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exoticgem
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Should I Tell Him I'm Pregnant?
Posted: 11-30-04 23:26pm
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I just found out i'm pregnant. I'm
estatic about it but I don't know if I
should tell the father. See, we only
hooked up for the sex, and I know how that
sounds but... Anyway, we only hooked up
once and I know he's the father because he
was the first guy I had been with in 2
months. We don't have a relantionship, I
mean I wouldn't even say we are friends,
we only talk once in awhile. My head is
telling me that he has a right to know but
my heart is telling me different. What
should I do??
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sky
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Joined: 24 Nov 2004
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Location: oklahoma
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Posted: 12-01-04 00:03am
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Is your heart telling you that you
shouldnt tell him because you really dont
want him to know?? Would you want him
involved? I think you should tell him,
because he might be one of those who would
take responsibility, and its not fair for
him to have a child and not know it, and
also for the sake of the baby, you never
know, he could be the best daddy ever and
it wouldnt be right to deny him the
chance. And if he doesnt want anything to
do with the baby at least you know you
gave him the chance right. Just my
opinion, good luck.
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exoticgem
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Posted: 12-01-04 00:58am
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I know that a child deserves and needs a
father around. My brother grew up without
one and I see the affects it has on him.
If he wanted to be involved that would be
great. Maybe deep down i'm scared that
hed try and take the baby away from me.
It's just that this isn't a guy that I
really know. Actually I don't know him at
all. I mean I dont' even know his last
name! (how skanky does that sound right)
so, how do I tell someone that I don't
know well enough to even know his last
name, and that I only hooked up once with
(and used protection with btw) that he's
going to be a dad?
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l2at24
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Posted: 12-01-04 01:01am
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Girl, you have to tell him.
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Newmommy23
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Joined: 20 Sep 2004
Posts: 727
Location: Dyess AFB, TX
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Posted: 12-01-04 04:37am
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I think you should tell him!! He desrves
the chance. You might want to ask him
some questions too. U need to know his
last name and any medical problems his
family may have. If he chooses not to be
there then when you child asks where
his/her father is you don't have to say I
never told him! Good luck hun!
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bluebubble888
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Posted: 12-01-04 07:19am
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I really think that the father has a right
to know~~!!!
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Nikki n Rudy
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Joined: 09 Nov 2004
Posts: 642
Location: Fort Worth, Texas
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Posted: 12-01-04 08:14am
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You should tell him and let him decide if
he wants to be there or not. It is his
right as a 'soon to be daddy' to learn the
truth.
I know I couldnt live with myself if I had
gotten pregnant with either of my sons and
not told their daddy. I see how much he
means to my 3 year old now...I can only
imagine when nicolas is here how much he
will mean to him, too!
Its not skanky you dont know his lastname.
I mean, hell we've all made mistakes
.O.R. Whatnot. Not going to tie you to a
stake and burn ya for it. At least you're
happy about becoming a mommy.
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lil_blaze2004
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Posted: 12-01-04 10:44am
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He has a right to know--- who knows maybe
he'll turn out to be super cool about it.
If not u can get lots of support here.
Make sure you fiond out his last name
though if you want child support though.
Good luck and keep us posted!
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PattyV
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Joined: 01 May 2004
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Location: Chicago area
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Posted: 12-01-04 11:38am
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Well,you should tell him.What he decides
to do is up to him.Just be sure you get
support from him-that is his
responsibility!As far as it just being
about sex,that's up to the two of you to
decide what your relationship will be.Just
keep in mind that you will be connected by
your child for life and should always try
to keep that in mind.You both may be with
others,but always try to be civil to each
other in front of the child.Bst of luck to
you!Patty
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exoticgem
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 30 Nov 2004
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Posted: 12-01-04 13:09pm
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I guess the biggest thing i'm afraid of is
what I said before, that he'd try and take
him/her away from me. But okay... How
would any of you suggest I do this? I
mean I wasn't exagerating when I said I
know nothing about this guy. The only way
i'd be able to tell him is in an email or
over messenger (since I don't have a
number for him).. And I really don't
think either way is that great to drop
this kind of news.
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Newmommy23
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 20 Sep 2004
Posts: 727
Location: Dyess AFB, TX
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Posted: 12-01-04 13:16pm
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Hmmm...Message him and say u guy's really
need to talk and ask if he would meet u!
He can not take ur baby away unless you
are unfit which he can not prove seeing as
he doesn't know you! I kow what u r going
through I was terrified to tell my ex but
it wasn't so bad. The only part I feel
you are responsible for is telling him and
finding out as much as he will tell you.
Good luck hun and we are all here for you!
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PattyV
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Joined: 01 May 2004
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Location: Chicago area
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Posted: 12-01-04 13:16pm
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E-mail him and tell him you need to talk
to him.If he does not respond to that,tell
him in an e-mail.Not ideal,but it needs to
be done.Good luck to you.Patty
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jessamyn
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Posted: 12-02-04 03:46am
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How old are you? Is the guy gunna be in
your babies life? You simply need to just
tell him straight out
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004
Posts: 1803
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Posted: 12-02-04 05:57am
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I told my guy that I might be and, well he
left, but hey, at least I told him right?
Now it's his fault if he never knows for
sure. U should tell him. The father has
a right to know. Even if he's not going
to be in ur baby's life... At least one
day u can tell ur baby that u did tell
his/her father.
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