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Confused1605
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2003
Posts: 38
Location: Illinois
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Parents Know.........
Posted: 10-17-03 19:42pm
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Okay well girls I dont know what to do!!
Today I guess I accidently left this page
up and my mom saw she asked me why I was
on it and I really couldnt lie to her so I
told she called me a doing it tramp and
there is no reason I should be getting
pregnant this day and age and im a wreck
b/c her and my step dad said I cant keep
it and that I have to give it up for
adoption but since im the mom dont I have
a say in if I get to keep it or not??
Please help im lost!! Much love and god
bless!!
Jeni
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KissyBai912
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Joined: 25 Aug 2003
Posts: 1762
Location: Venice, Florida
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Posted: 10-17-03 20:05pm
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First of all, I feel for you. I am so
sorry about your mom n stepdad. My
grandmother said some horrible things
about me when I got pregnant to and
although it hurt, I don't believe a word
she said. You shouldn't either. Just
because you had sex duznt make you a
promiscuous person or a tramp or
otherwise. And yes, you have every say in
whether you keep the baby. So you can
tell your parents to f*** off if you like.
Although they may kick you out of your
house, this is illegal. You can get them
in trouble. Hope this helps. Pm me if
you need to talk.
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youngmama
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2003
Posts: 437
Location: Cheyenne Naomi born 10-2-2003
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Posted: 10-17-03 20:53pm
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Oh my word!! I cannot believe that your
mother called you that!! Sweetheart,
she cannot make you give up your child!
That is the loveliness of america, its
your child and legally her and your
stepdad's hands are tied! They legally
can't kick you out until you are 18.
Second of all, I would go as soon as
possible and apply for things like
medicade(to help with doctors and
prenatals) and wic(to provide food like
milk, bread, fruit, veggies, etc along
with baby stuff, diapers, formula).
Finally you should check out the law book
and see if you can be emacipated(or become
a legal adult before 18.) and then move in
with raven. I think for now that would
be your best bet, since there is so much
stress at home. Until then, try talking
with her and see if you can try to mend
fences. But don't apologize for
anything!!! You did nothing wrong
jeni!!
Much love
-jessika-
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Confused1605
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2003
Posts: 38
Location: Illinois
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Posted: 10-18-03 12:06pm
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I just got back from the doctors and I am
officially pregnant even though I already
knew that! My mom wanted to make sure!
Well on the way home she was saying I have
no say that im still underage and I will
give it up for adoption! I kept shaking
my head no shes like jeni you will do what
I say! And if I have to be hard about it
I will! I was like hold on a sec I
thaught it was my child not hers! Im soo
lost girls and I havent talked to raven he
talked to my dad last nite my mom said he
had said sometihng about adoption but I
know its not possitive kind ya know what I
mean? Like saying he wasnt for it and
that! Well I better go if you guys can
give me anymore feed back I would love it
thatnks!
Jeni
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PregnaJordan
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Joined: 18 Oct 2003
Posts: 2908
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Posted: 10-18-03 12:12pm
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How old are you? R u 17, if so move the
@#@! Out!!!! I would not put up with
that anymore...Im pregnant and nobody
would tell me to give my baby up...Oh h@#!
No!!! It's your body, its ur baby not
theirs....Jordan 
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Confused1605
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2003
Posts: 38
Location: Illinois
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Posted: 10-18-03 12:48pm
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Thanks jordan but I thuaght you had to be
18 to move out legally on your own thats
just what I thaught!I dont wanna give it
up at all!!!
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youngmama
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2003
Posts: 437
Location: Cheyenne Naomi born 10-2-2003
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Posted: 10-18-03 12:52pm
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Wow jordan, take a deep breath hun. Jeni
you can get emancipated at 17 and move out
on your own. That way you legally become
an adult at 17.
Much love
-jess-
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Confused1605
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Sep 2003
Posts: 38
Location: Illinois
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Posted: 10-18-03 14:26pm
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Okay I understand that but I dont think my
parents will sign the papers for me to get
emancipated is there a way around it??
Please help!!
Jeni 
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youngmama
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Sep 2003
Posts: 437
Location: Cheyenne Naomi born 10-2-2003
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Posted: 10-18-03 14:28pm
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Thats just it jeni! They don't have to,
you go to court and a judge decides if you
are mature enough to do it on your own and
then he will make the decision, your
parents don't sign anything!
Much love
-jess-
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nikki_caro
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Aug 2003
Posts: 4921
Location: Right here at work!
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Posted: 10-20-03 12:14pm
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Jeni, just move out. You should be fine.
You can go to a group home for now. My
cousin wasa runaway and shes in a group
home with her baby. You shouldnt be
forced to have an adoption.
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Mesmerizeu15
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Joined: 11 Aug 2003
Posts: 2729
Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 10-20-03 12:32pm
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I can exppress empathy for you, I know
what you are going through because I have
been there to. When my mother found out
that I was pregnant she was like freaking
out and was rea upset, and now she loves
my son. Good luck in whatever you do, and
I hope that it all works out for you.
Remember we are all here for you if you
need us and that is what friends are
for....Friends that dont know each other!!
She can't make you do what you dont want
to...Trust us!! Don't let her take you
down!! P.S. Get the shania twain "up" cd
and listen to number 16!!
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insurancegirl
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2003
Posts: 5286
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Posted: 10-20-03 12:53pm
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Last edited by insurancegirl on 09-28-04 08:30am; edited 1 time in total
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youngmomtobe
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Oct 2003
Posts: 728
Location: Illinois
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Posted: 10-20-03 16:10pm
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Thanks niki,
but honestly I wanna move in w/ raven he
wants to be a full time daddy not a part
time!!!
Jen
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nikki_caro
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Joined: 22 Aug 2003
Posts: 4921
Location: Right here at work!
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Posted: 10-20-03 17:06pm
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Then thats even better!!!! Good luck!
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smith8500
Especially EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Sep 2003
Posts: 6623
Location: Louisiana
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Well
Posted: 10-20-03 20:40pm
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Good luck sweetie, and who know's maybe
your parents will come around and accept
it. Good luck to you sweetie. 
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Mesmerizeu15
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Aug 2003
Posts: 2729
Location: Pittsburgh,PA
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Posted: 10-21-03 13:27pm
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Just look at it this way, my mom came
around. And now she comes throught like
every week to see sean. Good luck, and I
am here for you if you need me, I take
that back we are here for you if you need
us!!
Stacie (mesmerizeu15 is my aol sn!)
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