Argh! Stress Is Killing My Sex Life!!!! Help!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Saying this from the wise female point of view that I have lol...Dont worry about her past buddy- shes with you right now- not anyone else- the more you think about her past, the worse its gonna make you feel- why should you feel bad though? Theres no reason to- remember that who she is now has been formed by all the things she has done in her life, including her past sexual relationships- this girls leaving soon- make the time count with her or youll regret it- dont fret, really dont fret- life is too short-

I thank you for your response. But with my below average penis length
(5 1/3 - 6' inches) I feel I hardly stand a chance against the cabana boys, and thick accented sexual monsters with 9 inch manhoods that she talks about were so good.

I've come to understand this is an insecurity issue. Things aren't really going my way...Since i'm already overweight slightly...And the fat around my pubic session hides the shaft of my penis.

So I end up looking like i'm hung like a stud horse..........Fly.

If I could some how get over this issue by saturday, i'd feel like this week of spending time together would have been so worth it. She's offered oral sex to me, and begs to allow me to let her touch my penis...But I can't seem to get over my insecurity with her.

I care about her so much, and this self-worthlessness issue has never been a problem with any of my ex girlfriends...Until now.

I don't know why I can't make my sexual side work with her.

Especially when it's been all i've wanted to do for so long now.

Its time to take a step up to the plate champ!
Firstly, a confident man is a sexy man- fake it if you have to , but never show a lack of confidence-
secondly, the size of your dick isnt the most important thing in the world- get over it already- if shes with you, shes with you for you, not for the size of your wang-
thirdly, you have a woman begging to touch your penis- let her-
fourthly- if you feel so bad about yourself ( you mentioned your weight) do something about it- get your ass to the gym and make it happen- saying is one thing, doing is another-
fifthly- everyone has something about themselves they dont like- but you either learn to love it, or continue to hate it- learn to love it bud!

Ok, I need your help...To walk through this....Ok? I took a step up tonight. I grew an erection with her stroking my pants on the outside. Submitted to letting her rub my penis (which didn't get flaccid surprisingly this time) through my boxers. She felt the full length of it...And said it wasn't small.

I made the comment "so you enjoy, stroking my small penis, don't you?"

she uh then....Agreed it was small. Lol....

Later, she asked if I was insecure about my small manhood...And I just lied and said "no".

Thats as far as i've gotten. I don't know what to do now...Because there is only certain positions I can sit, or lay in to make myself look bigger then I am...By pushing down on the shaft.

Each of these positions though, aren't ones that make it possible for vaginal intercourse.

If I was to get in that position...Because of the fat around my pubic section....I'd look like I was 3 inches total.

Grrrrr!!!!!!! this insecurity is killing me! Give me the next step! Please!

Good job on the first step----thing is though, she sound have never said such a mean thing to you- that, to me, would piss me off- she has no right- second, dont lie to her- if she can spot it, no sense in lying- might as well be open with her- thirdly, stop worrying about how you look- women dont think about hwo fat or small you are, they care about doing it you and pleasing you!

I'm not worried so much about my fat. I'm simply saying that because of my being overweight....It hinders my already small size...To look even smaller then what it is. The fat hides my shaft length...Unless I push down on either sides of my penis.

It did piss me off, that she agreed it was small. But what can I do? I have to accept the truth, that 5 3/4's - 6 inches isn't much of a penis when shes used to bigger sizes.

Tonight the pressure is on...She wants to make love...And because of this stress....I find the only way she can get me hard is by stroking me...Or rubbing against me.

I'll try something...And hopefully see what happens.

Okay, I realize guys have this idea that if they aren't 10 inches then they're little, but it's sooo not true!!! The average length of an erect penis is 5.5 inches. 5.5!!!! So you're not small, you're normal. Frankly, I don't see how anyone could enjoy 9 inches, that would rip something important.

Coming from a girl's perspective, someone who's had to listen to guys say they're little all the time, I understand why she said what she did. I mean, think about it...When a girl constantly says she's fat, or ugly, doesn't it make you want to just agree so she'll shut up?? Well, when guys constantly say they're little, and won't accept the fact that we don't think they are, it gets annoying. I told my ex he was the littlest man i'd ever met, even though he wasn't, because his constant whining about it pissed me off!!

Daile

I feel like utter nothingness. I entered her half erect. It was all I could do.

It felt so good in there. But my penis went soft again. And it's everything I can do, from punching the walls, and slamming things in a fit of rage.

She quoted as I got frustrated and walked off "i didn't even get off, once."

i walked out of the room, started smoking, and my eyes watered up. She doesn't even want to talk to me. And thats fine, because i'm not going to be doing any talking for a long time now.

I couldn't even please her.

I......Just....Don't know anymore. I'm sleeping on the guest bed tonight. I can't stand the shame of even looking at her anymore.

I have an update :

after finally tossing away my insecurity, I gave in...And let her give me a "woman's touch".

Sure enough, she was right. As soon as she started preforming oral sex on me, she took back her comment that I was small. I had never seen my penis get so hard or big before in my life.

I wondered if maybe all I really needed was the boost of confidence that she gave me.

Immediately after getting hard...(for the real, first time all last week) I would start engaging in sex with her, in several different positions. She kept an open mind and it was great...

...Kinda.

I could remain hard, but only for 2 minutes or so before the consistent action of me penetrating her...Caused my penis to slowly die down from it's erection.

It wasn't that bad, because she still got off on it after several attempts and she was happy/satisfied.

My only problem was, that I couldn't ejactulate, and that I couldn't remain hard inside her.

Well, she left for the army yesterday...And I woke up last night with a big erection. I settled for masturbation and I got rid of a lot of pent up frustration (i didn't know a man could ejaculate as much as I did). With her here all week, I found I couldn't even get myself hard.

But as soon as she left, surprisingly enough it was easy for me.

So I guess this all boils down to issues of insecurity that i'm obviously going to have to get over.

Do you think counseling of any kind might be needed for finality of this problem? Or do you think this problem was a one time error in my sex life that only happened because of my nervousness to have sexual relations with a best friend?

Any help would be greatly appreciated.