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rancid_beats
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Getin Her to Do Oral
Posted: 11-25-04 05:51am
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Me and my girlfrind have been having sex
for about a month now but if I ever try to
go down on her she stops me saying she
dosnt like it and she wont give me a
blowjob because she says she feels stupid.
Im not sure if shes 2 self countious. Im
sure she would enjoy it (we both would)
any tips or advice?
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l2at24
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Posted: 11-25-04 06:24am
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#l I don't particualarly care for it
myself. #2 give her some time. I don't
know how long you have been together.
Try to talk to her about it, in a tactful,
loving way.
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rancid_beats
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Posted: 11-25-04 06:42am
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So I guess " suck it health forum " aint
the best way to go about it. Na just
jokin. We been together for about 3
months
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l2at24
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Posted: 11-26-04 02:15am
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Yeah... That probably wouldn't be the
best way. 
anyway, three months isn't really that
long, but I guess a better question would
be how serious are you guys? Do you talk
to each other about sex or just have sex?
Maybe you can hook her up with this site.
There are a few posts about how to give
your man oral sex. Just a thought.
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PattyV
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Location: Chicago area
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Posted: 11-26-04 10:58am
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Make it into a game!!!If you keep it light
and not put any pressure on each other-the
idea may be more appealing.Make sure that
both of you are bathed and smell good,that
helps,too!Sometimes.A little chocolate
syrup(only on the outside,not
inside!!!)can help get things going!Use
your imagination,this is supposed to be
fun!!!Patty
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__Notorious__
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Location: Lawton,Ok
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Yup !
Posted: 11-26-04 11:48am
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I totally agree wit' patty, dood, just
talk to her about it, my girl was once
just like ur'z, till we talked about
it....Then she gave in, she told me that
she didn't like it :p but I saw
different lol 
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rancid_beats
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Posted: 11-26-04 12:21pm
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Well we dont talk about sex much. But
have sex nearlly everyday for about an
hour or so. I guess more time will help.
When she gets drunk she says that she'll
do it so shes not completely against the
idea.
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l2at24
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Posted: 11-26-04 12:28pm
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Hey, i've been posting to you on the
pregnancy forum too. You had better get
your s*&# together with the birth
control if you're having sex everyday.
Unless ya'll are trying to get pregnant.
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kitty2luv
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Posted: 11-26-04 12:31pm
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Sometimes I like giving it just dont bug
her about it or it will take her longer to
do it
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rancid_beats
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Posted: 11-26-04 12:35pm
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Well we dont talk about sex much. But
have sex nearlly everyday for about an
hour or so. I guess more time will help.
When she gets drunk she says that she'll
do it so shes not completely against the
idea.
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kitty2luv
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Posted: 11-26-04 13:11pm
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Well I know I fibb alot w/ giv'en head
but.. When I feel like doing it I will
....Since ive been in the mood latly and
im will'en to do it so just give her time
sooner or later she will
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PattyV
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Posted: 11-26-04 15:28pm
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The main point is that she needs to make
up her mind to do it,not be forced!!The
biggest mistake peole make in a
relationship is to not communicate!!I know
you are young and may think that talking
about issues is stupid,but if a woman is
resentful over other issues,you better
believe that she will not give you her
full attention in the bedroom!You need to
talk about your sex life if you want to
improve it!!!And as the other person
posted,make sure you are using birth
control!!Good luck!Patty
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rancid_beats
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Posted: 11-26-04 17:48pm
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Yea I have been thinkin about birth
controll (quite alot actually) but from
what ive heard I think ill just wait, its
my birthday soon maybe shell trat me. Ill
to talk to her about it more. This is the
first sexual relationship ive been in,
alltho I have had a few drunken 1 night
stands before ive never had sex with
somone ive cared about like I do her. I
still feel a little awkward talkin about
sex. Thanks for your info.
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June4life
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Posted: 11-26-04 18:12pm
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Ive been with my boyfriend for a year, and
we are both still virgins. Were more than
ready, just havent done it.
We have oral sex all the time though. At
first, I would never blow him because I
didnt feel comfortable, but he would say
things that sort of lightened the
mood.......
I dunno, he started by saying "he wants a
kiss" lol, so id kiss it! And then it
just went on from there. It took a while,
but it happened! Now I love blowing him
and do it at least twice a day!
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rancid_beats
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Posted: 11-26-04 18:21pm
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He sounds like a lucky guy!
