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payton_jewles
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Why Does No One Believe In Teenage Mothers??!!
Posted: 12-05-04 16:30pm
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Does anyone beleive that teenagers can do
just as good or a better job then a 20 or
older mom? Or am I the only one who
thinks this? Please responed, because
this bothers me a lot!
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peanutbuttertreasure
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Posted: 12-05-04 16:36pm
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l2at24
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Posted: 12-05-04 16:37pm
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I think that most teenage moms,
particularly those who haven't graduated
high school, cannot do a better job than a
mother that has. There are a lot of moms
that are in their 30s, 40s+ and not doing
a good job. But still the odds are
definitely in favor for the older moms.
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peanutbuttertreasure
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 12-05-04 16:48pm
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Very very true! Payton-it is not that we
dont believe in teen mothers. There are
a lot of young girls here to whom we post
to everyday that are young and are having
or already have babies. They work their
a$$es off to give their children and
unborn children what they can offer at
this time. However, when we see posts
about young girls wanting to get pregnant
just because they want a child for
themselves, it is not that we dont believe
in the certain individual, it is that we
dont believe that what she is doing is
very responsible, and like I have said
plenty of times, down right selfish.
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mommax3
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Posted: 12-05-04 16:49pm
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You aren't only your mother's child as we
all will forever be
you are still her baby
if she wanted to give that up and tell you
to go for it, what kind of message would
that send to you
like I said b4
you want a baby so bad, what if your
little girl decided she wanted to quit
being your baby girl so early?
Please do not rob your mother or father of
the years that she has to look forward to
between now and when you will both be
ready to welcome a new one into the family
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Kia
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Posted: 12-05-04 16:50pm
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Ok the more life experience you have
techincally the better - right?????
However some teen mom's are much better
than older moms.
It's not that people don't believe in teen
moms at all but that they want teens to
have the freedom they can.
Also you body is still developing,
pregnancy at a young age can and will put
exteme stress on your bones and joints,
you are unlikey to have a job or income to
support yourself and child either.
It is harder to finish school later, you
will keep meaning to go back but things
like looking after kids gets in the way.
A womans body continues developing
untilaround 21 years of age, puberty only
kicks in around 12-13 so why not wait
until your body is fully developed?
Last edited by Kia on 12-05-04 16:51pm; edited 1 time in total
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mayer4567
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Posted: 12-05-04 16:50pm
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I think teenage moms can do just a good of
a job as long as they are responsible and
dedicated to try there best
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 12-05-04 16:52pm
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Mayer-i agree, and that is usually for the
most part how it works out. However, most
of them did not purpusoly get themselves
pregnant just because they wanted to play
for a little while
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manytravels
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Posted: 12-05-04 17:22pm
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I'm not sure if I believe in teenage
mothers, I think thier existance is a
conspiracy kept secret by the government,
like aliens.
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 12-05-04 17:24pm
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I believe that they can make it through, I
dont believe that they can offer their
child what an older, stable person can
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SamiNSunisMa
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Posted: 12-05-04 18:39pm
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I guess u could say I had baby fever,
after 2 miscarriages and I was using drugs
heavily, but I wasnt ready... I wasnt
ready for my next miscarriage or even for
my son until I was forced into treatment,
I know you may not u drugs payton, but
still u give everything up. No amount of
babysitting, "raising" siblings or neices
and nephews can ever prepare u!
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 12-05-04 18:40pm
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Exactly, and in most cases like yours,
when the real deal comes, you regret it.
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SamiNSunisMa
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Posted: 12-05-04 18:42pm
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| sarahsweet
wrote: | | exactly, and in most cases
like yours, when the real deal comes, you
regret it. |
dont get me wrong, I love sami sooo much,
but I wasn't ready!
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sarahsweet
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Posted: 12-05-04 18:43pm
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Im not saying that at all! Im saying,
when girls try their hardest to get
pregnant, they most likely end up
regretting it
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Arianna_Capri
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:07pm
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"however some teen mom's are much better
than older moms.", kia briezzze
exactly....Thats sooo tru and at least
sum1 understands where we r coming
frm...And y do u guys tthink meand payton
are the same person
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mommax3
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:16pm
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| arianna_capri
wrote: | "however some teen mom's are
much better than older moms.", kia
briezzze
exactly....Thats sooo tru and at least
sum1 understands where we r coming
frm...And y do u guys tthink meand payton
are the same person |
she doesn't mean it is a good idea, she is
just saying that there are older people
that never grew up and they became
parents, unfortunatley for their child
that doesn't mean she is telling you to go
ut and get pregnant
because there are too many similarities
with the two of you, you both joined at
the same time from the same place and you
sure didn't act like you knew each other
in the ohter topic you posted. Than all
of a sudden you did in that same one, you
both have the names you want for your
girls as your username and they are layed
out in the same format, maybe you have a
split personality or something....
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PattyV
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:23pm
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It is not that people do not believe you
can be a good young mother.This advice is
coming from some young mothers
themselves.They are telling you how
difficult it is to be a teen mother.My mom
was 17 when she had my oldest sister and
her life was so very hard.She had a 10th
grade education and her marriage did not
last.She raised 3 children on her own.She
waited tables and tended bar,all she knew
how to do.We made it by the skin of our
teeth some months.She did without a decent
winter coat so my sisters and I would have
warm coats.She is a great mom,but she says
that she wished she could have waited
until she was older to have kids.My mom is
retired now,but still works part-time to
supplement her income.All those years of
waitressing did not provide her with much
for her later years.Please, at least
finish high school before you decide to
have children.You will not regret your
education.Good luck to you.Patty
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jenn_smithson
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:23pm
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First, how do we define "good"? "good"
and "bad" are subjective terms. We each
have our own interpretation of these words
and we each have our own ideas about what
a "good" mother is. Therefore,
discussing whether or not young women make
"good" mother's is slightly silly as we
will all have our own definition of
"good". Also, you cannot generalize an
entire group under one heading or another
as there is a great propensity for
variations within that group. You cannot
say that all teen or young mother's are
"good" mother's, you must instead view
each young woman alone and not lump them
all into the same category.
Secondly, given the facts and the world we
live in today, it is much, much harder to
be a young mother than it is for a woman
who is older and more experienced. This
is not to say that all young mother's are
"bad" mother's it is only stating the fact
that they encounter more problems due to
their age and inexperience.
Thirdly, if you are doing the absolute
best for your child and/or children no
matter what your age, then why do you care
what other people think? You know you
are doing the best you can so whatever
anyone else says is irrelevant.
Fourthly, each mother finds unique
difficulties to her situation. The
difficulties you face are not the same as
another woman are facing. So comparing
yourself to other women is pointless in
this matter.
In my personal opinion, I do believe it is
better to wait to have children. I am 22
and am still waiting to have children
because now is not the right time. Does
this mean that I think you were wrong for
having children at a younger age? No.
Does this mean I think you will make a
"bad" mother? No. It only means that I
can see the difficulties you are facing
and know that it is not for me.
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mommax3
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Posted: 12-05-04 19:26pm
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Exactly, no one ever even said anything
about being a good or bad mother anyway,
so maybe we should say it is normally
better for a more experienced .W.O.M.A.N
to be a mother than an inexperienced
teenaged girl
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