My boyfriend gets mad at me because I
always talk about wanting marriage and
kids all the time and we are engaged but
no plans for marriage anytime soon. He
said we are to young im 21 that does not
seem young to me is it normal for me to
want a baby so bad and want marriage at my
age?
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Girrly
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Sep 2004 Posts: 113 Location: canada
Posted: 10-26-04 10:08am
I think it all depends on the ppl. You
may be ready but maybe he isn't. Don't
force him into something he doesn't want.
He won't be happy. I don't think its
wrong for you to want those things at your
age. I was married and pregnant at 21.
However my husband wanted the same thing.
You should just wait until he's ready.
If your already engaged he made the
promise to marry you. My friends we're
engaged for 4 years before they got
married and had kids. The thing is you
both have to be ready and want it or else
it will never work out and one of you or
both of you will end up being miserable.
Don't talk about it with him. If you
have to talk about it try to do it with
your friends. Hope things get better.
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 10-26-04 14:17pm
Just take things slow, when you are both
ready, it will happen.
-kristin
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Ixannahsmom
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Jul 2004 Posts: 200 Location: Oregon
Posted: 10-26-04 15:35pm
I agree, it will happen when it's right,
and it's totally normal for you to want
babies and to be married. However if your
man is not ready don't force the subject
becuase if he is doing something he is not
ready to do you will both end up un-happy
and who wants that?? It will all happen
in good time :d
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bluebubble888
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Oct 2004 Posts: 499
Posted: 10-26-04 17:33pm
21 is not too young at all!! I'm 19
right now and cannot wait untill I can
marry and have children!! I've been with
my boyfriend for the past 2 and a half
years and we basically know it's gonna
happen someday! He and I are both in
college right now and are still supported
by our parents. While I know I could get
married if I want to, i've decided to wait
untill at least my junior year. That way
by then he will be getting ready for his
carrer and we will both be able to have a
beautiful wedding and then support a baby
on our own! Whatever age you feel in
your heart is appropriate exactly what age
is right for you. However if your
boyfriend dosnt see it that way than im
afraid you'll either have to wait untill
he makes something happen, or maybe find
someone with your plans!! Good luck with
everything!! :d
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nippz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 2173 Location: ,
Posted: 10-26-04 17:50pm
Take your time, dont rush. Maybe he's
not ready to have a baby, and don't force
him too either. Maybe he can't take the
responsibility of raising a family, let
alone marrige. Marriage is hard to
adjust to and its better if you take your
time instead of rushing because young
couples that get married always end up
fighting and getting a divorce, so if you
really really think your ready, then tell
him. If you think u can take all the
responsibilties then go for it. 21 is
not too young to get married, but it's not
exactly the right time either. Wait till
your a little older, that's just my
opinion. Like if you two have both stable
jobs and know where your future is headed
to, then go for it! I hope everything
works out with you two ~
