I have never had anal sex personally, my
boyfriend and I have decided that niether
of us want to do that. Im open to
anything else but that...So let me know
how it goes, seriously.
Many men and women are curious about anal
sex but are scared about comfort and
safety issues. If you are curious, the
following steps will ensure you have a
safe and enjoyable experience.
use a condom.
Never go from anus to mouth, or anus to
vagina, without washing carefully (and
changing condoms) in between.
if the thought of
some fecal matter is horribly repulsive to
you, the receptive partner can use an
enema beforehand.
the anus has no
natural lubrication, so you'll need to use
plenty of lubricant.
relax and go slow.
Encourage the receiving partner to take
deep breaths and communicate his or her
feelings aloud.
start with external
stimulation from something small, like a
finger or a small vibrating toy.
once the receiving
partner has relaxed and begun to feel
aroused, insert the finger or toy gently
into the anus, letting the anal sphincter
accommodate the object.
gently move the
object in a shallow circular motion. The
two rims of the sphincter are rife with
nerve endings, so this small motion should
feel good. If it doesn't, stop or do
something different.
when you are both
ready to move on to something larger,
consider using a small dildo or vibrator
first. This will allow greater control
and may make things easier for the
receiving partner.
once you are ready
to introduce a penis or larger sex toy
into the anus, slow down and proceed with
caution.
allow the receptive
partner to set the depth and pace.
breathe and
concentrate on relaxing your anus. Keep
communicating.
don't neglect
stimulation of other parts of the body.
Clitoral or penis stimulation combined
with anal play can be quite exciting.
stop immediately if
there is discomfort or if either partner
says he or she wants to stop.
this should be an
enjoyable experience. If it is not, stop.
Kristin
