How to Tell Ur Parents... Posted: 11-20-04 06:04am
Well I hope this is the right forum...I
guess it is, since i'm still a
teen...Anyways, I was just wondering
what's a good way to tell ur parents? Cuz
my parents don't know anything about my
sex life and my mom would kill me if she
found out... I mean, she's gonna have to
find out some day, but i'm still in
university, i'm not even living with my
parents at the moment, how did all u break
it to ur parents... I'm just too scared.
I told the father and he doesn't think
it's his, even though he's the only one
i've ever been with, but that doesn't
matter, we're not together anymore
anyways...The point is, I have no idea
what i'm going to tell my parents...Do u
have any ideas?
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 11-20-04 07:51am
The best way is to be candid and tell them
the truth (who is easier to talk to first
mom or dad). A lot of parents will blow
their top to start with - don't let this
get you down (well not too bad) because
most will come round and cool off
shortly.
Good luck and deep breath...
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 11-20-04 08:15am
I don't know who I would tell first, cuz
my dad doesn't say a hell of a lot, so I
wouldn't know how he's feeling, but my mom
would probably kill me... One of my best
friends told me that if I ever needed to,
I could come live with him in ottawa and
he would take care of me...I don't know
what i'm gonna do. My mom always said I
shouldn't have kids before 25.... Plus,
my dad doesn't even know about the last bf
I don't think.... I never told him....But
my mom might have, I don't know.
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noodleandshorty
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Jan 2004 Posts: 1410 Location: burlington
Posted: 11-20-04 09:25am
I called my mom on the phone and told her,
she wasnt happy at first but now she just
loves mackenzie to death, she ended up
tellin my dad and he loves my daughter
also. Its best just to tell them the
truth and dont hide it. I thought my
parents would kill me but they took the
news better than I thought they would.
Good luck
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 11-20-04 09:36am
Thanks i'm sure they would
be ok with it eventually, but after I find
out whether or not I actually am, I think
I might wait til I go home for christmas
to tell them. I think i'd rather do it in
person....I just don't know how they'll
react at first...
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Kia
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Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 11-20-04 12:09pm
Yeah, best make sure first lol you don't
wanna go through telling them then have
to..... Untell them that would be so hard
to do.
Do you want to be pregnant I mean were you
ttc?
Good luck
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sarahsweet
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2004 Posts: 2485 Location: traverse city, michigan
Posted: 11-20-04 12:20pm
Oh man---im glad you posted this, very
good question! When I found out, I think
I was more scared about telling my parents
more than anything else. They are very
strict catholics and expect a lot from me
and my sister (who is 1. I told my
sister, and it was right before she was
supposed to go off to college this last
semester, so she actually wanted me to
wait to tell them until after she left
(lol..Ha! She still had 3 weeks before
she left for school) she just didnt want
to deal with their wrath. Anyway, I went
no more than a week before I couldnt deal
with it anymore, called my mom up and told
her straight out. She made me call my
dad and tell him too. Very hard thing to
do. Specially when you ahve parents like
mine. Oh believe me, they were mad for a
week or two, told me what they thought and
what I should do (wanted adoption) but I
stuck up for myself, told them how things
were going to be, what I wanted with this,
and now they are nothing but supportive.
Good luck hunny, everything will be ok.
Your parents love you no matter what, that
will never change.
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 11-20-04 15:24pm
kia_breizzze
wrote:
yeah, best make sure first
lol you don't wanna go through telling
them then have to..... Untell them that
would be so hard to do.
Do you want to be pregnant I mean were you
ttc?
Good luck
yeah I know what u mean, i'm try to put it
off as long as I can, figuring I might now
be. And no I wasn't ttc... Although it's
definitely not unwanted if I am
pregnant...
