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forever_in_love811

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I Thought I Wanted to Be Pregnant!!! Help!!! Posted: 11-09-04 10:10am


Hey ladies!!! I'm 18 years old and at the beginning of september, I accidently got pregnant and had a miscarriage. I was hurt so badly by the miscarriage that I thought the only thing that would make the pain go way would be to actually have a baby. So, I convinced my boyfriend that this is what I really wanted, and we have been having unprotected sex every other day since my last period ended. My period for this month is due on the 16th. I am now unsure that I want a baby. I'v talked with a few young mothers who say they wish they would have waited! Also, my mother thinks that I am still on the pill..Which I stopped taking a month ago!!! It's to hard to tell her that i'v been lying to her. My boyfriend and I plan on moving in together on the 11th of feb. How am I going to tell himthat I changed my mind about wanting a baby? He is in his junior year of nursing school and I plan to start writting classes soon.....Needless to say, we don"t need a baby yet I feel so stupid for thinking that I wanted a baby and that I could handle it!!! Even though my period isn't due for another week, i'm so afraid that I may be pregnant!!! Help help help!!! Please!!!

lilmama2b_oct04

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Posted: 11-09-04 11:19am


I dont know what to tell you... Tell your boyfriend that you had a reality check, and you realized that having another baby isnt gonna make it better, it will just make everything else harder. Well the thing with when you are ttc, you wont get pregnant when you want to, but then when you least expect it, bam, your pregnant... I thought I was pregnant right after I started going out with my boyfriend, and we got so used to the fact of having a baby, that when I found out I wasnt, it broke my heart, and made me want a baby soo bad. Me and kevin had unprotected sex for a year before I got pregnant. I wish I would have waited, but I would never, ever trade my baby in for another chance. Im happy with my baby, but the thought of being tied down for the rest of my life kinda makes me sad. But dont get me wrong, I love my baby so much though. I beleive that everything happens for a reason, and god helped me get pregnant with brooklyn cuz she is good for me. I wouldnt be anything, nor would I try to accomplish to be anything without her.

nippz

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Posted: 11-09-04 12:10pm


Wow, I dont know what to say. Your only 18. Are you two stable and all that good stuff?

GuitarJade

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Posted: 11-09-04 12:32pm


Wow. I know what you mean about wanting a baby. Having kids has been my dream ever since I was 15. And now that i'm in college and on my own, I know how tight money can be and how hard it is to just take care of me. I'd definitely talk to your boyfriend and see what you two want to do about it if you do happen to be preggy. Until then, I wouldn't worry to much because the stress can make your period off. Good luck! ~sam

forever_in_love811

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Posted: 11-09-04 14:06pm


Thanks for all the responses girls!!! It's great to have people to talk to without them thinking less of you for what you've done. I plan to talk to my boyfriend (jason) about everything tonight. Yes, we'd be stable enough to support the baby but it would be very difficult, we'd have to struggle for sure. Abortion is out of the question, I simply don't believe in it. Lilmamma, you have a beautiful baby wow. How old are you if you don't mind me asking. I know, everyone has told me that stress can cause your period to be late, which is why i'm thankful for you guys!! I have someone to talk to about it, instead of keeping it all in my mind and stressing about it. Umm.... Can someone tell me how early I can take a home pregnancy test and what the best brand to use is? How soon do you start to have pregnancy symptoms? What are the main symptoms? You ladies please keep posting and help me out!!! Good luck to all!!! You are all awesome teresa

JeNNy985

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Posted: 11-09-04 14:56pm


You can test positive on a pregnancy test from 5 days before your period is supposed to start all the way until your 2 weeks or more late for your period! A lot of people told me to buy the $1 tree test! It's only a dollar and it picks up small amounts of hcg. Hope this helps!

LHSbabe0207

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Posted: 11-09-04 16:21pm


Wow! Well.. Take a test if your period doesnt come. Wish you luck hun!!! Keep us updated

bellax0x

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Posted: 11-09-04 16:28pm


Well I just hope youre not preggy, thats basically all I can say <3 gaby

forever_in_love811

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Posted: 11-09-04 21:59pm


Hey again girls!!! Well, I talked to my boyfriend (jason). I explained to him that I was so afraid of having a baby right now, and told him that I wish I would have taken his advice and waited to try for a baby. He kind of sat there for a second, then said "you know I love you right..And no matter what, we'll be fine, with or without a baby." I was so relieved to hear that...I thought he was going to get really mad and say...I tried to tell you, but you just wouldn't listen. Anyways, we had a long talk about it, and now all we can do is hop efor the best and wait on my period to get here. I'll keep you all posted!!! teresa

oangelc543

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Posted: 11-09-04 23:26pm


"ensure that the choices you make today are choices that you can live with tommorow"... Lol, I dno maybe thats not helpful... But I saw it in a doctor's office and thought it was really insightful... I never think before I act.. Hence my being pregnant.. But yea, I hope things work out for you! Goodluck!!

