Tonite my boyfriend confessed to me that
he has fear of commitment, he said
everything would be goign great then all
of sudden he wont' want it anymore..He
thinks alot of it has to do with his bro
cause his bro was with someone for seven
year and then bro ke up and then got
married and hates his wife and is just
with her cause of the kids and he's
afraid that will happen to him, we have
long distance thing so its hard already im
not sure what to do, cause I love him so
much I dont want to break up with him, but
then I don't also want to just be
investing my time and feelings to be
dumped in the end, he's said hes' felt a
few mixed emotions where when I was here
he wised I wasnt' but once I was gone he'd
miss me, so I dont know anymore, I love
him and dont want to lose him, but I dont
know how to make him feel better about
this, he's had so many messed up
relationships in the past its like messed
up his mind..Please help!!
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Daile
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004 Posts: 319 Location: Missouri
Posted: 10-28-04 04:46am
I have the same problem with my boyfriend.
Just be yourself, and let him know that
you love him, and under no condition would
you do anything to hurt him. Most guys
who have a fear of commitment have it
because they've been hurt, or, like your
guy, have seen someone get hurt. Let him
know that you won't ever hurt him, and
that you are willing to take your time
with the relationship. Don't push him to
do anything he doesn't want to do, and
eventually he'll realize that you're
right. I know my boyfriend is starting to
figure it out!
Daile
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firefly02
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 Aug 2004 Posts: 13
Posted: 10-28-04 07:59am
Hey thanks, we have talked it out a bit,
we haven't exactly come to conclusion the
most he said was if he starts to feel that
way maybe we could distance away from
eachother for awhile, like break but not
break up, he knows i've been bothered by
this but he told me by worrying its goign
to make things worse which he's right
because I worry to much, he told me he
loves me and wants to be with me and will
work try to work it out if it comes down
to that, that should mean something eh?
The fact he wants to work it out shows he
wants to be with me...
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bhabe
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2006 Posts: 9 Location: florida
Posted: 11-20-06 00:05am
Lame excuses !! He is not ready for
commenments he only wants sex with you,
thats all.If he cannot make up his mind
drop the bun and find someone else who can
treat you good...
