lil_blaze2004
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to All the Young Girls Who Want Or Think They Want a Baby
Posted: 11-26-04 16:21pm
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Please don't take this the wrong way
but.....
I though I wanted a baby when I was
younger too and when I had miscarriages at
the ages of 16 & then 19 I was
devastated. Now at 25 I am 9 weeks
preggo and am soooooooooo happy I waited.
I have a man who I love and treats me
like a princess (most of the time-lol) we
have been living together for 3 years.
Instead of being with a guy because I
thought I loved him. I finished school
and got a business degree, I have my own a
home (well I rent but it's mine) with a
backyard I have a great job where I get 1
year maternity leave. Also my family is
very supportive since i'm not a kid
everyone wants to help. My partying days
are over and done with, especially since
in montreal u only have to be 18 for bars
and things. Babies are cute beautifull
things but remember they cry and barf and
ruin your house!!!!! Your life will
never be the same again. You will have
to be prepared to take care of someone for
the rest of your life. Please all the
young girls out there think about this
very carefully before rushing into
anything!!!!
Sorry this was so long but.......
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 11-26-04 16:27pm
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And its not all about just wanting a baby.
Its about giving the baby they best you
can. I believe trying to get pregnant
half way through highschool with no job
and a half ass boyfriend is not the best.
It is selfish to bring an innocent life
into the world this way.
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 11-26-04 16:27pm
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Thanks lil_blaze, I hope they can learn
from your post!
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kitty2luv
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Posted: 11-26-04 16:29pm
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I do agree but.... What if done not on
purpose? Condom broke b/c didnt work
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 11-26-04 16:32pm
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Kitty-thats a different story. There is a
differnce in getting pregnant when not
execting/trying to, than getting pregnant
on purpose. Those who get pregnant on
accident learn how to deal with their
responsibilities, and as most girls on
here who this has happened to, change
their lives around and give the baby the
best that they can. Although im sure if
you ask them all, they are excited about
the baby, but wish they could have brought
the baby into the world in different
circumstances. Now in your situation
kitty-it seems to me that you have a lot
of unprotected sex. You know you can get
pregnant. I believe this is just the
same as trying. You either prevent it or
you dont.
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kitty2luv
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Posted: 11-26-04 16:34pm
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In the past 2months I only had unprtected
sex twice .. And the rest was protected
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KaiGela
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Posted: 11-26-04 16:35pm
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I'm young. It wasn't done on purpose but
i'll deal with the consequences.
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 11-26-04 16:44pm
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Everyone has a diff story...Different
views as well!
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June4life
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Posted: 11-26-04 18:36pm
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I agree w/ your post, however like someone
said (sarah I think) that every girl has a
different story.
A baby is not necessarily going to ruin
your life. For example, my dad is a
pediatric oncologist (cancer doc for kids)
and he works with another doctor, a lady,
who is 35 years old. She is 35, and has a
daughter who is 21. So she had her when
she was 14 years old. Even after that,
she finished highschool, went to college,
and became a doctor. All on her own. She
was emancipated, and lived w/ her babys
daddy (and now hubby) who was 19 at the
time, and had his own apartment. They
received little, if any help from either
of their parents, and they still made it,
and she's a doctor! He's a car mechanic
and owns his own shop.
This is just an inspiration story for u
preggy teens. Even if you do get pregnant
at 14, it doesnt mean you ruined your
life, it just means you have to work a
little bit harder than many teens! You
can do it!
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 11-26-04 18:47pm
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Very true. Like I said, its one thing to
purposly bring another life in the world,
then to accidently fall pregnant. It
also depends on what you know you are
capable of. If you are capable of
working, going to school, maintaining a
healthy relationship w. Father of baby,
paying rent and all your bills, and
raising a child at the same time, then go
for it. If you know you are not, think
twice, it will be a lot harder than you
think.
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 11-26-04 18:47pm
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Very true. Like I said, its one thing to
purposly bring another life in the world,
then to accidently fall pregnant. It
also depends on what you know you are
capable of. If you are capable of
working, going to school, maintaining a
healthy relationship w. Father of baby,
paying rent and all your bills, and
raising a child at the same time, then go
for it. If you know you are not, think
twice, it will be a lot harder than you
think.
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 11-26-04 19:18pm
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I agree with you guys, but I also think
that the chances of a 15 year old who gets
pregnant has a very unlikely chance of
going to school and finishing. They
would need financial support a very cheap
baby sitter and spare time on their hands
to do homework. And that's not even
including how important it is for that
baby to become bonded with the mom and
dad. It would be almost impossible for
that baby to be bonded if the mom is a
single mom who is working full time and
going to school full time. Tha'ts
fourty hours a week of working (assuming
they are having to pay bills) and if they
go to school full time that's like 40
hours a week plus some so well say 80
hours a week atleast would be devoted to
work and school. That leaves 98 hours a
week for sleep or taking care of you baby.
Don't forget theirs simple things like
eating and showering in this all too.
The average person at 15 needs atleast 8
hous a day to sleep. However, they have
a baby that doesn't sleep that much. So
we'll give them 6 hours a night. 6x7=42
hours. So you have about 56 hours left
to spend with you baby and through most of
that you are just able to take care of
nessities. That's not enough time for
you kid to know who it's mommy is. Not
enough time for you kid to feel the love
they need. Children don't understand
shool and work. They do however,
understand that mommy is too busy for
them.
The only reason i'm bringing this up is
because so many people think well, if I
did get pregnant I can still do everything
I am now. If you can you are a very
lucky and determined person. That's not
what statistics say.
Last edited by pitterpatter on 11-26-04 19:21pm; edited 1 time in total
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kitty2luv
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Posted: 11-26-04 19:21pm
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Well I know if I get pregnant b4 I finsh
school I will finsh either in school or on
homed bound im not gonna drop my scholling
because I had a baby when I still can do
both be a mother and a student some way
some how
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 11-26-04 19:28pm
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I agree with pitterpatter. (if I
understood corectly what she was saying)
a 15 year old needs to finish highschool
to get a decent job further in life. It
takes a very determined person to be able
to do all these things at the same time.
I know, that when I was 15 I had a hard
enough time sitting down to do my
homework. I wanted to talk on the phone
with my friends and go hang out, like
every normal 15 year old would want to do.
I think it is unusaul for someone
halfway thru highschool to decide she
wants to have a baby, I believe ppl like
this are somewhat confused as to what it
takes to raise a child, in a healthy way.
They are confused as to what it will
take, and some of the sacrifces they will
have to make.
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 11-26-04 19:37pm
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Kitty-you say some way, some how. Why
dont you wait until you are done with
school so you can say, I will, because I
can now, and I know that having a baby
right now is ok for me!
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June4life
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Posted: 11-26-04 19:47pm
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But then again, every situation is
different.
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pitterpatter
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Posted: 11-26-04 19:47pm
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I think kitty has her own idea of a good
life! 
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 11-26-04 19:49pm
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June-every situation is different. But
some things can be prevented, like
bringing a child into the world, purposly
when you know you could do better for
him/her later. Yes kitty does have her
own idea of a good life. I would be sad
to see her get pregnant, she has a lot of
things to learn and she needs to grow up
some.
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KaiGela
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Posted: 11-26-04 20:20pm
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Im gonna be taking homeschooling and I
have all intentions to finish school.
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 11-26-04 20:23pm
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Good for you. I will be busy too. Ill be
going to college trying to get my teaching
certificate.
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