Will I Show

Hard to say,but I would not have my heart set on that dress if you are positive you want to get pregnant now.Every woman is different and can gain weight in different places at different times during the pregnancy.Good luck with whatever you decide.Patty

It is hard to say. I have 2 girls and was different with both, but my belly was bigger by 16 weeks with both (and I had lost weight too). I know this probably won't change your mind, but you should wait to have kids. Spend some time with your man, because after the kids come it won't be so easy. I had my daughter and then had an iud inserted which should have given me up to ten years to have another child, but number 2 came just 20 months later and it is so hard for me. You never know how your life will work out. Just something to think about. Congratulations, marriage is awesome. I've been married for 6 years.

Lana

Hey jillie81, please don't think i'm an fool. I just started using this site and don't know exactly how it works.

Ps- if you didn't know, I replied to you twice. In two different forums I think

My question is, is it so important that you can't wait until you get married to get pregnant. Regardless of having sex before marriage and how you feel about it, your marriage should come before your children, not the other way around. Your marriage will show your children what to expect from life, the world around them, truth and security from your marriage, good and bad alike.

At this point, since you do not have children yet (i'm assuming) you're marriage is the most important thing right now, and you can wait a few weeks to get pregnant (believe me, the four months before your wedding will go incredibly fast. Plus, you do not want the stress of "oh my gosh i'm pregnant" ontop of the multiple levels of (healthy and necessary) stress that accompagny marriage--questions, doubts, planning, figuring out this is what you really want to commit to and making yourself ready mentally, emotionally, spiritually to commit.

That is a lot of stress on your body. And I don't recommend it for you or for a potential baby in the womb.

Even if you don't care about all that, you will almost certainly be beginning to show by then and your dress won't fit, especially if it's a form-fitting dress.

If you want to stop taking birth control pills so you can start a family right away, but are concerned about getting pregnant before your wedding, check out the natural family planning thread in the birth control forum.