Joined: 26 Nov 2004 Posts: 23 Location: Chicago,Illinois
14 And Need Help! Posted: 11-26-04 23:28pm
I think I am pregnant. I'v been with my
boyfriend beto for 11 months today.We have
been wanting a baby and have been ttc. My
period's suppose to come this tuesday so
i'm just waiting. I told beto that I
think I am preg. And he got all happy. I
told him not to get his hopes up though
because 2 months ago I was late and
thought I was pregnant and we got our
hopes up too much but it turned out I
wasn't. Well my question to anybody who
wants to help is, how do I tell my
mom!!!!!!!!!?
Please help me!!!
-lokkita-
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June4life
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2004 Posts: 550
Posted: 11-26-04 23:32pm
Have you thought this through? 14, is
pretty young.
I'm not here to judge, but just really
think about this!
How old is ur bf?
-jenn
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June4life
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2004 Posts: 550
Posted: 11-26-04 23:32pm
Have you thought this through? 14, is
pretty young.
I'm not here to judge, but just really
think about this!
How old is ur bf?
-jenn
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kitty2luv
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 22 Oct 2004 Posts: 1089 Location: with my love
Posted: 11-26-04 23:38pm
Yea hunny how old is yr b/f .... And I
know ka is preg but not on purpose y would
u want to get preg @ 14
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lokkita
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Nov 2004 Posts: 23 Location: Chicago,Illinois
Posted: 11-26-04 23:46pm
june4life
wrote:
have you thought this
through? 14, is pretty young.
I'm not here to judge, but just really
think about this!
How old is ur bf?
-jenn
i really have thought this through. Beto
is going to be 16 next month. Wat we know
for sure is that we will have a lot of
support from his family, its my family
that i'm worried about.His 24 year old
sister, mom, and dad want me to have a
baby. Beto has a job and his mom told me
that if I get pregnant I could live w/
them. I know i'm young but to tell u the
truth, wen we 1st decided we wanted a
baby, the reason I wanted it was because
beto has liver cancer and I love him so so
so so much, so if he was to pass away, I
would have something from him that no one
can take away from me.
Thank you very much for your concern, but
I think i'm ready 4 this
-lokkita-
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June4life
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2004 Posts: 550
Posted: 11-26-04 23:53pm
wow
i dont really know what to say right
now... Gimme a minute!
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June4life
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2004 Posts: 550
Posted: 11-26-04 23:54pm
Do his parents only want you to have a
baby because he has cancer and may die
young? (sorry if that sounds harsh)
but to me, it sounds like his parents want
a grandchild from him. I dunno about
this, it seems kinda fishy.
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Joined: 09 Nov 2004 Posts: 1226 Location: Georgia
Posted: 11-26-04 23:55pm
Yes it does
oh well
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Kourtney08
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 May 2004 Posts: 937 Location: Alaska
Posted: 11-27-04 00:05am
I think if you can't support your baby
then you shouldn't try to get pregnant.
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Heathergirl
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004 Posts: 719 Location: Michigan
Posted: 11-27-04 00:06am
Um, 14 is a bit young there girly. You
have idea what you're getting into.
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lokkita
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Nov 2004 Posts: 23 Location: Chicago,Illinois
Posted: 11-27-04 00:15am
june4life
wrote:
do his parents only want you
to have a baby because he has cancer and
may die young? (sorry if that sounds
harsh)
but to me, it sounds like his parents want
a grandchild from him. I dunno about
this, it seems kinda
fishy.
no its not that because he might not die
now. Doc said that he's next on da list
and that the 1st liver someone donates is
4 him. His sister just likes babies thats
all. She goes baby shopping and leaves
all da stuff in her closet for the next
person who has a baby. His mom just said
that she would like for me to be part of
her family.I really want to have a baby
with beto. But I dunno how 2 tell my
mom!!!!!!!
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sky
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Nov 2004 Posts: 411 Location: oklahoma
Posted: 11-27-04 00:17am
One concern I have for you is not only
that youre so young, but you said your bf
has liver cancer, if he does pass
away(hope not) are you going to be able to
raise and support the baby yourself, I
know you said that his family will help
you, but youre 14 and need to be in
school, who would take care of the baby
then, just think long and hard about the
effects it would have on a child to grow
up without a father, I cant imagine my
boys not having their daddy. I do
understand that you would want a reminder,
or a little piece of your boyfriend if
something did happen, but maybe there are
other ways in which to remember him. Just
my thoughts, I wish you the best of luck
with any desicion you make.As far as your
family goes I think they have every right
to be upset, it would probably be a huge
shock to them, but only because they want
whats best for you. If youre not pregnant
I would seriously rethink your descision,
and just have total faith in god that your
boyfriend will make it, and then after you
graduate and establish your life and
relationship then think about starting a
family. Best of luck to you.
