Not Sure What to Say And Nobody to Talk to Posted: 11-20-04 16:51pm
My husband and I have been together for 10
years. We have been married for 3. We
have never discussed children. He is 30
and I am 28 soon to be 29. I have always
wanted kids and I am only assuming that he
does. But, we never talk about it. All
of our friends have kids. We are both
paramedic/firefighters and our jobs take
alot of our time. I have almost came to
the idea that I will not be having a
child. I figured that if we were going to
have one, we would have already started
discussing it. The rest of my problem is
that my brother in law is proposing to his
girlfriend on xmas. She wants to have a
baby as soon as possible. That is all she
talks about. The inlaws will be so happy
about that, they want grandkids soon. I
don't know what to do. I know that I am
rambling, I was just wondering if anybody
had any advice or input.
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mommax3
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
Posted: 11-20-04 16:57pm
Hi sweetie
all I can say is you should talk to your
husband
if you have been together thislong I am
sure there is nothing you can't talk to
him about, and you probably already know
the best way to go about it
good luck, babies r truly a blessing and I
hope you have that blessing if it what you
really want
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medic2288p
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Nov 2004 Posts: 4 Location: ky
Posted: 11-20-04 17:03pm
Thank you for a reply so fast. I know
that I could probably talk to him about
it, it is just I am always the one to talk
about all of our troubles. He never just
comes out and puts for the effort. This
is not like buying a new car, it is a life
altering thing and I just wish that it
could be a mutual thing instead of me
having to bring it up. This should be
something that married people talk about
and I am not getting any younger. I am
afraid that if I don't suck it up and say
something now, it will be too late before
I do. Thanks again for listening!
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mommax3
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
Posted: 11-20-04 17:11pm
Well, maybe he is thinking about it too
and doesn;t want to make you feel like you
have to be in that role, y aknow what I
mean? But I say go for it, put it out
there, at least then if he isn;t already
he will be thinking on it and you could be
surprised by his reasction
how is he around babies and children?
Lots of luck
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medic2288p
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Nov 2004 Posts: 4 Location: ky
Posted: 11-20-04 17:31pm
Oh, he is wonderful around kids. I used
to be a nanny, along time ago, he had more
to do with the kids than I did. I think
he would be a good dad, but my worry is
that if it is this hard to talk about this
now, how hard will it be if it happens.
Md appts, names, all the stuff that comes
along with it you know?
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3718 Location: , va
Posted: 11-20-04 17:38pm
medic2288p
wrote:
oh, he is wonderful around
kids. I used to be a nanny, along time
ago, he had more to do with the kids than
I did. I think he would be a good dad,
but my worry is that if it is this hard to
talk about this now, how hard will it be
if it happens. Md appts, names, all the
stuff that comes along with it you
know?
you seem to love your husband and vice
versa. If you are scared to talk or dont
want to spark the converstion by him a
card or write him a letter telling him
your feelings.. He will reply to you..
Give it a shot come forward or do it with
the card or letter. Good luck hun you
seem to have you mind set here is your
push/shove good luck
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medic2288p
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Nov 2004 Posts: 4 Location: ky
Posted: 11-20-04 17:40pm
Thank you ladies so much for your help.
It is something that has been bothering me
for awhile and I know it will not get
better if not talked about. I will think
about how I will go about it and I will
let you all know what happens. Thanks
again, you have both been great, aw
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3718 Location: , va
Posted: 11-20-04 17:44pm
medic2288p
wrote:
thank you ladies so much for
your help. It is something that has been
bothering me for awhile and I know it will
not get better if not talked about. I
will think about how I will go about it
and I will let you all know what happens.
Thanks again, you have both been great,
aw
ive got even a better idea... If you have
cable turn on the baby channel when both
of you are home, and make a commit like
that would be nice hun awh look
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mommax3
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
Posted: 11-20-04 17:51pm
Yeah, there you go
good idea tazzy
and if you go with the letter/card, at
least you can get all of your feelings out
there at once without having to stop
if he is excited as you are about it all
of that other stuff just comes along with
the package and is exciting too.....
Besides the most appts for normal preg are
at the end of the preg anyway. Other
than that it is once a month
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3718 Location: , va
Posted: 11-20-04 18:02pm
Unless you are a high risk like me having
a doc appt ever 2 wks
im 13 weeks and 5 days today
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mommax3
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
