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baby_cakes

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Hey Im New And Just Found Out Im Pregnant
Posted: 11-09-04 22:30pm

Crying
or Very sad hey.
Im 18 and I just found out that im pregnant... I have always wanted a baby but the thing is my boyfriend and I broke up about 3 weeks ago. He is the father and now I dont know what to do cos I know he isnt going to want it. He once told me if I got pregnant and he wasnt ready he would punch me in the stomach till I miscarried... Im to scared to tell him but I cant just keep it cos he will come after me... I also dont really want to be a single mum.. I dont want to abort it and I definatly wouldnt put it up for adoption but I dont think I have a choice...

Please give me some advice... Also can I possibly talk to some single mums?

Thanks soo much

love nat Crying
or Very sad
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LHSbabe0207

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Posted: 11-09-04 22:32pm

Wow! Your in a tough situation!! Your "ex" boyfriend is a real sick jerk!!!! You can do better hun!! I dont know what to tell you if he is just gonna come after you if you keep the baby! Sounds like a physco!!!
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bellax0x

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Posted: 11-09-04 22:41pm

Wow! I think you should tell him but have people around, he might not have the balls to do it anyway

<3
gaby
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nippz

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Posted: 11-09-04 22:44pm

First of all, your ex boyfriend is a doing it friend for saying that he would do that. Yeah I dont think he would have the balls either like gaby said. That's his child so he should take responsibility. Do what gaby said, tell him with people around just to be safe. Im sorry your in this type of situation ;\
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cherriegurl

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Posted: 11-09-04 22:50pm

Well good luck girl im sorry ur in such a tough spot, good luck keep us updated!!
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Dancinchick0587

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Posted: 11-09-04 22:52pm

Hey im 17 and im pregnant and im not with the father either
my aol is dancinchick0587
my yahoo is dancinchick0597
im gonna turn in when my baby is born.
I know what your going through hun!
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l2at24

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Posted: 11-09-04 23:21pm

I think there is a forum for single moms.
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oangelc543

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Posted: 11-09-04 23:21pm

Whooa.. Okay, listen, as scary as it sounds, you can be a single mom! You can, I promise!

And if you think this guy will come after you, then go to a court and ask for a restraining order so that he cant come near you.

Im 15 and pregnant with my first, if u ever wanna chat pm me or aim oangelcc543
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baby_cakes

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Posted: 11-09-04 23:59pm

Do you think I could tell him its not his so he has no say in what I do? Do you have to legally tell the father?
I really dont wana abortion... I work in childcare and I have to spend all day looking after other ppls babies... Its making me so depressed
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IDABABY

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Posted: 11-10-04 00:00am

I would rather be a single mother, than go through all of that, really!!
Kristin
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rachrach

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Joined: 30 Oct 2004
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Posted: 11-10-04 01:59am

Welcome to the forum! My name is rachel and I am 16 yrs old and 14w5d pregnant..
I'm sorry about your ex acting like that..I'm not with my baby's daddy anymore either and when we first found out I was pregnant he was a total a$$ to me and tried to force me everyday to have an abortion and repeatedly told me how much he didn't want the baby...Well things are alot better now..And I hope they'll get better for you also real soon! Good luck
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LaDybUglOve

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Posted: 11-10-04 02:26am

Welcome !! Im stephanie 20yr old, engaged and ttc Smile

i really wish yah lots of luck ... Im sorry im no much of help, but just remember i/f he does come after you for any reason and tries to hurt u in anyway please dont just hide.. Go to the cops or have a grown up talk to him. I wouldnt wanna c u get hurt Sad my heart goes out to ya girly im soo sorry you have to experience this during such a beautiful time in your life.

.S.T.E.P.H.A.N.I.E.
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kazza23662

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Joined: 29 Aug 2004
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Location: Sydney Aus

Posted: 11-10-04 05:31am

Welcome karen , single mum with a 4 yr old boy...... I know u can be a single mum if thats what u have to do I am doing it at times its hard no one to pass the baby over to when he/she wont settle or u need a break but I have found that friends come in handy( if u dont always ask) and its also nice to have friends that are single mums also so u can go to there house and relax and chat to some one who knows what it is like and also my family where great also with help with things and buying stuff... As for ur boyfriend he sounds like a right arsehole and u sound like u could be better off with out him and if he says he would do that what else could he do to u and the baby so dont go back and the farther dont know I had the baby I told him but he left me and I moved from ireland to aus and he dont know when I had him and keep ur chin up and dont stress cause stress isnt good for bubba :d
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baby_cakes

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Posted: 11-10-04 06:53am

Thanks karen Surprised)

i am from sydney to... How old are you?
I wish I could move or somehow get away from my ex but I cant...
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1sttimemama

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Posted: 11-10-04 07:22am

Hi there, i'm 18 and preggy with my first too. 11w5d to be exact. But look here's the deal what you choose to do with your body is completely youre choice, if youre xbf didnt want a child he should ve thought twice about screwing around. If youre old enough to make a decision to have sex you better be mature enough to accept the consequences...Obviously he wasnt ready for what youre going through now, but ultimatly its y.O.U.R decision because its your body... And I dont know what the laws are in australia but I in the u.S. That killing an unborn child is still considered homicide...It sounds like he is just being immature, but if you think yyou or your child might be in danger make sure you dont get into situations where youre alone with him.

Is it possible to talk to your mom or someone and see what they think, just talk it over with someone you feel comfortable iwth and see how it goes. Keep us updated


by the way my names cat, im from florida..My yahoo email is formonedarkflame@yahoo.Com...And my yahoo im is formonedarkflame...It'd be good to hear from you...Bye
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GuitarJade

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Posted: 11-10-04 08:13am

Hey. I'm sam and i'm 18 years old. I'm in my freshman year of college and i'm not preggy. Welcome to the forum! And as the other girls said, your ex definitely sounds like a big *sshole. Whether or not you tell the father is up to you. But if he finds out your pregnant and wants to know if it's his, you should probably tell him because if you don't, he could ask for a blood test and you could get in trouble for lying on legal documents (ie: the birth certificate) blah blah blah. Of course, that's only if he wants to be involved in the baby's life!! Good luck. You're in my prayers! *hugs*

~sam
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samismama

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Posted: 11-10-04 08:42am

Hi, im hilary I am now 18, but from the time sami was born until I was 17.5 I was a single parent (my foster parents really didn't help much) the father is now back in the picture, and we are having another child together, but we were separated not by our choice feel free to email me at samismam a@yahoo.Com or my aim is ephottay1886
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linuxChique

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Posted: 11-10-04 14:44pm

Whoa girl! Don't tell him, he sounds like a terrible person to be in your life. Be careful, and good luck!
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baby_cakes

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Posted: 11-11-04 03:07am

Ok...
I think ill tell him in like a few weeks after I decide how im gunna say it and what I def wanna do...

Thanks for all your help guys

ill keep you posted Smile

mwa
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jessamyn

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Posted: 11-11-04 03:11am

Well this may be a little late but this is my opinion I am usually a firm believer in telling th man to be fair to him and the child however.... If he is going to physically or emotionally harm you dont do it! Yet on the other hand you could also tell him and if he gets upset just tell him he doesnt have to be in the babys life but you just thought he deserved to know... Maybe if you tell him that he'll grow up and come to a liking of the idea?
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