Hi,would like to ask a few questions...Im
seven weeks pregnant and dont no what to
do!!What do u think about abortions?My
otherhalf doesnt want me to keep the baby
because the time isnt right,we have a lot
of problems at the moment with his
wife,they have been separated for a year
now..But he said he doesnt want her
finding out I live with him but he said if
I want to keep it I will have to go!Thats
not showing much commitment..Is it?Help
what do I do???
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oangelc543
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Sep 2004 Posts: 521 Location: TX
Posted: 11-25-04 09:43am
Listen hun, you don't need a guy to raise
a baby.. There are millions of single
moms out there, and abortion isnt the only
way.. If you feel that you are not
capable of raising a child, then look into
adoption..Please, reconsider abortion.
Goodluck
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Nikki n Rudy
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2004 Posts: 642 Location: Fort Worth, Texas
Posted: 11-25-04 10:06am
I do hope you reconsider and don't kill a
life just because he doesnt want his wife
to know .A.N.D. You have problems. Let
the baby live and give it up for adoption.
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Moira
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Nov 2004 Posts: 302 Location: somewhere where it rains a lot
hi,would like to ask a few
questions...Im seven weeks pregnant and
dont no what to do!!What do u think about
abortions?
it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks
of abortions - you're the one that's
pregnant and it's your decision. All that
matters is what you think about abortions
and what you think of the pregnancy.
lisa
wrote:
my otherhalf doesnt want me
to keep the baby because the time isnt
right,we have a lot of problems at the
moment with his wife,they have been
separated for a year now..But he said he
doesnt want her finding out I live with
him but he said if I want to keep it I
will have to go!Thats not showing much
commitment..Is it?Help what do I
do???
i'm sorry hun, that's a difficult
situation for you.
If he doesn't want to support you, you can
have a baby by yourself. Don't abort
because you're panicked, abort because you
think it's the best option.
Please pm me if you need any support and
remember - this is your choice.
hi,would like to ask a few
questions...Im seven weeks pregnant and
dont no what to do!!What do u think about
abortions?My otherhalf doesnt want me to
keep the baby because the time isnt
right,we have a lot of problems at the
moment with his wife,they have been
separated for a year now..But he said he
doesnt want her finding out I live with
him but he said if I want to keep it I
will have to go!Thats not showing much
commitment..Is it?Help what do I
do???
i would never get an abortion but there
are medical reasons behind why I wouldn't.
I've had friends who've had them and I
don't hate them or anything it's your
decision-----how old are you? There is
always adoption but i'm sure that is even
harder. As for this "man" (if you can
call him that) you are with I would get
the f*** away right now- no one needs an
bumhole like that. Let us know what you
decide.
I know how you feel!! I am 23 y/o and 15
wks pregnant and the father wants nothing
to do w/his child!! I will still raise my
child b/c I look at as my responsibility.
Personally I am against abortion but I
would not condemn someone for it b/c it is
not my place to judge. My friend had one
and has been in counseling for 2 yrs b/c
it caused her to have a nervous breakdown.
In my opinion your best options are to
keep the baby or put it up for adoption
and get rid of him!! He sounds like a
major loser!! He will still have to pay
childsupport! I wish you the best of luck
and if you need to talk I am on everyday!
God bless!
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Moira
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Nov 2004 Posts: 302 Location: somewhere where it rains a lot
Posted: 11-25-04 12:03pm
newmommy23
wrote:
my friend had one and has
been in counseling for 2 yrs b/c it caused
her to have a nervous breakdown.
long term psychological problems are very
rare after an abortion - the american
psychology association (the leading mental
health body) has done numerous studies
into it.
Glad you're doing so well in such a
difficult circumstance newmommy - hope it
all goes well for you.
I was just sharing an experience not
suggesting it was the norm.
Thank you very much!
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Moira
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 21 Nov 2004 Posts: 302 Location: somewhere where it rains a lot
Posted: 11-25-04 12:16pm
newmommy23
wrote:
i was just sharing an
experience not suggesting it was the norm.
i know hun, I just wanted to stress it's
not the norm incase anybody reads it and
panics.
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 11-26-04 01:52am
moira
wrote:
newmommy23
wrote:
my friend had one and has
been in counseling for 2 yrs b/c it caused
her to have a nervous breakdown.
long term psychological problems are very
rare after an abortion - the american
psychology association (the leading mental
health body) has done numerous studies
into it.
