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baby_cakes
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2004 Posts: 58 Location: Australia
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Hey Im New And Just Found Out Im Pregnant
Posted: 11-09-04 22:30pm
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 hey.
Im 18 and I just found out that im
pregnant... I have always wanted a baby
but the thing is my boyfriend and I broke
up about 3 weeks ago. He is the father
and now I dont know what to do cos I know
he isnt going to want it. He once told me
if I got pregnant and he wasnt ready he
would punch me in the stomach till I
miscarried... Im to scared to tell him
but I cant just keep it cos he will come
after me... I also dont really want to be
a single mum.. I dont want to abort it
and I definatly wouldnt put it up for
adoption but I dont think I have a
choice...
Please give me some advice... Also can I
possibly talk to some single mums?
Thanks soo much
love nat 
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LHSbabe0207
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2004 Posts: 632 Location: Louisiana girl!!!
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Posted: 11-09-04 22:32pm
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Wow! Your in a tough situation!! Your
"ex" boyfriend is a real sick jerk!!!!
You can do better hun!! I dont know what
to tell you if he is just gonna come after
you if you keep the baby! Sounds like a
physco!!!
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bellax0x
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 10 Jun 2004 Posts: 3572 Location: Jersey Baby!
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Posted: 11-09-04 22:41pm
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Wow! I think you should tell him but have
people around, he might not have the balls
to do it anyway
<3
gaby
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nippz
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Sep 2004 Posts: 2173 Location: ,
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Posted: 11-09-04 22:44pm
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First of all, your ex boyfriend is a doing
it friend for saying that he would do
that. Yeah I dont think he would have the
balls either like gaby said. That's his
child so he should take responsibility.
Do what gaby said, tell him with people
around just to be safe. Im sorry your in
this type of situation ;\
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cherriegurl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Jul 2004 Posts: 1218 Location: Washington state
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Posted: 11-09-04 22:50pm
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Well good luck girl im sorry ur in such a
tough spot, good luck keep us updated!!
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Dancinchick0587
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2004 Posts: 211 Location: Blaine, Mn
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Posted: 11-09-04 22:52pm
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Hey im 17 and im pregnant and im not with
the father either
my aol is dancinchick0587
my yahoo is dancinchick0597
im gonna turn in when my baby is born.
I know what your going through hun!
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
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Posted: 11-09-04 23:21pm
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I think there is a forum for single moms.
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oangelc543
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2004 Posts: 521 Location: TX
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Posted: 11-09-04 23:21pm
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Whooa.. Okay, listen, as scary as it
sounds, you can be a single mom! You can,
I promise!
And if you think this guy will come after
you, then go to a court and ask for a
restraining order so that he cant come
near you.
Im 15 and pregnant with my first, if u
ever wanna chat pm me or aim oangelcc543
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baby_cakes
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2004 Posts: 58 Location: Australia
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Thanks For Advice
Posted: 11-09-04 23:59pm
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Do you think I could tell him its not his
so he has no say in what I do? Do you
have to legally tell the father?
I really dont wana abortion... I work in
childcare and I have to spend all day
looking after other ppls babies... Its
making me so depressed
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IDABABY
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Mar 2004 Posts: 2236 Location: ***Wisconsin Baby***
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Posted: 11-10-04 00:00am
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I would rather be a single mother, than go
through all of that, really!!
Kristin
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rachrach
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 413 Location: Hawaii
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Posted: 11-10-04 01:59am
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Welcome to the forum! My name is rachel
and I am 16 yrs old and 14w5d pregnant..
I'm sorry about your ex acting like
that..I'm not with my baby's daddy anymore
either and when we first found out I was
pregnant he was a total a$$ to me and
tried to force me everyday to have an
abortion and repeatedly told me how much
he didn't want the baby...Well things are
alot better now..And I hope they'll get
better for you also real soon! Good luck
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LaDybUglOve
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Oct 2004 Posts: 172 Location: MIAMI, FLORIDA
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Posted: 11-10-04 02:26am
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Welcome !! Im stephanie 20yr old, engaged
and ttc
i really wish yah lots of luck ... Im
sorry im no much of help, but just
remember i/f he does come after you for
any reason and tries to hurt u in anyway
please dont just hide.. Go to the cops or
have a grown up talk to him. I wouldnt
wanna c u get hurt  my heart goes out
to ya girly im soo sorry you have to
experience this during such a beautiful
time in your life.