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Kia
Supporter
Joined: 23 Jun 2004 Posts: 6594 Location: Planet Tampaxia,
Posted: 11-20-04 15:27pm
[quote="justacanadiangirland no I wasn't
ttc... Although it's definitely not
unwanted if I am pregnant...[/quote]
i know exactly what you mean - that was me
too.
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 11-20-04 15:28pm
sarahsweet
wrote:
oh man---im glad you posted
this, very good question! When I found
out, I think I was more scared about
telling my parents more than anything
else. They are very strict catholics
and expect a lot from me and my sister
(who is 1. I told my
sister, and it was right before she was
supposed to go off to college this last
semester, so she actually wanted me to
wait to tell them until after she left
(lol..Ha! She still had 3 weeks before
she left for school) she just didnt want
to deal with their wrath. Anyway, I
went no more than a week before I couldnt
deal with it anymore, called my mom up and
told her straight out. She made me call
my dad and tell him too. Very hard
thing to do. Specially when you ahve
parents like mine. Oh believe me, they
were mad for a week or two, told me what
they thought and what I should do (wanted
adoption) but I stuck up for myself, told
them how things were going to be, what I
wanted with this, and now they are nothing
but supportive. Good luck hunny,
everything will be ok. Your parents love
you no matter what, that will never
change.
thanks for ur advice I know my parents
will still love me, but i'm just scared of
what they'll think of me. I know they
already would think of me as the "bad
child", especially after my sister who
doesn't drink, doesn't go out and have
sex, does really well in school...I know
they want me to be like her, but I just
can't help it. I'm nothing like her...
Well I guess i'll see what happens and see
if I have to tell them. Thanks again.
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sarahsweet
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2004 Posts: 2485 Location: traverse city, michigan
Posted: 11-20-04 15:45pm
Wow!! Sounds like me and my sister!! The
thing is, when we were in highschool, I
was always always the bad one. Didnt get
good enough grades, snuck out of the
house, got 3 minor in possesion of alcohol
(mips) (lol..I dont know how I managed
that one) and was with the guy they never
wanted me to be with. My sister on the
other hand, did some drugs (i was never
into drugs) and got away with it because
my parents were so focused on me and my
troubles. So she has always been the
perfect one. Then I get
pregnant...Geesh...To top it off.
However, I know they still love me just as
much, and cant change what decisions I
make. You have to think this way. You
are you, even if it is not what they want
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 11-20-04 21:23pm
sarahsweet
wrote:
wow!! Sounds like me and
my sister!! The thing is, when we were
in highschool, I was always always the bad
one. Didnt get good enough grades,
snuck out of the house, got 3 minor in
possesion of alcohol (mips) (lol..I dont
know how I managed that one) and was with
the guy they never wanted me to be with.
My sister on the other hand, did some
drugs (i was never into drugs) and got
away with it because my parents were so
focused on me and my troubles. So she
has always been the perfect one. Then I
get pregnant...Geesh...To top it off.
However, I know they still love me just as
much, and cant change what decisions I
make. You have to think this way. You
are you, even if it is not what they
want
yeah, that was me in high school. I was
the bad one, getting the "bad" grades (not
all as and bs like my sis), not having the
perfect friends, or the perfect rep....But
yeah, I know what ur talking about it.
And I would just love to top all of that
off with being pregnant at 18...
but yeah, I guess i'll give u an update, I
went to the clinic today to get a test,
but noooooo they wouldn't see me cuz I
don't have my carecard with me. oh i'm so mad at
them! So I guess i'll have to wait til
mon or tues and go get a test from my
school....I hope I can do that. But
anyways, i'll give u all an update
then....
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sarahsweet
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2004 Posts: 2485 Location: traverse city, michigan
Posted: 11-20-04 21:29pm
Oh opps I thought you already knew you
were pregnant. Well good luck to you!!
Do you have a supportive boyfriend to go
thru all this with?? Let me know what
happens with the test!! Worry about that
first, then your parents. Your parents
will always be your parents, and 20 years
down the road, you will have forgot all
about this worrying you put yourself
through!! Good luck hunny!
