Is your heart telling you that you shouldnt tell him because you really dont want him to know?? Would you want him involved? I think you should tell him, because he might be one of those who would take responsibility, and its not fair for him to have a child and not know it, and also for the sake of the baby, you never know, he could be the best daddy ever and it wouldnt be right to deny him the chance. And if he doesnt want anything to do with the baby at least you know you gave him the chance right. Just my opinion, good luck.

I know that a child deserves and needs a father around. My brother grew up without one and I see the affects it has on him. If he wanted to be involved that would be great. Maybe deep down i'm scared that hed try and take the baby away from me. It's just that this isn't a guy that I really know. Actually I don't know him at all. I mean I dont' even know his last name! (how skanky does that sound right) so, how do I tell someone that I don't know well enough to even know his last name, and that I only hooked up once with (and used protection with btw) that he's going to be a dad?

Girl, you have to tell him.

I think you should tell him!! He desrves the chance. You might want to ask him some questions too. U need to know his last name and any medical problems his family may have. If he chooses not to be there then when you child asks where his/her father is you don't have to say I never told him! Good luck hun!

I really think that the father has a right to know~~!!!

You should tell him and let him decide if he wants to be there or not. It is his right as a 'soon to be daddy' to learn the truth.

I know I couldnt live with myself if I had gotten pregnant with either of my sons and not told their daddy. I see how much he means to my 3 year old now...I can only imagine when nicolas is here how much he will mean to him, too!

Its not skanky you dont know his lastname. I mean, hell we've all made mistakes .O.R. Whatnot. Not going to tie you to a stake and burn ya for it. At least you're happy about becoming a mommy.

He has a right to know--- who knows maybe he'll turn out to be super cool about it. If not u can get lots of support here. Make sure you fiond out his last name though if you want child support though. Good luck and keep us posted!

Well,you should tell him.What he decides to do is up to him.Just be sure you get support from him-that is his responsibility!As far as it just being about sex,that's up to the two of you to decide what your relationship will be.Just keep in mind that you will be connected by your child for life and should always try to keep that in mind.You both may be with others,but always try to be civil to each other in front of the child.Bst of luck to you!Patty

I guess the biggest thing i'm afraid of is what I said before, that he'd try and take him/her away from me. But okay... How would any of you suggest I do this? I mean I wasn't exagerating when I said I know nothing about this guy. The only way i'd be able to tell him is in an email or over messenger (since I don't have a number for him).. And I really don't think either way is that great to drop this kind of news.

Hmmm...Message him and say u guy's really need to talk and ask if he would meet u! He can not take ur baby away unless you are unfit which he can not prove seeing as he doesn't know you! I kow what u r going through I was terrified to tell my ex but it wasn't so bad. The only part I feel you are responsible for is telling him and finding out as much as he will tell you. Good luck hun and we are all here for you!

E-mail him and tell him you need to talk to him.If he does not respond to that,tell him in an e-mail.Not ideal,but it needs to be done.Good luck to you.Patty

How old are you? Is the guy gunna be in your babies life? You simply need to just tell him straight out

I told my guy that I might be and, well he left, but hey, at least I told him right? Now it's his fault if he never knows for sure. U should tell him. The father has a right to know. Even if he's not going to be in ur baby's life... At least one day u can tell ur baby that u did tell his/her father.

hey, i have dating someone after two months and now i am pregnant i dont know how to tell him or what to do! i dont want an abortion... i really like him and we are not even official
what do i do??

Congrats on the pregnancy. You should tell the father because it's the right thing to do and it's fair. He deserves to know he's going to be a father. People make mistakes in life that's how we learn and move on. If you do tell this guy and he's unhappy about it, fine, hey at least you did what's right-telling him. And if he's happy about it then thats awesome. Don't you want to know how he would react? I hope you tell him and good luck girl.

i would love to tell him its just i dont know how to and when to! we are not a couple and to be honest i dont actually think he is too interested. I will tell him when i get to see him next but in my gut feeling he will probably tell me to abort it as he has done that to his ex before in the past. I just hope i can cope on my own and i want to bring my baby up properly

I have been thru this same problem. Telling him as soon as you can will be a big weight off your shoulders. Not telling him just causes a lot of undue stress you really don't need. Being pregnant and single is hard enough with the burdon of having to tell him.

Ok one...you do know how slutty that sounds right...I mean come on. Are you really that desprate? How can you be with this guy, that you don't even know, once. ok so you used protection. Are you really sure it is his though. You should tell him no matter what happens...even though you are one of the stupidest people ever right now.

Get off your soapbox kira.