Ok me and my boyfriend have sex a lot, I
mean almost every night and I have been
fine until 2 nights ago it started hurting
me, it felt like he was going too deep
and hurting the baby. I havent had this
problem before why is it hurting now? We
havent tried to have sex since because he
is afraid of hurting me again, will this
go away or is there a reason its hurting
did he do something wrong??
Hey. I'm not an exzpert but I am sure
everything is ok. Maybe just at this
point you are having a little trouble but
I don't think it's anything serious.
Maybe just go a lil slower next time and
if the problem persists or worsens, see a
doc.
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 10-26-04 13:56pm
Hey girlie- I found a little bit of
information for you!
when should I avoid
sex?
Assuming your pregnancy is normal and
low-risk, you shouldn't have to say no to
a roll in the hay. In fact, many couples
continue their sex life right up to their
baby's delivery. Neither intercourse nor
orgasm poses a threat to a healthy
pregnant woman or her baby. The thick
mucus plug that seals the cervix during
pregnancy helps guard against infection.
And the baby is well protected by the
fluid-filled amniotic sac and strong
uterine muscles.
However, if you're having a high-risk
pregnancy or your practitioner anticipates
any complications, you may have to forgo
sex. (and of course, if you notice any
unusual symptoms during or following
intercourse, such as pain or discharge,
call your doctor or midwife before having
sex again.)
because orgasm can cause mild uterine
contractions (as can the prostaglandins in
semen), most doctors and midwives will
advise against intercourse if you have any
of the following conditions: an increased
risk for miscarriage
placenta previa or a very low-lying
placenta
a history of preterm birth
premature labor if you're less than 36
weeks pregnant
unexplained vaginal bleeding or
discharge
abdominal cramping
an "incompetent cervix"
a dilated cervix
ruptured membranes (your water has
broken)
an unhealed herpes lesion in either you
or your partner, or the presence of any
other sexually transmitted disease. In
this case, abstain from sex until you and
your mate have been treated and a
follow-up test shows you're both free of
disease. If your partner is hiv positive,
and you have sex while you're pregnant
especially without a condom you could be
putting yourself and your baby at risk for
contracting the disease.
If you have to forego sex, don't despair:
you can still kiss, engage in creative
foreplay, give each other long massages,
and share your feelings for each other.
can I have sex
while i'm pregnant?
Absolutely. With a normal pregnancy, you
can keep doing it right up until your
water breaks. Do check with your doctor
or midwife first if you've been treated
for premature labor or if you're having
any problems with your pregnancy, such as
a shortened or dilated cervix, leaking
amniotic fluid, placenta previa, or
bleeding, or if you have a history of
miscarriages. There are some instances
when you should avoid having sex.
But as long as your pregnancy is normal,
you won't hurt the baby by making love,
even with your partner on top. The thick
mucus plug that seals the cervix helps
guard against infection. The amniotic sac
and the strong muscles of the uterus also
protect your baby. Though your fetus may
thrash around a bit after orgasm, it's
because of your pounding heart, not
because he knows what's happening or feels
pain.
Will it feel as good?
Even better for some women, not as good
for others. Increased blood flow to the
pelvic area can cause engorgement of the
genitals and heighten the sensation. But
the same engorgement gives other women an
uncomfortable feeling of fullness after
intercourse ends. Also, some women may
have abdominal cramps during or after
intercourse. Your breasts may become
enlarged and can be more tender, which can
cause discomfort when they're fondled.
You may have more vaginal discharge or
moistness, which can make sex either more
pleasurable or can result in some vaginal
irritation. If you notice a sudden change
in the amount of vaginal discharge or a
foul or unusual odor, check with your
practitioner. You could have a vaginal
infection or your bag of waters may have
broken. When your water breaks, you may
feel a slow leak rather than a gush of
fluid all at once.
I haven't really been in the mood since I
got pregnant. Is this normal?
Yes, it can be. The big changes in your
body are bound to change your sex life.
Some women, finally free from worries
about conception and contraception, feel
sexier than ever. But others are just too
tired or nauseated to make love,
especially in the first trimester. The
second trimester is often marked by a
resurging libido. Your desire may wane
again in the third trimester as birth,
labor, and your belly loom large, or you
may simply feel unattractive or tired.
Will my partner's sex drive change?
Most people find their pregnant partner as
attractive as ever. But your partner's
desire may be dampened by concerns for
your health and the baby's, apprehension
about the burdens of parenthood, fear that
sex can hurt the baby, or even
self-consciousness about making love in
the presence of your unborn child.
Is oral sex safe?
Yes, oral sex won't harm you or your baby,
provided you're in a monogamous
relationship where both you and your
partner are hiv-negative. In fact many
consider it a nice substitute if
intercourse is deemed too risky. If
you're not sure what your partner's hiv
status is, then you need to use a dental
dam (a sheet of latex that you place
between your genitals and your partner's
mouth) because there's some evidence
suggesting that a person may be able to
transmit hiv through micro-abrasions or
tiny cuts in his mouth.
Which positions are the most
comfortable?
