
keep your legs closed keeps you from
getting pregnant and getting stds, and
when the time comes for you to find true
love good guys love to settle with girls
that dont sleep around with random people
and have respect for themselves. I just
see to many of my friends getting hurt
from guys because they think when they
spread there legs for them that they will
find someone to love them or they just do
it for fun but they just get knocked up
with babies and get hurt all the time and
then those guys they just having one night
stands or whatever they just talks trash
about them behind there backs on how easy
they are and so on. Plz take my advice.
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kitty2luv
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Joined: 22 Oct 2004
Posts: 1089
Location: with my love
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I Will
Posted: 10-25-04 08:26am
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I know yr not putting me down yr just
trying to help thanks  yea I gotten hurt
alot but men and my friend has to we are
weeing ourself away from that like I met a
guy and he is sooo sweet and like me for
who I am and everything so I hope it works
out with me and him
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SHM85
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Location: United States
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Posted: 10-25-04 23:04pm
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Im glad to hear that, I hope things work
out good for you! 
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kitty2luv
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Joined: 22 Oct 2004
Posts: 1089
Location: with my love
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Yup
Posted: 10-27-04 15:57pm
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Me 2 but its too early 2 tell what happens
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Granps
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Nov 2004
Posts: 225
Location: Arlington, TX
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Is It Wrong
Posted: 11-12-04 07:53am
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Benifits??????? Not sure what you're
talking 'bout?
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BeckLyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2004
Posts: 476
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Posted: 11-12-04 10:23am
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I have a really good friend that firmly
believes in friends w/ benefits cuz she
got hurt in too many relationships. I
think its wrong if ur just trying to avoid
getting hurt. Getting hurt is how u grow
and change. Its part of life. However
I don't think its wrong in general. I
think its hard though. Depending on how
long it lasts someone is bound to get
attatched on accident. Just be careful.
"well hes not your bf so you know he is
having sex with others"
and just cuz its friends w/ benefits
doesn't mean that he is having sex with
other people-it just means he doesn't want
anything serious.
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Jocelyne
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Nov 2003
Posts: 121
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Posted: 11-12-04 10:44am
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There's one big problem with friends with
benefits someone usually falls for the
other person usually the girl and that
wrecks not only being friends with
benefits but a friendship as well. I'd
really think it over before....Is it going
to be worth losing if things go bad????
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kitty2luv
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Joined: 22 Oct 2004
Posts: 1089
Location: with my love
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Posted: 11-12-04 14:48pm
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Well as long as I dont have b/f feeling
for him I should be ok
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BeckLyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2004
Posts: 476
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Posted: 11-12-04 14:51pm
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But what if he gets gf feelings for u?
Then u end up hurting him....
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kitty2luv
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004
Posts: 1089
Location: with my love
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Posted: 11-12-04 16:23pm
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Hi dont have b/f feelings for him and he
is a kool guy but I dont kno he think im
stupid and I know he trying to be smart
about it but its all good cuz im not that
dumb 
he thinks I am hahaha men are the dumb 1s
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sheeridinprincess
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2004
Posts: 98
Location: Oregon
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Posted: 11-12-04 17:09pm
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I've had a firend with benefits once. We
never had sex I was a virgin but friends
with benefits where I am from I a great
friend who you do alot of stuff with and
cuddle with from time to time kiss but not
just have sex and it was fine until I met
my boyfriend and well he didnt' like it
they didnt get along and now my boyfriend
is afraid if I have guy friends there
might be more going on.
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