Well I was with this guy for a year. My
longest relationship before him was about
2 months lol, so being with him for a year
was amazing. We fell in love and
everything went well for about 3 months
after that. He then lost his job and his
house, so he moved in with me, he then
lost his car. So thats when our
relationship went downhill. One night I
went to my friends house to get away from
the hell and miserableness I was going
through and I found out he was out with
one of his old friends that was into drugs
and things. So I got very upset and felt
the relationship should be over, because
of previous reasons, he hit me and such.
So he left and went to that friends house.
I was still in love with him and just
couldnt leave. I begged for him back and
he was the one I lost my virginity too, so
of course he was special. He said he
missed me too and we continued to see each
other for about a week, when strange girls
began calling his cell phone and I finally
found out he was cheating on me. I
immediately dumped him and gave up on him.
He found a different girl and began going
out with her, I am now with someone I care
very much about. But sometimes I still
remember good times with him and miss him
a little. He was my first love. I heard
he was moving down south and I feel like
im gonna miss him? Why do I feel this
way??
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003 Posts: 5286
Your Going to Be Attached to Him Forever... Posted: 10-15-03 19:02pm
Because you lost a part of you to him, and
this is normal... But you have to find
someone that you are truely happy with.
However it's not always going to be
wonderful. Like I posted, i'm happy that
you are not planning on having sex again
(anytime soon) and that you should work
things out with your bf (now). As for
your ex, and as was explained to me in the
"marriage..." post, this guy is an ex for
a reason and you need to think of all the
reasons y. There is no reason to go back
and he should remain to be labeled "ex".
Good luck sweetheart,
jennifer
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niceguy
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Aug 2003 Posts: 150 Location: New York
Keep His Memories Alive Posted: 10-15-03 21:38pm
Thats why they say a girl never forgets
her first love. For you he will
always be special because he won your
heart the first time.
But at this point you should be practical,
even though it hurts a lot.
Try not to let his memories get in the way
of future relationships including your
current one.
He is gone. Face that fact and move on.
But continue to love the moments you
shared with him.
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phil dennison
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2003 Posts: 71 Location: illinois
Dr.dennison Posted: 11-17-03 17:28pm
You just seem out of the ordinary. Any
one I know would be gone the first smack
and forget about him and be happy that he
didn't find your pocket knife. Well you
must see it as champion wrestling. I
suggest the three "g"
get over it
get away from it
get on with your life. Oh ya' I forgat
one
good luck.
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expectingjoshua
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Dec 2003 Posts: 30 Location: Canada
You're Better Off! Posted: 12-15-03 17:01pm
Having experienced something kinda
similar, I know that sometimes I still
miss my ex too. When I was 14, I started
dating this guy and our relationship
lasted 7 months. I knew that at that
point he had cheated on my once (within
the first month of our relationship to
boot!) and figured I was better off
without him. So we stayed apart for two
months, and then got back together for
another three or so. It was a very
up-and-down year for me, and after all was
said and done I found out that he had been
cheating on me a lot more than I had ever
realized or ever would have imagined. And
although he never raised a hand to me, the
emotional stuff was more than enough pain
for me at that point.
My advice? Accept that you may always
have feelnigs for him. I still do, and it
has been nearly 6 years since i've even
seen him, much less spoken to him! I rack
it up to the fact that I lost my virginity
to him, he was the first guy I ever loved
as more than a friend, and losses such as
these always hurt. But am I better off
without him?
Much! I wish him all the happiness, but
someone else can deal with his crap!
Best of luck!
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saturn24
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Nov 2003 Posts: 205 Location: Pittsburgh, Pa
Posted: 12-16-03 22:54pm
You feel that way because you loved and
supported him. You never quit loving
someone. Even though you are in love
with someone else, you will never forget
the good times with someone else. But
look at it this way, yes you are much
better off. He found some other girl to
support him. Better her than you. Men,
or women for that matter, who need someone
to carry them are not worth it. Unless
it is a mutual decision for only one
partner to work. And I am sure that you
didn't like carrying him. And you said
that he hit you? That right there should
have been goodbye time.
But anyway, don't feel guilty about
thinking of him occasionally. It will
slowly go away until it is completely
gone.
