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kitty_55
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Location: Canada
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Venting Big Time....
Posted: 11-05-04 01:39am
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Hey girls.... How is everybody doing?? I
just need to vent right now!!
Well me and my mom are suppose to go to
austriala in feb or march....*my dad and
his side of the family lives there and my
3 half sisters too* he is going to pay for
me and my nana and papa are gonna pay for
my mom. My mom doesnt have the money to
pay for herself. When he asked me I was
so exitced!! I have only seen my dad once
in grade 7. I would love to see my family
I never thought I would. Well lately I
have been thinking about I am not sure if
I want to go there anymore... Like its
taken him 17 years to ask me to go there??
Like what!! Err angers me off.
When I saw him in grade 7 I was sooo happy
I couldnt belive my dad was right there...
Him and my mom were thinking about
getting back toghther like I never thought
I would acutlly have a mom and a dad... I
was so happy... Than when he went back to
austriala me and my mom found out he was
.M.A.R.R.I.E.D. And she was 8 months
preggy!!  everything he told
us was a lie.... I can not trust him and
I never will...
When my mom and dad were married he
cheated on her many times and while she
was preggy with me. Hes also an
achloic(sp?) and he use to do coke...
Well my mom lefted him and came back to
canada and had me... I was always mad at
my mom for leaving him when I was
younger.... Becuase all my friends had a
mom and a dad.... But when I was 10 she
finally told me I had a half sister.... I
was so angry at her for not telling me b4
than... Than my mom explain to me how my
dad was.... I am so happy now that she
lefted him... My life would of been so
differnt.... Never really getting to see
my nana and papa that I love so much...
My dad now has a new wife kate and they
have 3 almost 4 year old twin girls peri
and jamie.... She was a b*tch when I
called him once...
Ok well I am not sure if I wanna go to
austriala like thats not my family... My
family is my mom nana and papa... Like im
scared to go cuz its gonna be so hard to
leave them.... God I am crying right now
 ...
My dad never wanted anything to do with me
and now all of a sudden he does?? And my
dads family is very mean like I am fat and
I know it and they will tell me if I am ya
know? I need to loose weight b4 I go
there and I dont know if I will be able
to....
Sorry this is long and very confusing...
I just needed to vent...You dont have to
post if you dont want too... Ahhh life
sux right now... I feel like sh*t I feel
so ugly and fat.... Like I wish I was
skinney and all my probmlems(sp?) would be
gone... So many people call me ugly and
it hurts so much...I have been called fat
and ugly my whole life... I just want
people to look at me and think im
pretty...... No guys at school look at
me... They look at the pretty skinney
girls.... F*ck sorry this is soooo long I
needed to do this....
.Alison xoxo
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jessamyn
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Posted: 11-05-04 03:20am
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I thought ur name was amanda?
Anyways i'm going thru that with my dad
for peoples advice check out my post
(parent/child relationship)
what I was thinking after I talked to
everyone about it was I think the reason
my dad hasnt taken off on me yet since we
reunited is i'm gornw up i'll never
forgive him for all the stuff he did while
I was growing up. But I guess i'm willing
to look past that and accept the
relationship as two people just meeting
hes not my dad hes just a person to me. I
think you should give it a chance and if
it doesnt work it doesnt would but atleast
you'll know you tried...
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Daile
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004
Posts: 319
Location: Missouri
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Posted: 11-05-04 06:48am
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I kinda know how you feel. My parents
divorced when I was eight or nine, and I
only saw my dad once or twice after that,
which is stupid, cause he lives in the
same state!!! My senior year of
highschool, I moved in with him, cause me
and my mom were fighting, but it was
horrible!! He had a new wife and son, and
I didn't fit in anywhere anymore.
I'm not sorry I went, though. I got a
chance to see what being with my dad would
be like, and now I can understand why my
mom left. I think you should give your
dad a chance. If nothing else, maybe you
and your halfsisters will get along great.
At least if you go you'll know that
you've tried, and if it doesn't work out,
then you can put it behind you and move
on. If you don't go, then you're going to
regret it someday (like in fourty years
when you get a call saying he's passed
on).
Also, don't worry about being fat. First
of all, i'm sure you're not fat or ugly.
People say mean things, but that doesn't
make them true. I know how it feels.
I've lived with it my whole life, coming
from everyone I know, including my family.
I understand the guy situation too, but
someday you'll find the perfect guy, the
one you're supposed to be with, and he
won't care what you look like. It might
take a little while, but it will happen.
And until then...You've got all of
us!!!!
Daile
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bellax0x
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Joined: 10 Jun 2004
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Location: Jersey Baby!
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Posted: 11-05-04 08:41am
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Well hunni I think you should try it. If
its akward or you dont like it then dont
ever go back. But I deff think its worth
a try
<3
gaby
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smith8500
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Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 6623
Location: Louisiana
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Posted: 11-05-04 08:47am
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| jessamyn
wrote: | | i thought ur name was
amanda? |
no. It's alison.
I'm sorry ally. Things are rough and you
have to decide what is right for you.
I'll reply when I have more time hun.
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mooma2binmarch
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Joined: 19 Oct 2004
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Posted: 11-05-04 09:24am
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Well than use him for a free vacation to
australia!!! Always looking up!
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jessamyn
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Posted: 11-05-04 11:13am
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Okay I apologize then I made myself look
like an ass... Why did I think that...
Hi i'm jess!
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linuxChique
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Posted: 11-05-04 12:44pm
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Yep! Treat it as a vacation, not a visit
to family. Do stuff without him. Or if
you can't just don't go. Call him and
tell him you're upset about it and you
don't want to see him. Tell him if he
wants to see you he can come to where you
are.
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kitty_55
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Joined: 18 Aug 2003
Posts: 1473
Location: Canada
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Posted: 11-05-04 13:39pm
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Thanx guys.... But if I do go I have to
stay with my dad for alittle bit.... And
I dont want to... And my mom is gonna
stay with tracey my sister erins mom.
And I dont know if I want to have a
reaslship with my dad... Hes never been
here for me when I needed him...
Blah...
Jess my name is alison lol but close to
amanda! 
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jessamyn
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Posted: 11-05-04 14:25pm
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Omg this is gunna confuse the hell out of
me no I am like determined that it was
amanda
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jessamyn
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Posted: 11-05-04 14:28pm
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Omg hahah I am an fool amanda ia kitty2luv
I just imed her and was like what why am I
so confused hahah sorryyyyy alison! Hi
i'm jess and yes i'm blonde hahah
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Posts: 2957
Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 11-05-04 14:30pm
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I totally agree with daile. If you go and
see ur dad, and him and his family are
total pricks, u'll feel much betetr about
urself and your life as is, and understand
from ur moms point of view, why she left
him.
And dont ever listen to what people say to
it. You have a beautiful smile and anyone
with a beautiful smile and beautiful! It
shows ur a happy golucky person and u have
a lot going for u! We're here for ya hun
shauna
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