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leeb
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2004
Posts: 3
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My Daughter Is Pregnant
Posted: 12-04-04 22:52pm
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(here it is again)
hello, I am father to a 17yr old girl. I
was snooping in her room because she was
thrown out of her mothers house last month
and had to change schools and move to a
differant state, she seemes very
depressed, then some of my pain killers
were missing.So I think I had the right
(responability) to snoop, I found a letter
to her boy friend that said she was
pregnant. I ran out and bought a
pregnancy test but now i'm not sure if I
should give it to her or wait for her to
tell me herself. I don't if i'll loose
her if she knows I read it. I have tried
to talk to her with no luck. I'm a single
father and need womanly advise.
Thank you,
lee
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sarahsweet
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 12-04-04 22:57pm
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Anyway leeb----like I have said before, do
not let yourself feel bad for what you
have found in your daughters room. You
are here father, that is your job.
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peanutbuttertreasure
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2004
Posts: 1226
Location: Georgia
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Posted: 12-04-04 22:57pm
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Yes sir...That's right...You're the
father...Those are your "daddy rights" lol
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justacanadiangirl
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Joined: 19 Nov 2004
Posts: 1803
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Posted: 12-04-04 22:58pm
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Sweetie, I can give u a teenager's
opinion. If that was me and my parents
did that and confronted me with it, it
would not turn out well... U need to
give ur daughter some time and space.
She needs to be ready to tell u. U can't
force it or she will either close up
completely or guard herself from u from
now on. Whether u have good reason to
snoop or not, snooping is still snooping,
and she will feel like her privacy has
been invaded. I think that will make her
much less likely to talk to you about it.
Give her time and when she is comfortable
and ready, she will talk to you. She
does need u, and i'm sure she's just
waiting for the right time to tell u. I
know that's what I would be doing. Good
luck hun. I'm sure everything will be
fine. Plus, don't let her see the
pregnancy test u bought.
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peanutbuttertreasure
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2004
Posts: 1226
Location: Georgia
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:00pm
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Yeah..Her finding that test would not be
good at all 
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sarahsweet
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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:02pm
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Yea..I would def not give her the test,
she might be weirded out
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leeb
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2004
Posts: 3
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:03pm
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Thank you, you all have been a great help.
Goodnite i'll be back tomorrow, this is
good.
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Joined: 09 Nov 2004
Posts: 1226
Location: Georgia
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:03pm
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If u were my dad..And u handed me the
test..I'd run outta the house..Lol
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sarahsweet
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:05pm
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Lol...Same here...Id be like,....."see
ya!"
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justacanadiangirl
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 19 Nov 2004
Posts: 1803
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:11pm
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Lee, u can feel free to pm any of us, i'm
sure we can all help u out in different
ways. Good luck hun. 
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peanutbuttertreasure
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Nov 2004
Posts: 1226
Location: Georgia
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:13pm
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Yes..Ur welcome to pm us...Plz keep us
updated..Have a great night
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bd1012
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004
Posts: 1998
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:45pm
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I am just curious.. Why was the post
about this post locked? Was it an
accident.. I didn't see any drama? Not
trying to start nothing, i'm just
wondering. 
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Joined: 09 Nov 2004
Posts: 1226
Location: Georgia
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:46pm
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Last edited by peanutbuttertreasure on 12-05-04 03:40am; edited 1 time in total
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bd1012
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Joined: 31 May 2004
Posts: 1998
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:49pm
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Are you telling me to pm you or leeb?
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Joined: 09 Nov 2004
Posts: 1226
Location: Georgia
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:50pm
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Last edited by peanutbuttertreasure on 12-05-04 03:41am; edited 1 time in total
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babyrae
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Joined: 19 Jan 2004
Posts: 2957
Location: Manitoba, Canada
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Posted: 12-04-04 23:55pm
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It was locked???
Anyways, I dont think u did anythign
wrong. U felt like u didnt have so much
trust and wanted to know what was going
on. I know i'd do the same thing to my
daughter.. Even tho shes probably be
upset at me. Try to bring it up slowly..
Like ask how her life is and what not..
See if u can get her to talk to you.
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payton_jewles
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Dec 2004
Posts: 56
Location: California
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:08am
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Give her time and when you notice that her
belly is becoming bigger overtime. Ask
her and show her that you care and are and
will always be there for her. The only
guy a girl can depend on is her daddy.
Good luck.
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AciasMommy17
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 05 Nov 2004
Posts: 65
Location: Pennsylvania
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:28am
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I wouldn't just hand it to her cause that
would probably freak her out or make her
mad..My aunt did that to my cousin meg
(see post about my new baby cousin)and
well she didn't hear from her for 3 weeks,
she was okay just living with her sister
but still. If you notice her belly or
anything like that getting bigger ask her
about it or say "is there something you
wanna tell me?" that's pretty much what my
mom did since I was a wuss and couldn't
tell her. 
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004
Posts: 1509
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Posted: 12-05-04 10:08am
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Oh heeeeeck no! I am speaking from a
parents perspective. It is not your job
to make sure she is happy and doesn't get
mad. If you think she is pregnant you
need to do something about it .N.O.W.
For her health and the baby's health.
Go to her in a loving way, and let her
know that you are here for her. Do not
go about it angry and judging her. If
she doesn't respond the way you hoped, so
what? Also I saw your post in giving
head to an uncircumsized man.......You are
giving advice to girls just like your
daughter!!!!!
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KissyBai912
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Joined: 25 Aug 2003
Posts: 1762
Location: Venice, Florida
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Posted: 12-05-04 10:59am
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If you don't want to wait for her to tell
you, I would suggest a trickier method.
Tell her that you noticed that there have
been no *feminine wrappers* in the garbage
for sometime, and you were wondering what
was up, and if she needed to talk. Just
be loving about it, and let her know that
you won't be angry. Sounds gross that you
would be looking in the trash, but hey,
when I sit on the toilet for some reason
my eyes are always drawn to the trash.
Lol. That's when I see all my razors
there and wonder what the hell my brother
is up to......Lmao.
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