Confused About Genital Herpes Posted: 11-21-04 15:11pm
Hi, i'm a 17 year old male and I found
this forum because I was looking for an
anonymous way to get some answers to a
touchy question. Thanks for
understanding.
I'm starting to worry that I may have
gotten genital herpes somewhere. First,
a little history: I have had one
girlfriend, and she was my only sexual
partner as well. We never had sex, but
we did have oral sex. For about a year
before this (therefore before I ever had
any sexual contact), I have had some red
marks around my genital area that sort of
look like pimples or boils. They come
and go, and they really really itch when
they show up. When the red is gone, the
rashes themselves are still visible as
sort of like hardened skin that don't
itch. The problem was never really all
that bad until after my girlfriend and I
became sexually active. If it matters,
the red marks sometimes also are around my
anus. I apologize for the graphic
details but it might be relevant.
My question is this: how can I find out if
it's an std? As far as I know my
girlfriend (well now my ex girlfriend, not
because of this reason though) does not
have any stds and has never had oral sex
with any of her previous partners. This
is all going on what she told me. If it
is herpes, I don't think I got it from her
because like I said, the itching has been
with me before we were together. Are
there ways to transfer the disease from
other things like showers or toilets?
Also, is there any way I can see a doctor
without my parents knowing? Is there any
kind of confidential clinic or something I
can visit? I'd like to get some answers
and find out what this is because I don't
want to play it off as nothing and risk
infecting other people.
Thanks for reading, and sorry for the long
post. Thanks in advance for any advice.
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1sttimemama
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2004 Posts: 198
Posted: 11-27-04 14:56pm
Check out planned parenthood or your local
health department....It'll take forever
but they'll do it free or at a very low
cost...
So youre saying you had this problem
before you ever had sex? Does anyone in
your family have herpes that you know of?
==cat
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fallguy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Nov 2004 Posts: 6
Posted: 11-27-04 15:23pm
Nobody in my immediate family has herpes,
least that i'm aware of. If you're
asking about my grandparents and so forth,
like family line, I don't know because I
was adopted.
I never had sex with my ex. I'm still a
virgin so i'm wondering why I have this
going on, i've recieved oral from her and
I don't think she had any stds. This
will sound odd, but does shaving pubic
hair help this kind of thing?
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 11-27-04 15:38pm
Yes, go to like a local health clinic. I
don't know enough about herpes to say.
You can get stds from oral sex though.
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fallguy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Nov 2004 Posts: 6
Posted: 11-27-04 15:48pm
I've heard it's also possible to get it
from non sexual activity... Like showers
and stuff, but I don't know if that's
true. If it is true, then that's the
only way I figure I could have gotten it
because my ex didn't have it, at least
that I know of. I'm kinda ashamed of
asking her though, kinda embarassing
considering we're not really on the best
of terms right now...
I'll find a health clinic, thanks guys.
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 11-27-04 15:54pm
I don't think you can get it from other
places, because it's an std, but i'm not
positive about that. Honey, you really
can't trust people about what they say
about their sexual health. It isn't
likely to happen, but you should get
tested together to see if you're both
clean before any sexual contact. Hope it
works out.
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fallguy
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Nov 2004 Posts: 6
Posted: 11-27-04 16:11pm
Get tested with my ex girlfriend? That
will be rough...
I don't have a girl right now, but I do
want to get this figured out before I find
a new girl so I don't spread it if it is
something.
Again, thanks for your advice.
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1sttimemama
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Oct 2004 Posts: 198
Posted: 11-27-04 16:32pm
You are one smart guy, just wish everyone
was like you!!!!
--cat
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sheeridinprincess
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2004 Posts: 98 Location: Oregon
Posted: 12-06-04 02:54am
I have gential herpes but i'm a girl so
i'm not sure if its different for us.
When you have the bumps does it hurt at
all? And yes it can be passed on toilet
seats, clothing ect. At our house my
clothes are washed seperatly from my
daughters because thats contact. Okay its
possible too to get gential herpes from
cores on the mouth. Mine was acquired
from a fever blister. I have only had one
sexual partner and he does not have it or
he may and just be a carrier. That is
also possible for a person to have it and
not even know it. He has had several
partners in the past in which he could
have acquired it from but since I had an
open sore we beleive thats were it came
from. I was dignaoised with this 3 years
ago. It is not possible to get tested for
this unless you have an outbreak at the
time you go to the Dr. At least thats
what I have been told by my clinic.
Things that trigger outbreaks are stress
lack of sleep ect. Also if you have a
spinal injury afterwards it messes with it
since when you don't have an outbreak the
virus hiberates if you will in the bottom
of your spinal cord. Hope this is helpful
feel free to pm me.
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drexl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 37 Location: canada
Posted: 12-10-04 15:48pm
Yup it hibernates close to your ear also
there are two main different types the
false idea people have is that you get
only genital herpes from someone with
genital herpes and you get mouth herpes
from someone with mouth herpes, yours was
transfered from a sore on your girlfriends
mouth most likely, it's very common so
many peoploe have herpes it's not even
funny, nobody wants to talk about it and
thats why more people get it. A good way
to get the puss out during a breakout is
plantain its a herb you soak it on cloth
and then apply the green leaves directly
on the sores it elicits the puss out very
well, I used it on an eye infection of the
tear duct and it worked miracles, with
that said the drug companies have probably
pressured the govt' to make it illegal.