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sarahsweet
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2004 Posts: 2485 Location: traverse city, michigan
Posted: 11-20-04 21:29pm
Oh opps I thought you already knew you
were pregnant. Well good luck to you!!
Do you have a supportive boyfriend to go
thru all this with?? Let me know what
happens with the test!! Worry about that
first, then your parents. Your parents
will always be your parents, and 20 years
down the road, you will have forgot all
about this worrying you put yourself
through!! Good luck hunny!
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 11-20-04 21:46pm
No, unfortunately, I don't have a
supportive boyfriend. That a-hole accused
me of sleeping around and doesn't talk to
me anymore, not that I care... But yeah,
I don't see how he can accuse me of that
when he knows he's the only one i've been
with...health question...Anyways, I have a
lot of supportive ppl in my life who can
help me through this, I don't been him.
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sarahsweet
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004 Posts: 2485 Location: traverse city, michigan
Posted: 11-20-04 21:58pm
Im sure he is in denial about the fact
that he may be responsible for being a
daddy soon. Its very scarey, and
unfortunately young guys act upon this
imaturely. But you are right, you dont
need him anyway. You will be just fine
no matter what happens from here on out!
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 11-20-04 22:56pm
Yeah well, my ex was all keen on being a
good daddy when he had kids since his dad
was never around, and now that he might
have the chance, he runs, but that's fine,
I don't need my baby having an immature
father around who can't face his own
problems. Plus, I have so many men in my
life who support me and love me that my
baby would never be without a father-like
figure...I'm very thankful for that...
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 11-20-04 23:08pm
Whatever you do just dont wait until it
becomes noticable, like kia said deep
breath and they'll love you no matter what
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mommax3
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
Posted: 11-20-04 23:41pm
little_woman
wrote:
whatever you do just dont
wait until it becomes noticable, like kia
said deep breath and they'll love you no
matter what
yeah, that would suck, honey it looks like
you are gaining a little weight
reply.. Nope i'm pregnant!
Not the way to go...Good luck girl
hoping the best for you!!
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004 Posts: 1803
Posted: 11-20-04 23:58pm
mommax3
wrote:
little_woman
wrote:
whatever you do just dont
wait until it becomes noticable, like kia
said deep breath and they'll love you no
matter what
yeah, that would suck, honey it looks like
you are gaining a little weight
reply.. Nope i'm pregnant!
Not the way to go...Good luck girl
hoping the best for
you!!
haha yeah for some reason I don't think
that would go over too well...But yeah, u
guys are right...If I actually am, i'll
have to tell them soon. We'll see what
happens....
i'm sure they would
be ok with it eventually, but after I find
out whether or not I actually am, I think
I might wait til I go home for christmas
to tell them. I think i'd rather do it in
person....I just don't know how they'll
react at first...
. I told my
sister, and it was right before she was
supposed to go off to college this last
semester, so she actually wanted me to
wait to tell them until after she left
(lol..Ha! She still had 3 weeks before
she left for school) she just didnt want
to deal with their wrath. Anyway, I went
no more than a week before I couldnt deal
with it anymore, called my mom up and told
her straight out. She made me call my
dad and tell him too. Very hard thing to
do. Specially when you ahve parents like
mine. Oh believe me, they were mad for a
week or two, told me what they thought and
what I should do (wanted adoption) but I
stuck up for myself, told them how things
were going to be, what I wanted with this,
and now they are nothing but supportive.
Good luck hunny, everything will be ok.
Your parents love you no matter what, that
will never change.
but yeah, I guess i'll give u an update, I
went to the clinic today to get a test,
but noooooo they wouldn't see me cuz I
don't have my carecard with me. 
oh i'm so mad at
them! So I guess i'll have to wait til
mon or tues and go get a test from my
school....I hope I can do that. But
anyways, i'll give u all an update
then....