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lokkita
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Nov 2004 Posts: 23 Location: Chicago,Illinois
Posted: 11-27-04 00:21am
kourtney08
wrote:
i think if you can't support
your baby then you shouldn't try to get
pregnant.
ok now when did I say I couldn't support
my baby????
Me and beto can support our baby just
fine. The only thing we're getting from
his mom (for a lil while) is a place to
live.
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lokkita
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Nov 2004 Posts: 23 Location: Chicago,Illinois
Posted: 11-27-04 00:28am
sky
wrote:
one concern I have for you
is not only that youre so young, but you
said your bf has liver cancer, if he does
pass away(hope not) are you going to be
able to raise and support the baby
yourself, I know you said that his family
will help you, but youre 14 and need to be
in school, who would take care of the baby
then, just think long and hard about the
effects it would have on a child to grow
up without a father, I cant imagine my
boys not having their daddy. I do
understand that you would want a reminder,
or a little piece of your boyfriend if
something did happen, but maybe there are
other ways in which to remember him.
Just my thoughts, I wish you the best of
luck with any desicion you make.As far as
your family goes I think they have every
right to be upset, it would probably be a
huge shock to them, but only because they
want whats best for you. If youre not
pregnant I would seriously rethink your
descision, and just have total faith in
god that your boyfriend will make it, and
then after you graduate and establish your
life and relationship then think about
starting a family. Best of luck to
you.
i want to thank u for your advice. Like I
said the doc said that ther's a 90% chance
that he will live. I totally agree with
you that my family will be very upset, but
what I want them to know is that I made a
decision and I really hope that they
support it.
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 11-27-04 00:36am
No sorry cant support you wiht this one,
youre a 14 year old kid who doesnt know
what she wants. If it were an accident
then I could understand, otherwise, stop
being selfish and grow up a little many of
the younger girls here if not all didnt
count on being pregnant but are handling
it wonderfully but i'm sorry a 14 and 15
yr old cannot support a baby as well as
themselves
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 11-27-04 00:38am
And if you really love someone and they
die the way to always remember them is to
never stop loving them
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Michelle1337
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Aug 2004 Posts: 1739 Location: Houston, Texas
Posted: 11-27-04 00:42am
I have to say I agree with this one..
You're still a child no matter which way
you look at it and there is no possible
way you can fathom the responsibility of a
child at your age. To purposely bring a
child into the world at you and your
boyfriends age would be extremely selfish.
Not to mention the fact that theres a
chance your baby would be losing its
father.
Your in what? 8th maybe 9th grade? You
have your entire life ahead of you!
Don't make a decision now to have a child
when you have so much ahead of you. Did
you think at all about ow you would
graduate? Go to college? And possibly
support yourself .A.N.D a child at the age
14? You can't even get a part time job
at 14!
But, if you are already pregnant....Than
there is nothing you can do about it. I
hope, for your sake, you arent. But if
you are...Just be forward with your
mother. Don't beat around the bush..Just
tell her straight up, let her cry, answer
her questions and move on.
But please, if you aren't
pregnant...Please reconsider this! You
are still a baby! You do not need the
responsibility of a child!
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Heathergirl
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 11 Oct 2004 Posts: 719 Location: Michigan
Posted: 11-27-04 00:42am
A 14 year old isn't even allowed to have a
job........There are two examples of young
mothers: ka......She is very mature and
is going to be a great mother. You: you
sound very very immature and selfish.
And you sound like someone who was here
before? 'da'
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little_woman
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Mar 2004 Posts: 765
Posted: 11-27-04 00:46am
And there is something wrong with a family
that wants their 15 yr old son's 14 year
old girlfriend to have a baby cause they
want one, completely selfish
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lokkita
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 26 Nov 2004 Posts: 23 Location: Chicago,Illinois
Posted: 11-27-04 00:49am
little_woman
wrote:
no sorry cant support you
wiht this one, youre a 14 year old kid who
doesnt know what she wants. If it were
an accident then I could understand,
otherwise, stop being selfish and grow up
a little many of the younger girls here if
not all didnt count on being pregnant but
are handling it wonderfully but i'm sorry
a 14 and 15 yr old cannot support a baby
as well as
themselves
look if they can handle it wonderfully,
then give me a reason why I can't. If
they didn't want a baby then they
should've kept their legs closed. I had
sex for 1 reason, to have a baby. Don't
you think that if a single teenager can
support a baby, 2 teenagers together can
support one way better? And I ain't
trying to be selfish because i'm gonna
make sure we give our baby a good life.
I'm still gonna graduate i'm already
taking extra classes that only give me a
better chance than the good one I already
have to get scholorships.
wow
