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pitterpatter
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Posted: 10-24-04 17:21pm
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If you were married and your friend had
been informed that your spouse was messing
around with people through internet using
nude photo's and such would you want to
know. Even though you had been told
before you got married that this spouse of
yours had done this with one person
before. I'm concerned for a friend who I
know has been told about this one person.
Come to find out that they probably don't
know that this thing has happened with
about 9 other people. Would you want
your friend to tell you I guess is what
i'm trying to get at? Or should your
friend go to your mom because your mom
know's about the first incident. This
way your mom can relay the info on to you
confidentially.
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2ferano
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Posted: 10-24-04 17:23pm
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If it were my friend, they better f-ing
tell me!
In my opinion this whole internet love/sex
thing is cheating. What she chooses to
do with the info is up to her, but if this
person who knows is a real friend, then
they would tell her.
That is just disgusting. People are
turning marriage into a joke.
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sparklypixie12
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Posted: 10-24-04 17:24pm
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| hotasfrick
wrote: | | that is just disgusting.
People are turning marriage into a
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another good point there angie!
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 10-24-04 17:30pm
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Well, my feeling right now is this person
is trying to get a green card because she
had asked like five or more men on a forum
to move in with them and be a couple. My
friend was the only one to give in to her,
but he was really depressed during this
time. My friend I think only know's
about one person I don't think he know's
about the rest.
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 10-24-04 17:35pm
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Even if this was a friend that you haven't
really talked to much for the past year.
Ever since he broke up with my bestfriend
he's been distant. I'm really worried
about him. I'm afraid she's planning on
leaving him after she get's her card.
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2ferano
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Posted: 10-24-04 17:38pm
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Well, if he realizes that this is the only
reason for the marriage and is just doing
it for her then okay. But if he actually
loves/cares for this women then that is
just f-ed up. And make sure he knows the
legal trouble he can get in for marrying
her just so she can get her green card.
I still think you should tell him,
regardless. He deserves to know. What
is wrong with this woman?
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 10-24-04 17:42pm
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I think he really does love her. I plan
on tell him, but I know how pissed off
he's going to get so i'm thinking about
going through his mom who already knows
about the first one and she can get it
through to him if she needed to. She's
the only one he's been really close to.
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Kia
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Posted: 10-25-04 05:06am
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Marriage and relationships are based on
trust, if she can't ask him if it is true
and be assured of an honest answer then
she should tell him to leave.
I have had sexy conversations over the
internet, and flirted and himself knows
and is ok because we have trust and he
knows it is only a bit of fun - I would
never ever follow it up.
In fact often he will be there as well and
we will make our end of it up together.
Honesty is where it is at.
I know if some one told me that he was
fooling around the first thing I would do
is ask him, tell him what I had been told
and ask for his side of it.
People stir and like to try to come
between people.
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bellax0x
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Posted: 10-25-04 06:10am
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Id want her to tell me. But if she was
embarrased or didnt want to for some
reason I understand. Its her problem so
she should be able to deal with it however
she wants..
<3
gaby
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jessamyn
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Posted: 10-25-04 12:32pm
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Hell ya id wanna know jackasses hahah
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 10-25-04 18:38pm
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Well, the friend is a guy actually and I
guess the first time he was told about it
he only knew of like two people. He said
he didn't really care, but when he told
his wife about it she flipped. So I
don't know if he allows it or not. I
don't think he believes these people
because he said he thinks they made stuff
up. Well, my husband has emailed him
telling him that he's heard it from more
than just two people and that they have
absolutely no reason to lie. These
people have known him longer than his wife
has so there's no reason for them to lie.
Anyways, so everyone is trying to get it
through to him, but we'll see if he
believes him or not.
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Daile
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Posted: 10-25-04 23:54pm
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Well, i'm not married, but i've been in a
similar situation with my ex-boyfriend.
My friends didn't tell me, because they
were also friends with the girl, and it
ruined everything! I was so mad when I
found out that they were keeping it from
me that I haven't talked to them since
(and it's been almost three years). I
think you should talk to him, and make him
listen. And you know, he might want to
consider checking the history on his
computer. I don't know how, but there is
a way to bring it up even after someone
deletes it...That way he'll have proof
that he can't deny.
Daile
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 10-26-04 00:06am
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Well, my hubby has access to a lot of info
on the forum they belong to and he found a
private message sent from our friends mom
to the wife. I guess his mom had found
out that she had been using the phone she
let her son borrow to call her ex in n.Y.
She racked up the bill to 300 dollars.
His mom is very mad about all of this and
she didn't want to put her son in the
middle of it anymore. I guess my friends
wife made up some lie that matt was the
one making all these calls, but when she
got the records she knew she was lyeing.
So anyways, we emailed him a message
telling him how we felt and what we knew
and why we believed these people. I
guess we'll see what happens.
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