Glad you're doing so well in such a
difficult circumstance newmommy - hope it
all goes well for
you.
maybe so, but three of the four people who
I know that have had abortions, have
gotten pregnant again soon afterward,
because of all the what ifs.
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Tazzy D
Advanced Support Team
Joined: 30 Oct 2004 Posts: 3717 Location: , va
Posted: 11-26-04 10:00am
Hun im not here to judge anyone so in my
opinion you need to look at your life and
look at it alone questions you need to ask
your self is 1. Do you really love this
guy? 2. How would he feel if the shoe
was on the other foot and you gave him
this decision to make? 3. They must have
children togehter or they would almost be
divorced. A divorce is 6months seperation
for a merriage with no children and a year
of seperation with a marriage that has
children oh and the big thing no
cohabitation at all. 4. Also how do you
feel do you want a baby or are you not
ready. There is always alot of help and
support out there. I'm here if you need
help or someone to talk to.. I think
whatever decision you make ... You are
ready
good luck hun
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 11-26-04 15:51pm
l2at24
wrote:
moira
wrote:
newmommy23
wrote:
my friend had one and has
been in counseling for 2 yrs b/c it caused
her to have a nervous breakdown.
long term psychological problems are very
rare after an abortion - the american
psychology association (the leading mental
health body) has done numerous studies
into it.
Glad you're doing so well in such a
difficult circumstance newmommy - hope it
all goes well for
you.
maybe so, but three of the four people who
I know that have had abortions, have
gotten pregnant again soon afterward,
because of all the what
ifs.
"the what ifs"?
Relating to mental health? The studies
that actually are scientific are
unequivalently pointing out that abortion
doesn't cause depression. At worst, it
exasserbates already existing depression,
but that's all.
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KaiGela
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 14 Nov 2004 Posts: 485 Location: Anywhere (:
Posted: 11-26-04 16:32pm
oangelc543
wrote:
listen hun, you don't need a
guy to raise a baby.. There are millions
of single moms out there, and abortion
isnt the only way.. If you feel that you
are not capable of raising a child, then
look into adoption..Please, reconsider
abortion.
Goodluck
very well said. Theres always adoption
and everything.
hi,would like to ask a few
questions...Im seven weeks pregnant and
dont no what to do!!What do u think about
abortions?My otherhalf doesnt want me to
keep the baby because the time isnt
right,we have a lot of problems at the
moment with his wife,they have been
separated for a year now..But he said he
doesnt want her finding out I live with
him but he said if I want to keep it I
will have to go!Thats not showing much
commitment..Is it?Help what do I
do???
wow!!!! I like got so pissed when I read
this. Okay girl...U wnat my advice on
this, here goes. G.E.T a.W.A.Y from this
loser!!! What the hell is he thinking!!!
Is he in the prosses of a divorce or
what??? Are you sure he isn't still
sleeping with his wife??? I swear to you
i'm not trying to be a b**ch I just know
that you have to be better then that.
Please please please don't kill your
baby!!! Obviously if he doesn't want to
have his child just to hide it from his
wife he doesn't really care!!!! I'v
miscarried a baby and that was the hardest
thing i'v ever been through.....I know
that having an abortion and knowing that
you killed ur own child has to be 10 times
harder. There are cases where miscarriage
would maybe be okay...But this isn't one
of them. Were the two of you having
unprotected sex??? Did he not know that
unprotected sex can and will make a woman
pregnant?? Does he have any other
children??? How old r ya?? Sorry about
all the questions....I'm just curious!!!
Look, please get you and ur baby out of
this situation. You should talk to your
boyfriend and tell him that you are going
to keep your baby with or without his
help!!! If he loves you... He'll except
it. He also needs to tell his wife that
he is with someone else....And if he sin't
in the process of a divorce he needs to
be!!! I'm 6 weeks pregnant....So if u
decide to keep your baby (please do) then
we can be preggy together, and confide in
each other. I'm sorry if I came across as
a b**ch... I promise i'm not!!! did yo uknow that
your baby is growing little fingers and
toes as you read this??? In the 6th week
it gets a heart beat!!! It's so
amazing....Isn't it an awesome feeling
knowing that you have another life inside
of you??? Well chick...I think i'v said
all I can!!! Good luck sweetie and please
keep us updated!!!!
teresa
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forever_in_love811
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Nov 2004 Posts: 141 Location: Statesville NC
hi,would like to ask a few
questions...Im seven weeks pregnant and
dont no what to do!!What do u think about
abortions?My otherhalf doesnt want me to
keep the baby because the time isnt
right,we have a lot of problems at the
moment with his wife,they have been
separated for a year now..But he said he
doesnt want her finding out I live with
him but he said if I want to keep it I
will have to go!Thats not showing much
commitment..Is it?Help what do I
do???
wow!!!! I like got so pissed when I read
this. Okay girl...U wnat my advice on
this, here goes. G.E.T a.W.A.Y from this
loser!!! What the hell is he thinking!!!
