I am a single mum,
I have two sons the eldest 10yrs has
autism. It has been really getting to me
as I feel I have no life. That my life is
controlled by my son and his routines. If
I change the routine, the abuse comes. I
have been doind this myself since he has
been 2.
I recently been on antidepressant, but I
still feel hopeless. Help Me.
Kaz
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elan
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Jul 2003 Posts: 2
Strength Posted: 07-25-03 20:33pm
Some people believe you are never given
more than you can handle. It sounds like
you are being challenged to the max. You
sound like you are an amazing person that
you have been handling this for so long.
Just dig deep and realize how lucky you
are to have 2 sones that need you. good
luck. You will be great.
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Patrick B. Asay
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 27 Jul 2003 Posts: 138 Location: Pocatello, ID
Posted: 08-05-03 22:10pm
Kazza, I believe that you will someday
reap your rewards for sowing such a great
harvest full of love, patience, and
endurance toward your sons. Just don't
give up.
You say that you feel you have no life,
but in my heart, I respect a mother who
devotes her full strength to her children
more than a mother who spends half her
strength to her children, having the other
half to party or have fun.
It is very challenging, my son has a mild
degree of it, my g/f son has autism too
more developed form, we find it helpful to
meet other parents with the same
challenges to socialize with, they
understand when our child stems, etc.
Take care of yourself, find your
resources, here in canada you can get
extra help in your home if your a single
mom, called respite care if needed. It
is okay to ask for help. If not make
your own autism support group. It will
help. My g/f son is 10 too, maybe you
like to chat online with her on this
topic.
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Carol_D_mom23
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Sep 2003 Posts: 6 Location: USA - NY
I Know What You Are Going Through(m) Posted: 09-19-03 20:39pm
I have 3 children, the middle, my ds, 5
years old, has autism. I also have
been diagnosed with add, depression, and
anxiety. I am married, but my dh is not
much of support. I, too, feel like I
don't have much of a life. There have
been so many invitations to parties that I
turn down if my husband can't go or if I
can't find a babysitter. And it can't be
just any babysitter, it has to be someone
who is experienced with a special needs
child. There is so much I would like to
share with my children outside the house,
like parks and zoos and town festivals,
but I just can't do it alone, so we stay
home. A social worker at my son's
school, knew of situation, and reached out
to me to be an advocate of us. Because
of her, I will be getting a respite worker
to come to my house 8 hours a week.
Maybe if this person is really good, I can
bring them out with me to help with my dh.
It is very hard to have hope, but every
now and then, something good does happen.
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MasonsMommy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Feb 2004 Posts: 5 Location: Bend,Oregon
Posted: 02-06-04 15:29pm
Yes, my son is almost 4 and I have just
found out that he is autistic. While I am
just starting to go through the aceptance
of autism, I also have lived life as
though in a bubble for the also 4 years.
Mason can't be taken out into public for
very long and certainly not if I can't put
him in stroller or a cart, something that
I can fasten him down.
I don't mind that I am doing this as a
single mom, it's not the parties and
people I miss. What kills me at night is
all of the wonderful things I hoped to do
with/for my son that I can't, the things
that he may never be able to do, I can't
even deal with it, I just try really hard
to look at his face and kiss his cheeks
and know that I love him, and somehow, it
has to be all right.
School is a great place to start, also
check with human services in your area,
they aren't usually much help, but the
school system has been what has saved me
from emotional breakdown.
I am a single mum,
I have two sons the eldest 10yrs has
autism. It has been really getting to me
as I feel I have no life. That my life is
controlled by my son and his routines. If
I change the routine, the abuse comes. I
have been doind this myself since he has
been 2.
