Questions That Need Some Answers Posted: 11-14-04 08:22am
I am currently having a few problems and I
would like to have them dealt with before
my finals because it is driving me
insane.
My roommate, according to her, had sex
back in september (protected) and is
convinced she is pregnant. She has been
taking about her suspicions to me since...
You guessed it, since then. She had not
missed her period and but is convinced she
is pregnant. She is also convinced her
belly is getting large (but I don't notice
it) she also complains of her breasts
getting bigger (which I also don't
notice). This has resulted in her being
on our scale every 15 minutes to see if
she had gained weight because she is
pregant.
In trying to lay her suspicions once and
for all and hoping that I may get some
sleep, is she or is she not pregnant?
I've also been trying desperately to get
her to take a test but she absolutely
refuses even when I offer to go with her.
And if she does take the test how do I
comfort her if it's positive or negative?
I mean I know she doesn't want the baby
but is there more than that? Once again
i'm sorry for writing such a long post but
I really want to lay this matter to rest
so everyone in the apartment can get some
peace.
Tell her she needs to do a test. And what
ever the outcome you will be there to talk
to. Thats what friends are for
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purple333
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Joined: 01 Dec 2003 Posts: 1420 Location: Sydney
Posted: 11-15-04 02:20am
She's being melodramatic & causing you
worry & stress she's not being
sensible & she's not being a good
friend tell her to either shut up &
let you study or go & get a test -
also tell her that you'll be ther for her
whatever the outcome of the test but
you're not going to keep putting up with
her carrying on like this.
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minty
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Joined: 14 Nov 2004 Posts: 3
Posted: 11-15-04 08:58am
I have been trying to convince her to get
a test but she has simply just refuses.
I'm not quite sure what the reason is as I
have even offered to go with her or buy it
for her. How long if, she is pregnant,
(which I believe she is not) would it
become dangerous for her not to see a
doctor?
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mommax3
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
Posted: 11-15-04 09:42am
minty
wrote:
i have been trying to
convince her to get a test but she has
simply just refuses. I'm not quite sure
what the reason is as I have even offered
to go with her or buy it for her. How
long if, she is pregnant, (which I believe
she is not) would it become dangerous for
her not to see a
doctor?
i think she just wants attention and she
knows if she takes the test and it is neg,
which is probably what she really expects,
she won;t be able to hang it over your
heads all days as something to draw
attention to herself. Does that make
sense?
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BeckLyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2004 Posts: 476
Posted: 11-15-04 09:43am
These days they tell women to always get
checked out. They're can always be a
prob u aren't aware of unless going to the
doc. Tell her she needs to take a test
cuz something could go wrong with her body
or the baby. Ur a good friend, but tell
her that unless she takes a test, u don't
want to hear about it anymore. U have ur
own problems. What ever the outcome is,
ull be there for her. Sounds like she
either wants attention, or she says she
doesn't want a baby but really does...
Good luck on ur finals
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mommax3
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
Posted: 11-15-04 09:45am
becklyn
wrote:
good luck on ur
finals
yeah ditto, .G/.L !!!!
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minty
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Joined: 14 Nov 2004 Posts: 3
Posted: 11-16-04 20:47pm
I thought i'd keep everyone updated with
my "current" situation. I did as
everyone adviced and gave her my bottom
line. I was met up with a lot of
resistence and with a lot of angry words
but she finally agreed. I went out and
bought the test and let her take it. It
came out negative but she is still
convinced that she is still pregnant.
And as I have read on here that the test
can lie. So I suggested a blood test
since it seems to be more accurate. Is
this necessary or can this be put to rest
once and for all?
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bluebubble888
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Joined: 21 Oct 2004 Posts: 499
Posted: 11-16-04 22:04pm
She will obvioulsy not rest untill she has
been told by a Dr. That she is not
pregnant!!!
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jessamyn
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Posted: 11-16-04 22:49pm
I honestly do not think she is pregnant at
all send her to get a blood test
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mommax3
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
Posted: 11-17-04 07:32am
jessamyn
wrote:
i honestly do not think she
is pregnant at all send her to get a blood
test
again, ditto...On with the blood test, I
really (all caps) think this girl just
wants attention
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BeckLyn
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Joined: 04 Nov 2004 Posts: 476
Posted: 11-17-04 10:05am
I agree w/ everyone else. Send her to
get a blood test. That wont be wrong.
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LilJewelz0714
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Joined: 17 Nov 2004 Posts: 7 Location: Maryland
She Just Wants Attention Posted: 11-17-04 10:48am
minty
wrote:
i thought i'd keep everyone
updated with my "current" situation. I
did as everyone adviced and gave her my
bottom line. I was met up with a lot of
resistence and with a lot of angry words
but she finally agreed. I went out and
bought the test and let her take it. It
came out negative but she is still
convinced that she is still pregnant.
And as I have read on here that the test
can lie. So I suggested a blood test
since it seems to be more accurate. Is
this necessary or can this be put to rest
once and for
all?
I have two diff. Possible opinions on
this situation, one is that this girl,
simply wanted attention since the whole
situation started. I think that maybe
initially she really thought she might
have been pregnant, and liked the
attention that she got, and now even
though she knows that she isn't, still
wants the attention so continues to
pretend she is pregnant, and is refusing
the blood test b/c she wants attention. I
know some one who did this same thing
several times (pretending to be pregnant),
and the funny part is a year later when
she least expected it she got pregnant.
My other opinion would have to be that
secretly this girl really wants a baby so
she is believing that she is pregnant, and
is just letting everyone else think she
doesn't want to be pregnant, and is
refusing the blood test b/c she doesn't
want to face the reality that she isn't
pregnant at all. Good luck to your whole
situation, everything will eventually work
out. If she is really pregnant after all,
congrats to her.
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querida
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Joined: 16 Nov 2004 Posts: 13 Location: Kansas City, MO
Posted: 11-17-04 11:11am
Instead of trying to convince her that
she's not pregnant (which she obviously
doesn't want to hear, for whatever
reason), try taking the approach of
agreeing with her.
"yes, roomie, if you say you're pregnant
despite the fact that you're getting your
period, not showing any other signs of
pregnancy, and have had a negative urine
test, then I trust your instinct about
your body." then advise her to deal with
the realities of pregnancy. Start eating
right. Cut out alcohol and caffeine. Get
on prenatal vitamins. No more unprotected
sex (because the risk of stds now affects
her baby as well as her). Make an
appointment to start prenatal care. If
there is a question of whether she is
going to keep the baby, she needs to make
a decision soon regarding abortion,
adoption, or whatever, so she needs to get
in with a counselor to help with that
decision asap. She needs to sit down with
the baby-daddy and have a talk about the
whole situation.
Even though she's most likely not
pregnant, it's not going to hurt her to
act like she is for a couple of weeks.
And this approach will get her in to see
the professionals who can tell her once
and for all that she is not pregnant (and
advise her on how to avoid scares like
this in the future), and possibly get to
the heart of why she is so insistent that
she is.
