Im Shy With This Topic, Can Someone Help Me...

I guess the only way for it to be comfortable is to have done it alot. But I can give you some advice ho help you ease into it.
First of all if you two are close and communicate this will help alot. You have been together a while and this is good. He will understand that this is a new thing. Second (an I know this from experience) take your time. Dont try to rush it just to get it over with. Think about each move you make or someone (someones somehting actually) might get hurt. Taking your time will actually arouse him more. Two, have him give you input. He is an expert on the topic of his pleasure. Three, hands and toungs are good. Hands everywhere is good. Four, there is a special spot right under the bottom of the head, where the head begins. Use this spot, focus a fair ammount of attention on it. And five, and the end, when his is going... Fast is usually good.
Try to enjoy yourself, there is nothing more arousing to a guy than a girl who wants to give him head, and who even gets turned on buy it. Dont forget to get the favor returned.
Good luck!
darkv

Yeah, it used to make me sick just the thought of doing this, because I had a horrible first experience with it. But now it isn't so bad and I enjoy the effect it can have on a guy! Some tips I have picked up are:
1. Deep throat~they like it, and it isn't too hard, but don't push it to where you want to gag. Relax and you can do it better. If you are nervous it doesn't work so well.
2. Use your tongue~massage it with your tongue as you suck on it
3. Definitely use your hands~at the base of his penis, kind of jack it off as you are sucking it. This is especially good if you have trouble deep throating it.....That way this area isnt being neglected.
4. Try using a little suction~it is a little tricky to do this, but try it. Just remember to keep your teeth out of the way! Lol!
5. One final trick, my favorite, is one I tried for the first time fairly recently~humming. As you work his shaft, try humming with it in your mouth. I got a very good response to this, and he thanked me for it!

Hope this helps!

Also if you do 69 then you won't have to worry about him watching you. It used to make me nervous if he would be watching everything I did because I wasn't real sure of what I was doing. But if he is "busy" pleasing you at the same time....It made me more comfortable. Now I like if he is watching me....

Hey I was embarrassed to ask the same thing but good friend of mine who's been married a few more years than I have, and I were talking one night about how we were doing in our relationships and got to talking about this (my cheeks were so red) and she's like "oh my gosh, i'm amazing at this, if you have any questions just ask!"

so don't feel bad, we've all been there.


For me personally I have to really concentrate on what i'm doing which drives my husband crazy in a great way. If I just kind of do it and hope it works, it doesn't really feel like anything. So i'm encouraging you to get really into it. We've tried 69 a couple times but so far neither of us can last because we're so aware of what's happening to our own stuff that we forget to really concentrate on each other haha

it used to make me gag all the time, like every two or three times that I would go down (in one session), especially if it felt really good for my husband and he naturally responded by pushing in--yikes! We've had some good laughs. But i've done it a lot more since then and i'm familiar with how it feels in my mouth and try a little bit every time to take deep slow breaths and go down as far as a can. I can't do that the whole time but every now and then it's a good change of pace

like badsal said, the most important thing is to talk about it. Try some things like people have suggested and as him if it feels good. I tried humming and I felt more stupid than anything, like "what do I hum? Zippedee do da? Old mc donald?" I think part of the problem with that for me is that my husband and I are both musicians so I couldn't just make noise humming, I was really conscious about the pitch, which is such a stupid thing to think about at that time! so try it, if you feel comfortable with it. He'll get some pretty good feelings out of it too. I do have to use my hands too, but for my husband that works really well because he's getting two kinds of stimulation at the same time.

Are we allowed to get candid in here? It really turns my husband on if I let my breast drape on his thighs a little while i'm doing it, it's a major tease and drives him crazy and helps him get worked up.


Just remember to breathe and watch your teeth, and get into it. At first I got in to it for his sake but now I get really turned on by it and will do it just because
> I < like doing it.

I cant the smell... And feel like pukin when its in.. I cant even let the doctor put those ice cream sticks in my mouth... Cant imagine how I will give a guy a bj!!!

As far as going down on him, if you're finding it hard to get into it, encourage him to play around with you while you're doing so. He could play with your nipples, your breasts, your lady basket... It'll all help you really relax and get into it. When you enjoy it and take your time, it becomes easier. You could also ask him to give you feedback as you go along such as "i like that", "try something else", "i don't really like that", or "i like this better". That way he doesn't leave you in the dark to guess. And practice does make things easier! Have fun. =)