Oh my goodness how could you take that from him. That is just too much you know he has a girl on the side yet you still with him and you pay the cell phone you need to be stonger than that. That is just too much you dont' deserve that. No girl deserves that at all.

I know you love him but you should not put up with that.

If my man ever cheated on me I would have to leave his sorry @ss. I dont care if we have 1,2,3,4,5,6,7,8 children together. I would put my baby in daycare, work 24-7, and go on welfare if thats what it took to get away from him. Its not like he can't still have a relationship with his child/children.

Im not paying it anymore hehe. I know he's coming back, he pays the mortgage and he has his xbox, and laptop and lotsa stuff here. I can take it cuz I kinda screwed him over with child support and visiting sami but if he doesn't stop altogether by my due date (or the childs bday whichever comes first) then we are through for good, ive given him this ultimatum and he's currently driving home from wisconsin (i called his aunt and he was with her so I feel a bit better) I guess this past week they had a family crisis and his family doesnt like me

Thats good becuase we girls should not be putting up with guys like that even if you love him so much, there are way better guys out there and we can't be letting them hold us down like that.

Thanks girls I never woulda stood up to him and I guess he stood up to his family, saying that he had 2 families that shuld be 1, awwwwwwwww

Doesnt he live with you babe?

Girls, do not ever say you are nothing without your man. Because you can be whatever you wanna be with or without them losers. I am going to school and maintaining a 3.25 gpa, being a mom, and working a part-time job and I feel great about myself! I don't need any guy! I believe any girl could do it on their own if they have too. Don't ever let your man make you feel inferior, because women are beautiful,intelligent, and much more superior than men. Please don't ever let me hear you say that you are nothing without your man, I might slap you lol. I love you girls and I am here if you need to talk. You guys could do so much better.

But your better than that babe you need to have some self confidence , courage, and respect!

Jess is right you need to have courage and confidence. I know it's hard when you love someone to let go of them but at the same time you have to be strong and that only leads him to take advantage and it seems like you know that but you are just afraid.

We talked it over tonight and I guess it is a family matter I really don't think I shoud be a part of, his brother is deep into drugs, he has been having a lot of blood tests and etc too. For aids, and other stds, and I guess he flipped out. So jimmy (my fiance) and I decided it would be best if I didn't participate in the interventions (its gonna take a few I think) due to the fact im pregnant.

Okay, if he's treating you like that, and cheating on you, you need to leave him. I know you guys want these boys to be there because of the babies, but they aren't going to change. I know. I was with a guy for two years...He cheated on me with everyone I knew...He lied to me...He yelled at me...He even threatened to kill me when I told him I thought I was pregnant... No matter what they say, guys like that don't change!! It might be hard at first, but you guys will be better off without them!!!!