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rachrach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2004
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Location: Hawaii
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Idk
Posted: 11-06-04 01:29am
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Okay I don't really know how to word what
I wanna say, but i'll try..
Well me and my baby's daddy were together
for 8 months then we broke up in may..But
after we broke up we continued "seeing"
eachother..Which is when I got
pregnant..Well anyways we ended up
fighting soo much about everything when we
first found out I was pregnant..He wanted
me to get an abortion cuz he was so
certain his parents were gonna kill
him..Well he told em finally (about 3
weeks ago) and they weren't mad or
anything so he had a total attitude
change..He's okay with it all now and we
get along soo much better..We've been
hanging out on weekends..And we started
doing stuff again (you know..Sex, etc.)
and we have this agreement that as long as
were doin stuff were not doin anything
with anyone else..Ok well basically my
question is this...Is it like, wrong for
me to wanna spend time with him and stuff
even though were not together..Like
sometimes when I ask him if he wants to
hang out I feel dumb and I feel like he
thinks i'm obsessed with him or
something..I mean I still do care about
him soo much and i'd love to be with him
again, but he doesn't wanna be with
me..Idk what the hell the point of this
post was, im sorry..I just always have
this on my mind..Would it be wrong for me
to wanna see him a little on like
thanksgiving n stuff too? I mean we are
having a baby..We did go out for 8
months..Blah idk..Anyone have anything to
say? Im so lost
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Michelle1337
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Posted: 11-06-04 01:34am
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Its totally not wrong for you to want to
seee him. Although, I would be alittle
mad if he wanted to do stuff with you and
not be with you. That's kinda dumb...I
would feel used if I were you. But hey,
thats just me!
I wish you the best of luck with him! I
hope things work out for you two!!!
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rachrach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 413
Location: Hawaii
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Posted: 11-06-04 01:37am
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I know, sometimes it really hurts..But idk
it's like I feel I need to keep doing it
because it's all I have left with him..Idk
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kitty_55
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Location: Canada
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Posted: 11-06-04 01:40am
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Hey if you want to still do "stuff" with
him than do it....Its up to you.... I
think its better doing "stuff" people
someone you care about even if your not
toghther... I dunno if that makes scence!
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Dancinchick0587
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2004
Posts: 211
Location: Blaine, Mn
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Posted: 11-06-04 01:56am
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Feels addictive? I am totally that way
towards paul. He had a child together but
I had a miscarriage. Were not "together"
but were always hanging out and he doesnt
want to be together right now. So what I
did was just not call him make him come to
you. And he will hun might take time but
he will. Once paul was calling all the
time we had a long talk and he finally put
his guard down and realized how much he
needs me and loves me. Things take time
hun.
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rachrach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 413
Location: Hawaii
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Posted: 11-06-04 02:34am
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I know, sometimes it really hurts..But idk
it's like I feel I need to keep doing it
because it's all I have left with him..Idk
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Dancinchick0587
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2004
Posts: 211
Location: Blaine, Mn
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Posted: 11-06-04 02:37am
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I think its normal but not heathly for
you. I mean everytime when you do stuff
together do you think in back of your mind
that you might get back together?
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rachrach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 413
Location: Hawaii
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Posted: 11-06-04 02:40am
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What the hell, I didnt mean to post that
twice, oops..
Well before I used to think there was a
chance we'd get back together but after
almost 6 months now, I pretty much lost
hope 
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nippz
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Posted: 11-06-04 02:44am
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Hun, if you wanna be with him, theres no
harm in that. Theres nothing wrong, I
mean he is the father of your child!
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nippz
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Posted: 11-06-04 02:44am
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Heck I use to always spend time with my
babydaddy even when he was with other
girls, lol I tried to steal him from them,
luckily it worked 
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jessamyn
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Posted: 11-06-04 03:30am
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Babe I personally think its okay just dont
get used.. Do you know what I mean?
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rachrach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
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Posts: 413
Location: Hawaii
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Posted: 11-06-04 03:34am
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Yah.
Thanks for the input everyone. 
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bellax0x
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Posted: 11-06-04 08:50am
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I dont think its wrong! Youre carrying
his baby woman! 
<3
gaby
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LaurensEntourage
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Posted: 11-06-04 16:06pm
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I think it sounds like you are being used
already. I mean, he doesn't want to be
"with" you, but he'll still medical answer
you? Don't get me wrong, i've done that
before, but I didn't want to be with the
guy either, it was just sex. If you
already have an agreement that while you
two are screwing you can't screw anyone
else, then why not just turn it into a
relationship, you're practically there
anyway.
If it's just sex to you, then keep doing
it, but if it's more than that to you,
realize that it isn't to him. Talk to
him about how you feel, then you'll really
know what's going on. Don't feel stupid,
or "addicted". He's the father of your
child and this is something the two of you
should discuss as adults, it's not a
subject that should be danced around.
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GuitarJade
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2004
Posts: 330
Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 11-06-04 16:13pm
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I don't think it's wrong, per say... I
just don't think it's healthy. It's like,
he wants his freedom, but he still wants a
sexual relationship with you. He "wants
to have his cake and eat it too." I dunno,
I have this thing against casual sex (not
against people who do it... Please don't
take that the wrong way... It's just
something i, myself, wouldn't do) and I
just don't think it's right for him to
want to f*ck you and not be with you. But
whatever you decide to do, we're here for
you!
~sam
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babyluvwu
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2004
Posts: 509
Location: Charlotte, NC
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Posted: 11-06-04 16:17pm
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I dont think its wrong at all for you to
want to spend time with him, he shouldnt
think you are obsessed with him either.
He should understand why you want to spend
time together the two of you have a little
one on the way. If he has a problem with
anything or complains that you are bugging
him or anything then you can tell what
kind of a father he will be, also if the
two of you arent getting back together you
should definitely take him out for child
support even if he says he'll be there for
his baby, babies are eeeeeeeexpensive!
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rachrach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2004
Posts: 413
Location: Hawaii
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Posted: 11-06-04 18:22pm
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Thnx everyone! I'm always so confused
about everything.
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nippz
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Posted: 11-06-04 18:24pm
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Oh I haven't even thought of the being
used part..
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nippz
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Posted: 11-06-04 18:24pm
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But it's not wrong that you wanna be with
him.
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nippz
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Posted: 11-06-04 18:24pm
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I mean you are carrying his baby, lol.
But I think al used me for sex at
times..He'd break up with me and go with
another girl and still ask for sex. I'm
stupid.
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