Well I have 2 questions in here. One is
that before I never wanted my guy to go
down on me. My guy has never done that
before on anybody either, but now I want
to know how it feels. I dont know how to
ask him. I want to try it but I dont know
how. Or how to lead him. What should I
do?
Second is that the sex has always been
great. But lately when we do it, it
hurts. Like if its giving me cramps. And
sometimes it stings. I dont know whats
wrong there. But the cramps is what more
bothers me because it happened a few times
already.
Any advice is appreciated!
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dominique
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Oct 2003 Posts: 83
Posted: 10-17-03 15:35pm
I can't really help you on the sex part of
your question because i'm a virgin.
However, it seems to me that if you and
your boyfriend are close enough to be
having sex you should be close enough to
bring up embarrising questions such as
yours. If you want to try something new
then why don't you just bring it up? Let
him know that he doesn't have to if he
feels uncomfortable but you thought it
might be fun.
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babybooz
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2003 Posts: 56 Location: Freddy NB, Canada
Some Advice... Posted: 10-17-03 16:10pm
Well, for the oral sex topic, ask him. He
might even be waiting for you to mention
it first. If you two are close, and have
been together for a long time i'm sure he
would be understanding about it. Sex is a
bigger step than oral, and not so
dangerous! :d just bring it up casually
sometime, he may feel uncomfortable if you
put him on the spot in bed. Secondly, I
am not a virgin. I have had that problem
too... And since you two have been having
sex for a while, its not because your not
used to it, or hes extremely large ( a lot
of guys like to think that )... But you
might not be using enough lubricant...
Try that. If you use latex this would
occur too, because it oftens irritates.
Wish you luck!
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babybooz
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 15 Oct 2003 Posts: 56 Location: Freddy NB, Canada
Some More Advice... Posted: 10-17-03 16:12pm
Sorry, I forgot about the cramps... It
might be a position that you are used to.
Try some new ones, sometimes we just act
up on certain occassions. If it presist,
see a doc! No biggie...
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destiny*
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Oct 2003 Posts: 3 Location: Calif.
Posted: 10-17-03 16:33pm
Oh hes not my boyfriend...I put my guy
(oops) hes my husband! And id feelf weird
because I had always told him, even before
we were married that I never wanted anyone
to go down on me. And he said ok, he
never did it so hes ok with not doing it.
But now I feel like I spoke too soon
because now I would like to try. I might
ask him then.
Babybooz thanks about the lubricant. Ill
try that. We did use a condom recently
and that irritated me alot! I said "take
it off!!!" because im on birth control.
Thanks too dominique!
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sparklypixie12
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Joined: 17 Sep 2003 Posts: 3099
Posted: 10-21-03 13:53pm
Shshs
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jessicaramsey
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Joined: 21 Oct 2003 Posts: 23 Location: arkanasas
Enjoy Posted: 10-22-03 00:30am
Give a guy head is soo much fun and most
guy like it and having a guy go down on
you is almost better then sex and since
your married just set him down and him if
you can try some thing new and tell him
that u have been thinking and that u
wonder what it well be like if he went
down on you and tell him you want to know
if he want him to let you give him head
when it come to giving head slow start
with the head working your way down and
suck and hell tell you harder if he thinks
it needs to be harder and when a guy gaze
down on you it is like having sex but
instead of useing a dick he uses his
toung
i hope u enjoy
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callalizzy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2003 Posts: 1 Location: IL
Oral Sex Posted: 10-22-03 01:46am
I would certainly recommend that you and
your hubby talk about this subject...One
of the best things about my husband's and
my sexual relationship is that we feel
free to communicate about every aspect of
it. We never feel inhibited, and
consequently, have great sex! As for oral
sex specifically, I must say that it is
the most wonderful feeling in the world.
I have never acheived orgasm from actual
penetration alone...And I always have the
best (even multiple) orgasms from oral
sex. Try it, you'll like it!
As far ar your cramping and discomfort
goes, I would recommend seeing your
physician, just to rule anything medical
out. And lubricant is a good
idea...Also...Condoms suck, i'm allergic
to the spermacide they sometimes have in
them, and have been really ouchy after
using them in the past. Good luck!
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JamieMc
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Jan 2004 Posts: 9 Location: Germany
I Have Seen a Lot of Great Ides Above Posted: 01-04-04 07:18am
Hey this is jamie a man. I never did
that till a women touched my lips and told
me she wanted to feel them some where else
and for some reason that did it. I also
think talking about it is great but you
are a little nervous about it and I will
admit being a man in the heat of the
moment you could ask for just about
anything and we would do it so you could
try that or do as one of my femlae friends
did with her boy friendthey experimented
with food grapes and whip cream off of
eachother but he never went down on her
untill one day they both were worked up
she sprayed a little whipcream down there
and he did it with out relizing it at
first then he asked her if it was ok to
continue. I hope any of these things
help you out. Jamie
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usaineurope
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Jan 2004 Posts: 3 Location: Budapest, Europe
Posted: 01-12-04 10:06am
Hmmm, well I think that everyone has great
ideas here! I hope that being married
that you could talk about these things
because deep down he is probly wishing
that you would just "go down" on him too.
So maybe you could 69?? Then you both
would get enjoyment out of a new
experience. Have fun
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eva duken
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Joined: 10 Jan 2004 Posts: 4 Location: San Antonio Texas
Oral Sex Posted: 01-12-04 12:47pm
I know this has topic has bin around for a
while. But liked to put my 5 cents into
it. This is for the lady who does and yet
who does not want it. I am a 68 year old
women. Very active in my sex life with my
husband. Had the same dilemma in the
beginning of my marriage. Never knew how
to approach the subject. So I started to
nibble a little lover and lover on my
husbands body, just little kisses here and
there. And that all she wrote. He got
the message. Bin married for close to 25
years. Never have bin more satisfied then
from the day we started this. At our age
there are days he just cant get an
erection the way he used to. But as he
can satisfy me, I do the same for him by
having oral sex with him. In a marriage
there are no secrets and talking about the
needs you or he may have will be the best
way to keep it good. As long as both of
you can satisfy each other, he or you will
never wonder what it could be like. You
need to find ways of talking to each other
and not let shame about any subject stand
in your way. I will be 69 in a few more
days. But have no intention to let it
stand in my way. Age is a date on my
calendar, not in my mind. You are a women
who wonders, do something about it. You
may be surpised of the reactions you will
have have from your guy. Good luck.
The birdlady
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Helpingfriend
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Joined: 16 Jan 2004 Posts: 11
See American Pie Posted: 01-20-04 09:39am
I have been in the same place witht he
whole oral sex thing. I just put in the
movie american pie and when I got to the
part when the one guy eats out his girl
friend, I was like wow maybe that wouldn't
be so bad. He got the clue and it was
great.