Is he in the prosses of a divorce or
what??? Are you sure he isn't still
sleeping with his wife??? I swear to you
i'm not trying to be a b**ch I just know
that you have to be better then that.
Please please please don't kill your
baby!!! Obviously if he doesn't want to
have his child just to hide it from his
wife he doesn't really care!!!! I'v
miscarried a baby and that was the hardest
thing i'v ever been through.....I know
that having an abortion and knowing that
you killed ur own child has to be 10 times
harder. There are cases where miscarriage
would maybe be okay...But this isn't one
of them. Were the two of you having
unprotected sex??? Did he not know that
unprotected sex can and will make a woman
pregnant?? Does he have any other
children??? How old r ya?? Sorry about
all the questions....I'm just curious!!!
Look, please get you and ur baby out of
this situation. You should talk to your
boyfriend and tell him that you are going
to keep your baby with or without his
help!!! If he loves you... He'll except
it. He also needs to tell his wife that
he is with someone else....And if he sin't
in the process of a divorce he needs to
be!!! I'm 6 weeks pregnant....So if u
decide to keep your baby (please do) then
we can be preggy together, and confide in
each other. I'm sorry if I came across as
a b**ch... I promise i'm not!!! did yo uknow that
your baby is growing little fingers and
toes as you read this??? In the 6th week
it gets a heart beat!!! It's so
amazing....Isn't it an awesome feeling
knowing that you have another life inside
of you??? Well chick...I think i'v said
all I can!!! Good luck sweetie and please
keep us updated!!!!
teresa
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 11-26-04 18:38pm
steen
wrote:
l2at24
wrote:
moira
wrote:
newmommy23
wrote:
my friend had one and has
been in counseling for 2 yrs b/c it caused
her to have a nervous breakdown.
long term psychological problems are very
rare after an abortion - the american
psychology association (the leading mental
health body) has done numerous studies
into it.
Glad you're doing so well in such a
difficult circumstance newmommy - hope it
all goes well for
you.
maybe so, but three of the four people who
I know that have had abortions, have
gotten pregnant again soon afterward,
because of all the what
ifs.
"the what ifs"?
Relating to mental health? The studies
that actually are scientific are
unequivalently pointing out that abortion
doesn't cause depression. At worst, it
exasserbates already existing depression,
but that's all.
what ifs as in would it have really been
that hard if I kept my baby, what would
she look like, what would she smell like,
how would her laugh sound...All that
relating to a new baby. What studies are
you referring to? I don't want this to
be an abortion debate, just my experience
about it like newmommy. The reason
people post is to get different opinions
and experiences, and help them look at
things from different prospectives.
Well said l2at24. This is not a
scientific forum it is real women with
real experiences trying to help each
other. The studies u speak of deal
w/statistics and do not represent a whole.
If ur pro-choice just say so!!
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mommax3
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1134 Location: Virginia
Posted: 11-27-04 14:46pm
Who is to tell a lady who just had her
baby taken from her womb, by choice or
not, that it can't cause her to have
depression or to have a nervous breakdown?
People do things a lot less severe and
suffer from depression because of it, and
if someone like this girl had an abortion
just because someone else told her it was
the right thing to do and then later
regretted it, then I do believe that could
cause depression.
My best friend is puerto rican and she has
an aunt that had several abortions earlier
in life, she is now deceased from a severe
illness and on her deathbed they had to
bring her baby dolls to hold, she kept
saying she was being haunted by her unborn
babies.
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did yo uknow that
your baby is growing little fingers and
toes as you read this??? In the 6th week
it gets a heart beat!!! It's so
amazing....Isn't it an awesome feeling
knowing that you have another life inside
of you??? Well chick...I think i'v said
all I can!!! Good luck sweetie and please
keep us updated!!!!
teresa