Hi everyone, I am new here at the board.
I am 19 and 25 wks pregnant. I am not
with the biological father and haven't
talked to him since I kicked him out at 2
1/2 months. I am back with the guy I was
with before the babys dad. But we have
had some problems. Big ones. He told
me once that he wanted me to give up my
baby. Yeah right! I could never do
that. He constantly throws it in my face
that I messed up. But after we have
these fights and I am bawling he finnallt
tells me he is sorry and he never meant
any of it... He tells me he never will
say anything like it again... But it
never fails he is always bringing it up
somehow... Now we are getting married
10-29-04...2 days and I will be a married
woman!!! Aaahhh!!!! And he wants me to
put his name on the birth certificate....I
have no problem with that but could I get
in trouble if the real father doesn't
approve??? I already am giving it his
last name and his first name is gonna be
the babys middle name.... I just know the
biological father is gonna flip after he
finds all that out... Oh I am finnally
moving outta my mothers house in the
beginning of november... So much going
through my head!!!!! Just wanna scream...
I am gonna be a lonely pregnant girl
because my soon to be husband works till
4pm to 1 am and I work 11 am to 4om... So
sad!!! I will be home alone all the
time... I also have depression/anxiety
and bipolar disorder..... Still sometimes
a cutter... But not as much... I just
hate being alone all the time... Well I
got to get going.... This is getting to
long....
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
Posted: 10-27-04 20:29pm
Stick with us!!! It will be okay. You
can get into trouble if you put his name
on it and he isnt the real father, I
think. Everything will work out honey
just relax...Its hard on everyone right
now.
-kristin
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lilangel2905
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Oct 2004 Posts: 225 Location: PA
Posted: 10-27-04 20:41pm
Well if I don't put my husbands name on it
then it will be blank... There is no way
the real fathers name is going on it... I
am also not going after him for child
support either... I want nothing to do
with him...
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GuitarJade
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2004 Posts: 330 Location: Pennsylvania
Posted: 10-27-04 21:24pm
Best to leave it blank than lie... I'm
pretty sure you can get into real trouble
for doing that! Good luck and stick
around... We'll take care of ya!
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 10-27-04 23:39pm
You could always just say that you
"thought* your hubby was the real father
when you filled out the form. There can't
be a law against being ill-informed! Tell
your ex you made a mistake and from the
dates it couldn't have been his, etc, etc.
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lilangel2905
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Oct 2004 Posts: 225 Location: PA
Posted: 10-27-04 23:43pm
I actually thought about doing that....
There was this one time about the time I
got pregnant.... We were all at a party
and biological father left because he was
pissed and I just hung around with my
fiance... I could tell my ex that I slept
with him... But I was thinking he would
still want a blood test... I can say no
to the blood test till he takes me to
court... Right?
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
Posted: 10-27-04 23:47pm
Not if the judge thinks he has a good case
and orders you to submit to one. Then
you'd have to take it or be in contempt of
court and go to jail! Of course, there's
always the chance that your ex wouldn't
care about the baby and would just leave
you alone, or would believe you and
wouldn't fight it. The alternative is
you get ordered to take a blood test and
they find out its his, and you just say
"oh my gosh I had no idea." i'd say the
chance of him *not* fighting it is worth
it.
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lilangel2905
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Oct 2004 Posts: 225 Location: PA
Posted: 10-27-04 23:53pm
I have a feeling that after he finds out
the babys name he won't want nothing to do
with it... My baby is being named after
my husband to be... I just have this
feeling he will be so pissed that he will
be like my kid's name is not _____. You
know?
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nippz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 2173 Location: ,
Re: to Much Stress!!! Posted: 10-28-04 00:22am
Stress it not good during pregnancy, it
can lead to bad things. But anyway, look
on the bright side, your about to have a
baby (: be happy!
Im ka, 14 years old & 30wks pregnant
tom. Welcome to the boards, u'll get very
addicted, lol. Congradulations on the
pregnancy!
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JeNNy985
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Oct 2004 Posts: 295 Location: INDIANA!!!
Posted: 10-28-04 10:31am
First off...I'm only 19 and you may not
think I know what i'm talking about or
maybe I really don't know what i'm talking
about but you said your soon to be husband
keeps pretty much verbally and emotionally
abusing you...Says he's sorry..But fails
to keep his promise about doing it again.
Maybe there are some issues you need to
work out before you get married. If he is
always going to hold this grudge against
you for keeping another mans baby then
your marriage won't be as happy and
healthy as it could be ya know? As far as
the birth certificate goes...Since the
biological father acts like he doesn't
want anything to do with the baby then I
would just leave it blank then maybe later
down the line you can bring up the idea of
your new husband maybe adopting the child.
It's seems the safe way to go!
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