funny how some americans are-it's so diff up here

eh????? Lol

No I don't have any children at all, let alone mixed ones. I am honestly just speaking from the experience I had growing up. I knew children that felt this way. Like I said (or maybe I didn't...) things could have changed a little bit since then. I am just concerned for the children. They need to feel accepted and need to be able to accept themselves. I am not racial guys, just concerned...

haha eh... Lol I agree with u though. It is sooo different up here.

i am concerned for all children. Especially mine of course, but all children are at risk for being picked on or made fun of. Kids being cruel in general hasn't changed.

True. I just feel that we should do what we can to prevent them for having more reasons to be made fun of. Its going to depend on where u live on how accepted they r. And that should be something a mixed couple thinks about before conceiving. I just think since you love ur kids and want the best for them, ur going to want to make it safer and easier for them... U should be able to relocate if nec. For ur kids. For instance my b/f is very racial, and the town he is from is. It sucks, I hate his remarks. But the reality of it is that there r a lot of people still like that out there, and its best to steer clear of them. It won't be teaching them anything, but at least ur children won't suffer through the torment. Does that make any sense?

I understand exactly what you're saying. Please don't take offense when I say this, but unfortunately you and your boyfriend are why mixed couples have to worry more about their children. Say you and your boyfriend have children and they grow up hearing negative things about other races. Or you have children with someone else, and your child comes home one day and says, "mom they are making fun of this kid because his mom is black and his dad is white." and, you tell him it isn't right or whatever. But, later with your husband you bring it up again, and say when I was in school biracial children were made fun of too. Or whatever. The thing is your child will hear that, and subconsiously they start to think differently about different races. That is how all our minds work. Your brain can't seperate what is true and not, what is real and not, it just takes everything in as information. Also, my husband has experienced much racism and he is 100% african-american. So, I guess the only people that can have children without worrying that they will be treated differently, because of their race, are white couples. Oh yeah, heterosexual white couples. There are many more children with gay parents these days too. How will they be treated?

im confused....You said your boyfriend is very racial or watever and then you said the best solution is to steer clear of them....How are you going to say something like that if your own man is racial????

On a personal note... To me it doesnt matter what anyone thinks about me or my childrens (color). As long as you are a great parent and you raise your children with morals and standards, and also raise them to know ignorance. It will never bother them what anyone says you know the motto sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me. I don't know about anyone else but I raise my children to love and not hate. So if someone calls you a name or says something about your race just let them know that you appreciate there opinion and that you love them too. As long as you raise your children to know and not covent them then it will be fine. I hope I said all of this right.

I feel that if you go so far to "protect" your kids from being teased that you try to determine their race and selecting their father accordingly, then those kids run a serious risk of being brought up to meet conformity at all costs.

Well it really doent matter what color you are there is just so much taunting and teasing that it really doesnt stay with a race it is every race that is teased and taunted and bullied by children and adults.So who knows who cares all I know is that my children are loved and there friends love them for who they are not there skin because through all of the outside we blled the same and we came from the same the person who ate from the apple tree

Amen tazzy girl!

Yeah, the racial thing w/ my b/f. I also didn't know he was so racial before we got so serious. Frankly there's other issues also at this point. I don't nec. See us being together forever. I never make racial comments around the house, work, etc. This post was asking so i'm giving my input. I dont' know everything and am not trying to say I do. I also agree that u can't help who u fall in love with. And I like black men. Never been with one, never had an opportunity. But i'm not saying I wouldn't. I am simply trying to say that kids already have enought probs, who r we to give them more? And i'm not saying that we should stop mixed couples from having kids. It's their right and i'm not against it. I just hope that if they do, they realize the struggles their kids may go through because of it. And it sucks that this is the world we live in, but I have a couple friends who r racist, and I try to keep out of situations that bring this out in them. I don't want to hear and I tell them so, but it doesn't change the way they feel either. They hate. And I can't judge them for it either, cuz then i'd be a hypocrite. Wow, I feel like I could go on forever to try and say what I mean the right way so no one takes offense. Cuz that's not what I want or mean. I simply want u guys to recognize the probs I have seen. And i'm not saying its true with every mixed child. Heck maybe the ones I knew were confused cuz of the way their parents raised them. I don't know that. I just know that they were not happy and no matter how beautiful they were u couldn't give them a better self image.

My bf has a race problem too---he's white but thinks he's black---lol iknow this is a serious topic so just trying to lighten the mood. It's true though. My bf looks just like eminem and is actually a rapper too, he's won competitions in canada and stuff. As for mixed children--

let's see alicia keys seems really happy, mariah carey seems really well...Mariah, craig david-beautifull man, and ther's lots of others. It just takes one ignorant person to hurt a child though, but sheesh if your kid is fat, they'll be made fun of too.

I know all too well about the fat kid thing. My niece is a little heavier than some of her school mates and she claims they tell her things like 'twinky' or something, she even says they wont play with her because they think shes fat. And shes not. If she were to have a growth spurt, she would look evenbetter than she does now.

my first question to you is how old are you?? My second is are you still under their roof?? Your post is telling me your not over 18 or 20. Anyway does it really matter if so & so accepts your baby or not. If they do great!!! If not then to hell with them.I am speaking to you from experience. I have 2 of the most handsome biracial son's that has ever walked the earth. I'm white their dad is black. The oldest is 18 and a senior in h.S. Getting ready to go to college on an athletic scholarship.My younger one is 16. A sophmore and is as athletic as his brother.You can't be worrying with all these stupid people. You've got to put your child first and be thinking about raising this baby to be strong and proud of who he /she is. I hope this helps. You keep your head up!! Your baby is counting on you to do that!!!

Hey

dont worry what other people say, i'm mixed with italian and french and my daughter is half phillipino, my family didnt agree on our relationship but they came to love my husband when we got married. We are all the same flesh and blood, at first I didnt like dark skinned guys and I went out with my husband because of status(popularity) ironically I started to fall for him etc etc..


Keep your head high and forget what other people think remeber that you are better than them because anyone who needs to sink to a level to bug you is stupid.........I wish you luck and hope all goes well!!!

Jess

This topic is really old, but I just wanted to say that her daughter is absolutely beautiful. Looks just like her but with a little darker skin. She is so adorable! Just wanted to say that. Lol I know I didn't contribute at all to this topic. Lol

I believe love who you love no matter what. Marriage and kids usually follow. Yes, fat kids get teased, shy kids get teased, deformity of any kind gets teased, poor kids get teased. So, why make a different choice for who you love, for that reason. God will bless them all, and does.

I have a niece that is 1/2 spanish and she is the most beautiful child ever. And I think white and african american mixed makes the prettiest babies ever.

They call me white--but I am 1/4 american indian,(my dad 1/2 indian) and 1/4 italian,(my mom 1/2 italian) the other 1/2 consists of german, dutch, irish and swede. I am not white by no means, but no box to check when filling out government papers --for what I am. Lol

This is suck a good topic even if it is old.......

It will have to start with us "the parents" to teach our children to not see difference but to imbrace everyone because we are all human. Then when our children are grown and have children they will teach what they have been taught...........The sad thing is we would all have to work together on this in order for it to change our nation....But for now we can start with ourselves and our children...........And make a difference...........

My family is mixed with everything, "no kidden" we have african american, mexican, indian, caucasian....On and on I can go.... I am italian/german my husband is full mexican and my son is stunning!

Some people need to learn to love them selves before they can teach love.....

Love, tammy

never a truer statement been said ---ditto.




I like "my son is stunning"

look at my kids they dont look "white" they look italian


well, my youngest robert--looks like a dark "gringa"