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Moira
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Location: somewhere where it rains a lot
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Posted: 11-27-04 08:24am
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Well, if she doesn't want to do it, she
doesn't want to do it...
Ask her why she doesn't want to? If it's
cos she's self concious reassure her that
you love everything she does and you know
she'll do it great! When she does do it,
keep making noises so that she knows she's
doing it right and don't thrust or grab
her head - that can be very frightening
and you might hit the gag reflex. Let her
know she's the one in control and she
should be less nervous.
Just take things slow and don't push her
and she'll probably come around to it.
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OutsideSizes
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the Blow By Blow :)
Posted: 11-28-04 08:18am
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Ok, so here it is:
first possibility (probability = 50%)
she's probably self-concious about her
vagina and doesnt feel comfortable with
you getting down there. A lot of girls
feel uncomfortable with how their vagina's
look or b/c they are sexually
inexperienced. However, some girls who
feel this way are usually more eager to go
down on their guys to make em stop bugging
them about going down on her. Yet on the
other hand, going down on him would make
him feel waaay to guilty and he'll wanna
go down on her back (unless hes a selfish
health questions, which, lets face it,
happens often). You will notice this if
she reacts abrubptly wny time your head
travels anywhere near that area. This is
the scenerio where you are more likely to
get her to go down on you before u will
get permission to go down on her. This
takes time and assurance that she is sexy
and beautiful and pretty much a ton of
complimenting. Also, when she finally
allows u down there show major enthusiasm
so she has a great time and knows you're
enjoying it as well. Most girls, and
many guys can only be fully satisfied when
they know their partner is also satisfied.
When she is more comfortable with you and
sure that you will accept her body the way
it is she will almost definitely go south
on you as well, because she will want to
make u happy and won't have that
insecurity holding her back.
Second possibility (probability = 50%) she
is nervous about her oral capabilities,
and doesn't expect u to do her the favor
either because then you can pressure her
into returning it. This may be b/c she
is inexperienced or she was
traumatized/embarassed by a bad oral
experience (you know, unable to satisfy
the guy, was too inexperienced, had a
rumor spread around that she was bad, etc
etc etc). In this case you let her get
really comfortable with you over the next
few weeks and if everything is going well,
then you can gently bring up the topic.
Let me give you some golden advice that
even some women won't admit to: we are
very co-dependant and you can get us to do
pretty much anything if you make us feel
needed...Like you can't do something
without our help/approval. This gives
the woman the impression of importance and
control. So tell her that you really
need her to talk to you (p.S. This convo
should happen when u are completely alone
but not having sex cuz she wont take u
seriously she'll just think you're horny).
Stress that she is doing you a favor and
it means so much...Fail-proof. Then just
be honest about how this bothers you and
how she would make you so happy by doing
this and you want to make her just as
happy...You get the point. Once she
agrees you have to be ultra-supportive and
tell her she was great to build her
confidence back up.
Third possibility (probabilitry = 10%) she
may honestly just not like oral sex. Not
b/c of some trauma or insecurity (those
can be overcome with time, patience, and
affection to build up trust and
familiarity), but b/c of a more solid,
immovable reason, such as
religious/cultural restrictions, penis
phobia, compulsively hygenic, or some deep
personal revulsion against the act. In
such cases, while rare, don't even bother
trying to change her min cuz it ain't
happening. Take it or leave it.
Good luck dude...Hope u figure this one
out!
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rancid_beats
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Posted: 11-29-04 08:55am
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Hmm that was very helpfull. At the
weekend we were getin jiggy and I started
to move my head down south and she stoped
me sayin she didnt like it, but then she
did say she would go down on me. Maybe to
stop buggin her like you said. But then
soon after she started, her friend knocked
on the door sayin that they had to go (
cus she was stayin at her friends house
and she had to be in).
I think I need to compliment her more.
Plus I think she might think that she will
b bad at it ( but she wasnt she was ok )
plus I also think that I will be bad at it
but I guess im not as self consious as she
is.
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sam47
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Posted: 12-13-04 22:55pm
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Look, man, she doesn't have to do anything
she doesnt want to do. Getting laid feels
good. You should be satisfied with that.
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lauren_prk
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Location: Wisconsin
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Posted: 12-14-04 00:11am
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Honestly, I think that if you are too
immature to talk about sex, then you
shouldn't be having it. One of my friends
says she doesn't like recieving oral, but
loves giving it. So, I don't know exactly
what's going on with your girl, but you
need to be patient and understanding!
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