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How Do I Know If I'm Depressed
Posted: 11-01-04 16:58pm

This year has been tough for me. Lately it seems like even when i'm with 7 other people, I feel the most alone, and out of place. Even when i'm volunteering and around all these people, I try and put on a smile, but once i'm back alone, I still feel out of place. Its also hard because I feel like I can't talk to anyone about it. Nowadays, I either are helping out my friends constantly trying to help keep them alive and its wearing me down because it makes me think whats the point of me living. Also, for the last year i've been cutting myself, because there has been so much to deal with. One of my friends tried to kill himself this summer, my parents are alcoholics in denial and I know they don't care how it feels because when I tell them all they do is pity me and tell me I need help. My nana died this year and I just can't take it anymore. For the first time in my life, im failing almost all of my classes and I just don't care about it anymore. I just don't know what to do anymore. Help Crying
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Posted: 11-02-04 10:46am

Sounds like you are definetly experiencing depression. If you talk to your doctor, they will probaly prescribe you something and refer you to a counsellor or "shrink". If you do that, please remember to give it a chance. These things take time to work or it takes a few tries to find the right "click" with a counsellor. Check out all your resources and be patient.
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Posted: 11-03-04 10:19am

Hi nahgem4,

i'm guessing from your posting that you're rather young (high
school perhaps). A lot of the things you're experiencing are definitely related to your age. It's a very confusing time in life. If you're cutting yourself, you should definitely go talk to a school counselor and your doctor as well, but you need to talk to a specialist and let them know what is going on in your life. If your parents have a drinking problem, you need to let a specialist know that as well and perhaps they will suggest some sort of aa family group for you to attend. I feel bad for you and understand dysfunction in the family because I had the same sort of problems. The best thing you could do for yourself is seek professional help and also try and get your grades up again and focus on school and obtaining your diploma and go to college. The better educated you are, the better your life will be down the road and perhaps a career in pyschology would be a good avenue for you to help others in similar situations. Get to a doctor and find out what the headaches are for. Dont worry about anything else right now until you get your mental health and grades back in check. The problems now seem overwhelming, but believe me someday this will pass and the best way to help yourself is to do well in school and keep your health. Think of how you would like your life to be in 10 years and believe me what you do now will determine if you reach the goals or not. 10 years goes really fast although at 15 or however old you are, it seems like an eternity. Please contact me if you need moral support and please go see a doctor/counselor asap! They are trained to help you and they should help you without judgement. Do it today! Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Posted: 11-04-04 15:24pm

Well, i'll try to bring up some of my grades, but I don't really want to admit to my parents to take me somewhere, because i'll feel like they will never leave me alone and watch me closely when sometimes I just want to be alone. How do I tell them to take me to a doctor when I don't think I have as much as a big problem as they do?
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Posted: 11-04-04 16:12pm

Oh believe me sweetie, you have a huge problem. If you are cutting yourself, contemplating suicide and thinking you are depressed, don't you think that constitutes a problem? Are your parents reasonable people? Do you think they care about you? If the answers are yes, then believe me they would want to know what's going on with you and they would want to help.

I don't really know what else to say or how to get you to comply, but if you didn't think you had a problem, then you probably wouldn't have been on this site in the first place. I hope you change your mind and speak to someone you trust and get the help you need. Good luck again. Smile
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Posted: 11-04-04 22:52pm

I'll try. Thank you again.
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Posted: 11-16-04 20:31pm

Hello again. I tried bringin up my grades as much as I could. Starting this term it hasn't gotten easier for me though. I'm just trying to get through each day at a time, but now people aren't making it easier for me. Stupid girls in my grade like to create drama, so she yelled at me for about an hour, and talks about me nonstop behind my back. I try to brush it aside, but its tough when you constantly find out what she says. Shes turning a lot of ppl against me and I just..Dont wanna get up anymore basically. Also, one of my best friends thats a guy 's girlfriend hates me to death because we are close, because he's one of the real people I can tell almost anything to. Shes even like i'm gunna kill her and I had to talk to guidance it was one big mess. I think shes harmless but shes not making it any easier so all her friends don't like me either. I'm just sick of dealing with this stuff so last night I started cutting myself again. Crying
or Very sad I hadn't done it since the summer, but that was when all those things pilled up, much like they are doing now. I just see no point in getting up. If I tell anyone, they'll make me go to some place and it will be more harm than its worth and I just wanna be left alone...By everyone Confused Please what do I do...Do I tell someone, who do I tell, I can't tell the school but I dont want ppl to look at me different like they did before..Please help me Crying
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Posted: 11-18-04 11:25am

It sounds to me like you definitely have some depression. You do have some tough circumstances you are living with. I think you definitely shoudl seek some assistance.

Can you possibly speak to a guidance counselor or nurse at your school to see if you could get some help?

I hope the best for you. Sounds like your parents are not very supportive being alcoholics nad all.

Hang in there!
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Posted: 11-18-04 22:42pm

Hi, the only thing the guidance counselor will do is lock me up...Which I know because they have done it in the past to others. I just don't want to get them involved, and my parents I wont dare say anything else to, cuz for one I think they dont care, and for two...Its just something they can talk about to the family, and I can't tell my friends anything because they'll freak out again...I just feel like theres no1 I can talk to..Its just hard..Who do I say anything to, if anything ?
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Posted: 11-28-04 17:25pm

Thanks, i'll try and keep you updated. Maybe my next physical appointment i'll bring some of this stuff up to my doctor.
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Posted: 12-17-04 08:15am

Hi nahgem --
depression is a bit tricky. By that I mean that it can be related to a lot of things, not just your nana dying, but genes... You mentioned that your mom and dad are alcoholics... They probably are low on b12 as a result, and being low on b12 can be a hereditary trait. My mom had pernicious anemia, and I have a tendency toward low b12.

That wasn't very clear, sorry. I actually have some brain damage from extended low b12... While my doctors were prescribing antidepressants, my low b12 was causing permanent nerve damage.

Here's something I learned that has helped me: lines on fingernails tend to indicate low b12... A sublingual b12 supplement can be very useful and make a great difference.... When I began having regular shots, I was totally amazed at the difference they made. I haven't switched to sublingual lozenges yet because the injectable cobalamin is so cheap and i'm so financially challenged :d

but I think the sublingual is very reasonably priced at walgreens...

The old way to diagnose a need for b12 was to prescribe it and if it made a difference, then the doctor concluded it was needed...

Www.Health-boundaries-bite .Com/fingernails.Html
your fingernails reflect your health --
learn what warning signs to look for --
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Posted: 12-17-04 08:16am

Hi nahgem --
depression is a bit tricky. By that I mean that it can be related to a lot of things, not just your nana dying, but genes... You mentioned that your mom and dad are alcoholics... They probably are low on b12 as a result, and being low on b12 can be a hereditary trait. My mom had pernicious anemia, and I have a tendency toward low b12.

That wasn't very clear, sorry. I actually have some brain damage from extended low b12... While my doctors were prescribing antidepressants, my low b12 was causing permanent nerve damage.

Here's something I learned that has helped me: lines on fingernails tend to indicate low b12... A sublingual b12 supplement can be very useful and make a great difference.... When I began having regular shots, I was totally amazed at the difference they made. I haven't switched to sublingual lozenges yet because the injectable cobalamin is so cheap and i'm so financially challenged :d

but I think the sublingual is very reasonably priced at walgreens...

The old way to diagnose a need for b12 was to prescribe it and if it made a difference, then the doctor concluded it was needed...

Www.Health-boundaries-bite .Com/fingernails.Html
your fingernails reflect your health --
learn what warning signs to look for --
karen kline
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