forever_in_love811

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Posted: 11-09-04 23:47pm


Yes, that is very insightful...I wish someone would have told me that before I decided to have un-protected sex...But even then, I probably wouldn't have listened!!! I was so determined to have a baby, I didn't listen to anyone... Not even the man I wanted to father my baby. Can you really take a dollare store pregnancy test 5 days before my missed period??? Can anyone tell me what the early signs of pregnancy are? When do the symptoms usually begin? Thanks to everyone for all the help!!! Please keep posting!!! Good luck to all!!!! teresa

IDABABY

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Posted: 11-09-04 23:56pm


Hey sweetie, I know how you feel, I lost my baby due to a miscarriage, and wanted to try for another one right away, because I felt so empty. My boyfriend and i, decided that it wasn't the best time...That I better heal emotionally and physcially before we try again. None the less, we decided to wait to have any further children. Answers to your questions, yes you can take a dollar tree test and if it just as accurate if not more than some of the more exspensive brands!! Early signs of pregnancy delay of menstruation during entire pregnancy excessive weight gain or loss, fatigue, hormonal problems, tension, stress, going off the birth control pill or breast feeding. Nausea and vomiting 2 - 8 weeks after conception food poisoning, stress and variety of other stomach disorders. Tender or swollen breasts 1 - 2 weeks after conception hormonal imbalance, birth control pills, impending menstruation. Feeling exhausted or "sleepy" 1 -6 weeks after conception stress, fatigue, depression and other physical and mental strains. Can also be the common cold or flu. Backaches during entire pregnancy a variety of back problems and physical or mental strains. Frequent headaches sometimes during entire pregnancy. Dehydration, caffeine withdrawal, eye strain and other ailments. Food cravings during entire pregnancy poor diet, stress, depression and impending menstruation. Darkening of areola (breast nipple) first signs 1 - 14 weeks after conceptions and then throughout pregnancy hormonal imbalance. Fetal movements 16 - 22 week after conception gas, lower gastrointestinal bowl contractions. Frequent urination 6 - 8 weeks after conception diabetes, urinary tract infection, taking excessive diuretics causing urination. Fetal heart beat 10 - 20 weeks and then throughout entire pregnancy. Early detection using sensitive microphones, e.G. Doppler. None -kristin

forever_in_love811

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Posted: 11-11-04 01:02am


Hey girls!! I just wanted to thank you all again for being concerned for me. Today i'v felt very sick...Like i'm going to throw up any minute. I'v had a head ache and i'v had to use the bathroom constantly (pee). The bottom of my stomach is also very hard??? My nipples have been sore for a few days now also. Um... I read that an early sign of pregnancy is neasea, vomiting and "a number of other stomach problems." well, for about the past week i'v been having trouble doing number 2 is this a symptom by chance?? Have any of you who are or have been preggy had any problems with that?? I think I may just be worrying myself to death... I'm so afraid of being pregnant. I don't want life to be any harder than it already is!!! Well, please get back to me ladies!!! Thank you all, and good luck to all!!! teresa

IDABABY

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Posted: 11-11-04 01:03am


Take a test sweetie, that is all that you can do, no one can tell you for sure, your body has weird ways of playing tricks on ya. Kristin

LaDybUglOve

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Posted: 11-11-04 01:05am


Wow girly ! I think u should test how late are yah ?? Stephanie

forever_in_love811

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Posted: 11-11-04 01:09am


I know... I just hate waiting!!! My period isn't due for 5 more days... And I really can't aford one of those early response tests. My boyfriend is going to be in on saturday and sunday so I plan to take a test then. I just want to know so that I can move on with my life instead of this being on my mind constantly!!! teresa

IDABABY

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Posted: 11-11-04 01:09am


Go to the dollar store, those test work just as good if not better if you are really pregnant. Kristin

forever_in_love811

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Posted: 11-11-04 01:11am


Do they work even if my period isn't late yet???

IDABABY

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Posted: 11-11-04 01:12am


I would wait about 2-3 days then try it. I am serious.

LaurensEntourage

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Posted: 11-11-04 01:23am


All, or at least most of those symptoms, are probably in your head. I mean don't take what I say as gospel, but the first indication you'll probably have is a positive pregnancy test. At least this is how it was in my case (everyone is different). I didn't get any symptoms really until I was 7 or 8 weeks. When I was about 5 or 6 weeks, my boobs were really sensitive, but that's all.