Please Help! Sex Different Than Normal Hurting Relationship! Posted: 12-01-04 18:19pm
One night when me and my boyfriend started
having sex we noticed that my vagina was
more loose than normal. Normally we have
to start out real slow and sort of work it
in, but this time it wasn't like that at
all. We didn't need to work it in. It
seemed abnormal to both of us. It has
never been like that in our whole 4 year
relationship. My boyfriend has been
questioning me about my loyalty and now he
thinks that I had sex with someone behind
his back. I was wondering if there was a
reason why it didn't need to be broken in
like it normally does? Please help!
Last edited by river04 on 12-03-04 12:45pm; edited 1 time in total
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June4life
Active User, Really EHEALTHy
Joined: 08 Jul 2004 Posts: 550
Posted: 12-01-04 18:28pm
I have no idea why it would be looser, but
if he isnt trusting you, and thinks you
snuck around behind his back, then thats
def. Not a healthy relationship!!
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PattyV
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Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 12-01-04 20:13pm
Maybe he gave you enough foreplay that
night and you were well lubricated!I don't
mean to poke fun,but looseness has nothing
to do with sexual loyalty!Your man is a
little suspicious,if you ask me.Patty
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BeckLyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2004 Posts: 476
Posted: 12-02-04 16:24pm
Hmmmm. Maybe he was smaller!!!! this is
strange.... Not sure, if I come across
anything, i'll get back on here.
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river04
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Joined: 01 Dec 2004 Posts: 5
Posted: 12-02-04 20:24pm
Well, we both are in college and it has
really put a strain on our relationship.
We're trying to work on it though. There
really wasn't a lot of foreplay that
night. Could it be that he was smaller??
Does that happen? Thanks again!
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BeckLyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2004 Posts: 476
Posted: 12-02-04 21:34pm
Hmmm... I don't know. Was he drinking
that night? Or done any drugs? That
could effect it I think...
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Hotness
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Joined: 28 Nov 2004 Posts: 16 Location: Florida
Hmm Posted: 12-02-04 21:50pm
Maybe he wasn't as hard that night. I
know sometimes my man be surprising me
because he'll be soooo hard one day, and
the next i'm not feelin it the same
because he's not as hard.
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river04
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Joined: 01 Dec 2004 Posts: 5
12 Days And Counting... Posted: 12-03-04 12:40pm
Well we have 12 days until it'll be our
official 4 year anniversary (dec 15th) and
we're really stressing this whole
situation. We don't know what else to
do. We've tried finding other sites to
help us and nothing so far has been any
help. Hopefully we can get the help we
need and be together for our anniversary,
not sexually just to be with each other
and have a good time. Since it was a
while ago and a lot has went on since, I
can't remember if we did drink anything
that night. But if so it was only a
little bit, like a few sips, I doubt
enough for anything to be wrong because of
the alcohol. Could it have been anything
like how wet I was or anything? Like
maybe I was more wet than normal which
made it alot easier? Could that be?
Anything else will be a great help!
Thanks again!
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Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Jul 2004 Posts: 54
Posted: 12-03-04 19:43pm
I dont mean to sound rude or anything, but
when was the last time u had sex before
that? Cos if it was like, the day before,
or a couple a times that wk, then maybe it
might hav seemed a bit looser than usual
cos of the previous action
or like u said, u could hav been more wet
than usual...
Lol I dunno.... Just a suggestion....
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river04
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Joined: 01 Dec 2004 Posts: 5
...?? Posted: 12-03-04 20:44pm
It was about 2 weeks before this incident
that we had sex or even done anything.
This is a big strain on our relationship
and hopefully posting on here can help us
fix things. Can being wetter than normal
cause this situation to happen?
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2ferano
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Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 12-04-04 21:01pm
Omg, it could be so many things! You
could have been more relaxed, he could
have been less hard, you could have been
more wet, or since you two are in a
relationship, when you have sex on a
regular basis your muscles do "loosen" up.
If you go for like two or three weeks
with no sex, they will tighten back up.
But, tell him to get over himself. Just
because sex was easier doesn't mean you
are cheating! Grrr!
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river04
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Joined: 01 Dec 2004 Posts: 5
Things Haven't Changed Posted: 12-10-04 16:23pm
I still don't kno
what to do. My boyfriend still doesn't
belive me and we have 5 days 'til our 4
year anniversary and I don't even kno if
we'll even talk at all or see each other.
He's constantly accusing me of cheating
on him and yet I never have. I really
don't kno what to do. Any sugguestions
on how to get him to believe that I didn't
do anything with anyone, or why things
were 'different' that one night??
Anything is better than nothing!!
Thanks...
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l2at24
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Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Re: Things Haven't Changed Posted: 12-13-04 19:30pm
river04
wrote:
I still don't kno
what to do. My boyfriend still doesn't
belive me and we have 5 days 'til our 4
year anniversary and I don't even kno if
we'll even talk at all or see each other.
He's constantly accusing me of cheating
on him and yet I never have. I really
don't kno what to do. Any sugguestions
on how to get him to believe that I didn't
do anything with anyone, or why things
were 'different' that one night??
Anything is better than nothing!!
Thanks...
if he doesn't believe you there's nothing
you can do. I wouldn't be worried about
it if he doesn't even trust you. I know
four years is a long time, and is hard to
just brush off but it looks like that's
what he wants. Why is it such a big
deal anyway? It's not like having sex
with a man who has a bigger penis is going
to stretch you out permanently.
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Hillary
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Jan 2005 Posts: 4 Location: Southwest
Posted: 01-17-05 16:08pm
I feel for you because guys can be so
damned irrational about these things and
really have no right to do this.
I agree with others. . I think you may
have been more relaxed that night, maybe
you usually tense up alot and you felt
more at ease with sex, were looking
forward to it, maybe your cycle was at the
point where you were having more discharge
(how I hate that word!! Lets say vagina
wetness) and lubrication from arousal and
it just went in easier!
You could just as easily get mad at him
for not being completely hard as a sign he
was cheating on you but of course that
would be equally irrational!
I hope you both relax and don't let this
break up your relationship but it sounds
like you need to do some talking.
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this is
strange.... Not sure, if I come across
anything, i'll get back on here.
I still don't kno
what to do. My boyfriend still doesn't
belive me and we have 5 days 'til our 4
year anniversary and I don't even kno if
we'll even talk at all or see each other.
He's constantly accusing me of cheating
on him and yet I never have. I really
don't kno what to do. Any sugguestions
on how to get him to believe that I didn't
do anything with anyone, or why things
were 'different' that one night?? 