.S.T.E.P.H.A.N.I.E.
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kazza23662
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 29 Aug 2004 Posts: 36 Location: Sydney Aus
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Posted: 11-10-04 05:31am
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Welcome karen , single mum with a 4 yr old
boy...... I know u can be a single mum if
thats what u have to do I am doing it at
times its hard no one to pass the baby
over to when he/she wont settle or u need
a break but I have found that friends come
in handy( if u dont always ask) and its
also nice to have friends that are single
mums also so u can go to there house and
relax and chat to some one who knows what
it is like and also my family where great
also with help with things and buying
stuff... As for ur boyfriend he sounds
like a right arsehole and u sound like u
could be better off with out him and if he
says he would do that what else could he
do to u and the baby so dont go back and
the farther dont know I had the baby I
told him but he left me and I moved from
ireland to aus and he dont know when I had
him and keep ur chin up and dont stress
cause stress isnt good for bubba :d
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baby_cakes
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2004 Posts: 58 Location: Australia
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Posted: 11-10-04 06:53am
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Thanks karen  )
i am from sydney to... How old are you?
I wish I could move or somehow get away
from my ex but I cant...
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1sttimemama
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2004 Posts: 198
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Posted: 11-10-04 07:22am
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Hi there, i'm 18 and preggy with my first
too. 11w5d to be exact. But look here's
the deal what you choose to do with your
body is completely youre choice, if youre
xbf didnt want a child he should ve
thought twice about screwing around. If
youre old enough to make a decision to
have sex you better be mature enough to
accept the consequences...Obviously he
wasnt ready for what youre going through
now, but ultimatly its y.O.U.R decision
because its your body... And I dont know
what the laws are in australia but I in
the u.S. That killing an unborn child is
still considered homicide...It sounds like
he is just being immature, but if you
think yyou or your child might be in
danger make sure you dont get into
situations where youre alone with him.
Is it possible to talk to your mom or
someone and see what they think, just talk
it over with someone you feel comfortable
iwth and see how it goes. Keep us
updated
by the way my names cat, im from
florida..My yahoo email is formonedarkflame@yahoo.Com...And
my yahoo im is formonedarkflame...It'd be
good to hear from you...Bye
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GuitarJade
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 02 Oct 2004 Posts: 330 Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 11-10-04 08:13am
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Hey. I'm sam and i'm 18 years old. I'm
in my freshman year of college and i'm not
preggy. Welcome to the forum! And as the
other girls said, your ex definitely
sounds like a big *sshole. Whether or not
you tell the father is up to you. But if
he finds out your pregnant and wants to
know if it's his, you should probably tell
him because if you don't, he could ask for
a blood test and you could get in trouble
for lying on legal documents (ie: the
birth certificate) blah blah blah. Of
course, that's only if he wants to be
involved in the baby's life!! Good luck.
You're in my prayers! *hugs*
~sam
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samismama
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Sep 2004 Posts: 824
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Posted: 11-10-04 08:42am
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Hi, im hilary I am now 18, but from the
time sami was born until I was 17.5 I was
a single parent (my foster parents really
didn't help much) the father is now back
in the picture, and we are having another
child together, but we were separated not
by our choice feel free to email me at samismam
a@yahoo.Com or my aim is ephottay1886
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linuxChique
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 May 2004 Posts: 4535
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Posted: 11-10-04 14:44pm
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Whoa girl! Don't tell him, he sounds like
a terrible person to be in your life. Be
careful, and good luck!
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baby_cakes
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2004 Posts: 58 Location: Australia
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Posted: 11-11-04 03:07am
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Ok...
I think ill tell him in like a few weeks
after I decide how im gunna say it and
what I def wanna do...
Thanks for all your help guys
ill keep you posted
mwa
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jessamyn
Moderator
Joined: 18 Aug 2004 Posts: 4107 Location: San Diego, CA
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Posted: 11-11-04 03:11am
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Well this may be a little late but this is
my opinion I am usually a firm believer in
telling th man to be fair to him and the
child however.... If he is going to
physically or emotionally harm you dont do
it! Yet on the other hand you could also
tell him and if he gets upset just tell
him he doesnt have to be in the babys life
but you just thought he deserved to
know... Maybe if you tell him that he'll
grow up and come to a liking of the idea?
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