Here are some time-tested positions and
tips for making love while you're
pregnant:
lie sideways. Having your partner on
top demands increasingly creative
gymnastics as your tummy swells. But
lying partly sideways allows your partner
to keep most of his weight off your
uterus.
use the bed as a prop. Your bulge isn't
an obstacle if you lie on your back at the
side or foot of the bed with your knees
bent, and your bottom and feet perched at
the edge of the mattress. Your partner
can either kneel or stand in front of
you.
lie side-by-side in the spoon position,
which allows for only shallow penetration.
Deep thrusts can become uncomfortable as
the months pass.
get on top of your partner. It puts no
weight on your abdomen and allows you to
control the depth of penetration.
have your partner enter you from a
sitting position, which also puts no
weight on the uterus. Try sitting on your
partner's lap as he sits on a sturdy
chair.
Have faith where there's a will, there's
a way. With a little experimenting, you
and your partner are sure to find a
technique that works for you.
Hope this helps,
-kristin
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adormer221
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Sep 2003 Posts: 309 Location: colorado
Posted: 10-26-04 14:06pm
Idbaby do u really tyoe all that stuff
out? Man its alot, and its everytime
someone asks a question you type a novel
lol....I mean its very nice but man thats
alot of typng and alot of reading.
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
Posted: 10-26-04 14:19pm
She prolly just copys and pases lol but
she always has good answers.
<3
gaby
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 10-26-04 14:22pm
Lol, hell no. Sometimes I will type some
of it, but a lot of the time its copied
and paste. There are times, I will type
stuff out of my dozen of pregnancy books.
But, I will always and I mean always find
the answer. hehe.
Yes it did actually, I think it was
hurting because he was going too deep in
me, sometimes he gets a little wild and
will go fast and hard, I feel that is why
it was hurting like that. I hope its not
going to stay like that cause I dont think
I could stand not having sex! Haha I
turned into a little nympho since I got
pregnant, it does feel more intense
though! Sorry maybe a little tmi!
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 10-26-04 15:11pm
I have read so many books on pregnancy,
first I use the internet, then I go to my
books, and between the two...I will find
you an answer.
you know what though, make sure you dont
go too hard. When my boyfriend and I had
sad when I was around 14 weeks pregnant we
had sex and then I started to bleed. It
was really bad. Be careful!
Hey you might know the answer to this,
can being constipated have anything to do
with the pain because I was constipated a
little the other day and I remember one
other time before I even got pregnant I
was constipated and sex seemed to hurt a
little. Just wondering if that could be
a cause of it? If that is the case then
I am a-ok today because I finally got all
of that out of me, haha sorry tmi again!
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 10-26-04 15:48pm
Hey becca-yes, I think that might be one
of the reasons, you may be experiencing
pain. Dont worry about tmi...Nothing
bothers me hehe
common reasons for painful sex in women
infections like cystitis and thrush.
Usually causes a burning pain, soreness or
low abdominal pain.
Menopause causes hormonal changes that can
lead to poor lubrication in the vagina.
This can result in a feeling of tightness
or a pinching sensation during sex. Hrt
often improves lubrication and prevents
this problem.
Allergies to products you use on your
clothes or skin, like soap and talcum
powder, can cause a burning pain.
Changing the products you use will cure
the problem.
Scars after childbirth or from surgery can
cause a brief but sharp pain as the man
enters the woman. Ensure you take full
advantage of postnatal check-ups and
mention any concerns to your health
visitor.
First experience of sex often causes a
short, sharp pain as the hymen is broken.
Very occasionally parts of the hymen
remain after the first sexual experience
and can cause ongoing discomfort during
sex.
bowel problems like
severe constipation may result in a pain
deep inside the vagina or on one side of
the vagina.
Womb problems may cause a mild to moderate
pain deep inside during sex.
Stress or anxiety may result in the vagina
feeling tight and dry. This can create a
vicious cycle where the woman fears the
pain, leading to greater anxiety, leading
to more pain.
Tiredness or lack of arousal the woman
may be too tired to enjoy sex and so
unable to respond to arousal. Sex when
this is the case will feel uncomfortable
because of a lack of adequate lubrication.
Vaginismus is a condition where the
muscles at the entrance to the vagina shut
tightly, preventing penetration. This is
usually a psychological problem brought
about by a previous trauma for example
rape - or other concerns about sex.
Attempts to have sex are often extremely
painful and are usually abandoned.
Hey thank you so much kristen you have
been so helpful to me, I hope you dont
think I ask too many questions! Thank
you! :d
~becca
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 10-26-04 15:59pm
You are welcome. So next time try getting
it all out, then have sex. If you are
still having pain, then you know that isnt
it. Oh dont worry becca, I am more than
happy to be able to help. I like finding
answers to questions anyways. I always
get to learn something new, or I get to
help people. Hehe.
-kristin
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lauren22
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Jun 2004 Posts: 647 Location: Alabama
Posted: 10-26-04 16:27pm
Yeah constipation could definately be the
reason! Try to eat more fiber and drink
more water...That should definately help!
A good way to get fiber is when you are
hungry during the day...Eat dry cereal!
Find one that you like and you can snack
on! But yeah....Fiber and water build
"bulk" and that makes you go easier!
when should I avoid
sex?
hehe.
