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Arianna_Capri
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13, And Wanting a Baby...is That Wrong
Posted: 12-05-04 00:25am
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Hey I need soo much advice..I want to have
a baby soo bad but im only 13..And I know
I could handle a child..But the only thing
thats stopping me is my family..I dont
know how they would react...I really love
kids and I babysitt soo many...I just love
them and I have wanted them since I was
little..Now im a teenager and I want one
of my own but I dont know how to tell my
parents..Please help me 
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payton_jewles
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:29am
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Honey nothing is wrong it is just that you
love being around babies and you want one
to take care of and love. I totally
understand beleive me! Dont worry about
your parents right now worry about
yourself. Wait are you pregnant right
now?
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payton_jewles
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:29am
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Honey nothing is wrong it is just that you
love being around babies and you want one
to take care of and love. I totally
understand beleive me! Dont worry about
your parents right now worry about
yourself. Wait are you pregnant right
now?
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babyrae
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:31am
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What ur having is "baby fever" and i'm
sorry, but u would n.O.T be able to handle
a child... U have school and life and
work and family and friends. Babysitting
is a hell of a lot different than haveing
your own kid. Its a lot of time, love,
effort and patience. Do not try and get
pregnant please. Educate yourself on it,
live your life, find a man you love, then
u can plan on settling down.
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Arianna_Capri
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No
Posted: 12-05-04 00:31am
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No im not pregnant but I want 1 and how
would I support it the money doctor
clothes food??...I dont know
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2ferano
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:32am
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Yeah, read the other post by the girl who
replied first. There are lots of good
responses there!
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payton_jewles
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:33am
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Wouldnt your parents help you scene they
are suppose to love you unconditionaly?
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2ferano
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:33am
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But to reply to you, wait! If you want a
baby so badly, then obviously you will
care for this child right? Good, then
care for it before it is conceived by not
getting pregnant! Wait until you at
least graduate from high school, get a job
and are financially ready (which my take
quite sometime) and then get pregnant and
have a baby.
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Arianna_Capri
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Ahhhhhhhhh
Posted: 12-05-04 00:36am
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I know but I want 1 soo bad and what if
baby fever doesnt leave me and I have
1..Im scared because if I do get preg how
will I support it...I know I kan take kare
of it but I need money...No one
understands me rite now...
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:38am
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We understand u..Most of us have gone
through the same thing
if you can't take care of yourself..And
move out...Get married..Get a good
job..And many other things.
You're not ready
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2ferano
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:40am
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Baby fever can't "take over" if you use
birth control and condoms. No matter how
badly you want a baby, just keep in the
back of your mind that you want the best
for your child and the best is to wait.
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payton_jewles
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:41am
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Arent your parents supportive? I
understand what you mean and so does
everyone else.
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:45am
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Like I said in the other thread
you need to wait. I know ur prolly
dealing with a bad case of baby
fever..I've gone through a major bit of it
myself lately...And i'm 16..But I would
not bring a child into this world until I
could take care of myself...Get
married...Live on my own..Pay for my
bills..Have a good job...Family support.
I want to wait until I can tell my
parents.. "guess what, ur gonna be
grandparents" and them to cry happy
because they are gonna be grandparents at
a good time..And their grandchilds parents
are married..And have set a good
foundation for their child.. Instead of
having a child now..And them crying
because they are dissapointed in me.
Yes...They would be supportive..My parents
will support me in anything.
I have never lied to them..They trust me.
At ur age...13...I was a cheif instructor
at a karate studio. I never liked boys
much until I was 15. I have wanted a baby
since I was 6...That's 10 years ago.. But
I will wait until I can bring a child into
the world as prepared as I can possibly
be.. Prolly 3 years after I get married
plz wait kiddo
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Arianna_Capri
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:45am
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Well I know I kan provide a great
environment 4 it and I want it sooo badly
im sooo confused
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payton_jewles
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:47am
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I think you should wait, but out of
couriousity what would you name the baby
if it was a girl/boy?
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2ferano
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:49am
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A great environment? How? With your
parents taking care of it while you are in
school? Well, then why don't your
parents just have another kid.
You need to finish school, get married (if
you believe in marriage), have a home of
your own, have a job and be financially
stable enough to raise your child.
I know you are confused and have strong
feelings right now. I don't mean to
sound harsh, but you really need to think
about what is best for the baby.
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:51am
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At 13 your body isn't fully developed yet.
Having a baby now could cause you and the
child major harm. Possibly risking both
of your lives. You also could miscarry.
Would you be able to deal with that??? If
ur child had a disability would u be able
to deal with it? My brother has one...And
I have enough trouble dealing with
him..And he's 13. When you turn 21 you
would have an 8 year old child. You won't
be having fun with friends...You'd be
staying home helping your child with
homework. Wait please!!!!!
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2ferano
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Posted: 12-05-04 00:57am
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I hadn't even had my period yet at 13.
Heck, I hadn't even had my first kiss yet.
Wow.
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:02am
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I didn't get my first kiss until
recently...And i'm 16 
lol
and I got my period just just just b4 my
14th birthday
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Arianna_Capri
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Posted: 12-05-04 01:09am
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Thanx u guys 4 all of the advice.....It
makes me feel a lot better...But im still
confused and I have noooo clu what to say
or do..I just go mii period like last
month andd ever since then ive really been
thinking bcuz now I kan..Mot likely...And
I would name mii grl arianna capri and my
boy elijah talan
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