Joined: 24 Jul 2003 Posts: 2 Location: Louisville, Ky
My Boyfriend cheated and I'm Pregnant Posted: 07-24-03 12:34pm
I'm about to be 17 and I am 3 months
pregnant. My boyfriend is in jail and
serving 2 months. A couple days after he
got locked up, I found out he had been
lying to me. He was saying he was staying
at a GUY friend's that I knew. I found out
by 4 different people that he had been
picking up this girl,I specifically told
him to stay away from, and taking her
every where and staying at her house. When
he called I confronted him and he admitted
it, apologized, and started crying and
pleading. Well the next day I found out he
had sex with her 3 Times(including oral
for her) and had told her we were broke
up, they also was unprotected. This girl
is not a normal one, she is the
get-around-girl. Meaning, not only if she
had a disease, he would have it down there
and in his mouth. Those days that he
cheated on me he had been coming to me,
not only risking my life, but my baby's
too. I despise him so much for this, but I
would hate to have an abortion then find
out later that it was the only kid I could
have had. It just seems like my luck, to
have miscarriages or complications. The
decision I want to make, is to have the
baby, but take all his rights as a legal
father, away. I know its wrong, but if he
didnt care to think about the baby when he
was havin sex with her, then what's the
problem. Besides, Idon't want my child
around him and the diseases he'll catch if
he continues. Help me make up my
mind........TornDecision!!!
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gecko123x
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Joined: 24 Jul 2003 Posts: 1 Location: Firebaugh, CA
He cheated on you! Leave him! Posted: 07-24-03 15:41pm
I don't have experience in these kinds of
situations, but in my opinion you should
leave him and start a new life with your
new born child. He slept with another
girl and may had got a disease, yet he
didn't listen to you when you told him to
stay away and to stop taking her
everywhere. You should worry about your
child first and leave your boyfriend alone
because maybe in the future he wouldn't
listen to you like he did in the situation
with the girl.
Courteously.
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Phaedra Jones
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Joined: 24 Jul 2003 Posts: 2
He cheated. you don't need him Posted: 07-24-03 23:45pm
As I was reading your message I feel your
pain. I was in a similar situation at your
age which was 11 plus years ago. I did in
up having a miscarriage and it was not
fun. I was 5 months pregnant. it's not
something you want to experience
especially if you plan to keep this child.
Being pregnant is not easy and your body
should be important to you don't let
stress and no good people cause you pain.
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SpRiNkLz1025
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Joined: 25 Jul 2003 Posts: 4 Location: North Brunswick
Posted: 07-25-03 10:35am
you kno what i have to say, dont stress
what he is doin and the situation. the
more you are stressed out the more there
is a chance for complications. im 16 an
pregnant and im probably going through
more sh*t than you. i cant get health
insurance and i was dropped from my
parents and my bf dont have any either so
it wouldnt do much to get married, and
even worse, the state wont help me cuz
they feel my parents should pay for the
bills then, but he cheated on me and i
just said whatever cuz there is no point.
I stopped having sex with him and
fortunately they check you for diseases
and hiv when you have your first real
visit at the doctors. if yours didnt, go
somewhere to get tested just in case.
unfortunatly if you are planning on
getting child support money he is goin to
be able to see his child. you really dont
need him or someone like him there are
many people out there that will help you
and it may be easier and less stressful to
take responsibility on your own.
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Willeewhopp
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Joined: 25 Jul 2003 Posts: 7 Location: Sycamore, IL
Parental Rights Posted: 07-25-03 20:33pm
Unfortunately, depending on the state you
live in, if you want to get child support
from him, he will have visitation rights
until he royally screws up. I would
suggest talking to a family lawyer before
you make your final decision. One of the
reasons I had an abortion was because my
ex would have had custodial rights and I
didn't want any child to go through what I
went through with him. And he was also in
jail, so that doesn't necessarily matter.
The way the courts are set up, you get
rights on the assumption that you will
keep your problems away from your
children.
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prittichick
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Joined: 01 Aug 2005 Posts: 5 Location: philippines
Yeah, Leave Him!!! Posted: 08-01-05 02:04am
It wouldnt do anything good if you still
go for him. You've seen for yourself how
bad he is. How he have been cheating on
you. Love yourself first, now that your
pregnant, try to focus in things that
would be better for your and your baby's
health! Good luck.
When you have your baby dont have his name
put on the birth certificate, therefor he
has no rights.
My sister done it with her baby, he tried
to take her kid and she called the cops
and he got arrested.
:lol:
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juda
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Joined: 06 Aug 2005 Posts: 5
Posted: 08-06-05 10:03am
If your not intrested in child support
then dont write his name on the birth
certificate and tell him you were
cheating so that he wont look into it..
Your better off than if you were to
continue with him and have this person
screw you over for the rest of your life..
Its very easy to get stuck in a
situation with a person like that..
They'll make him pay child support now, or
in 12 years. Either way he'll get nailed
with it.
If he tries to take the baby, take him to
court and say he's an unfit father. Since
being in jail is a bad start, i'm sure the
judge with think so aswell.
Or, if you don't even care about
childsupport yet, you can either give the
hospital a fake name when you give birth,
or you can tell them that you dont know
who the father is, sounds nasty but when
it comes to your kid....You know what I
mean!
My boyfriend passed away 2 weeks before I
found out, i'll get a check every month
for him doing so since i'm having his
baby. But, i've decided to give the
hospital a fake name anyways, so his dad
won't be able to have any rights.
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seksiHily
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Joined: 04 Apr 2005 Posts: 1015 Location: MN
Posted: 08-06-05 16:57pm
If you give a fake name, then you wont be
getting support.
