Why Does No One Believe In Teenage Mothers??!!

We don't care how good of a mother you could be, a child should not be planning on raising a child

You said it girl.

Teen moms (like myself - to be), can do just as good as a job as a older one, but that doesnt give you more reason to become a teen mom.

In my eyes, it is unfair to plan it.

I believe they could.

Congrts to kaigela!! How far along are you?How old are you? Do you know the sex of the baby yet?! Sorry if I sound nosey!!! Forgive me if I do!

You really need a reality check payton... Listen to all of us

You are asking for our advice but you and your friend arent taking it.. Talk to you parents maybe they can talk you out of it... Did you ever think about your family and not your self you are going to break your parents heart you are still just a kid !!!!!!!!1

You are asking for our advice but you and your friend arent taking it.. Talk to you parents maybe they can talk you out of it... Did you ever think about your family and not your self you are going to break your parents heart you are still just a kid !!!!!!!!1

You really need a reality check payton... Listen to all of us

The fact is that teenage moms are usually not ready th handle to responsibility of a child. They themselves have a lot of developing and maturing to do. Financially they are not equipped with the skills to raise a child. How many actually finish high school? Forget about college. It is difficult to raise a child on a minimum wage job. Besides when they are working, who is rasing the child? My guess is that most of time the burden falls on the parents of the teenager and is that fair? It is natural for teenagers to be selfish and egocentric, but that doesnt leave room for a baby. Get an education, secure yourself, get married or be in a stable relationship and then have a child. A child deserves this. After all, who would choose to be a child of an unwed, uneduacted, poor teenager? I would want my child to be proud of me and I would want to serve as a good role model.

You can not force someone to take your advice.
Just offer what you can and then you know you did your best.
Don't dis someone or call them stupid because they choose not to take your advice. Just because that was right for you doesn't mean it is right for them.
We have to let people make their own mistakes and then offer the support we can. This is a support forum.
Come on ladies

Your right when can't make people take our advice but when someone ask advice and then ignores all of the advice they get, then why do they even bother asking for advice in the first place

Because they want to hear what other people think and then have the option of doing the same or something different.
Because they want an opinion - they may already have made their minds up or the advice given my just not sit with them.

Kinda like when I was a kid I would say I was hungry and then everything my nan offered I would turn my nose up at.
Why did I say I was hungry if I didn't want anything she had to offer???

I was 18 when I had my first child. My advice to teenagers who want to have kids at such a young age keep in mind of somethings. It is important to get an education, if u end up supporting u and your child alone u will need an education. Most jobs u have to have a high school degree or a ged. Secondly u r growing up so fast and when those years r gone they r gone. Third and most of all keep in mind there is a possablity u could have a child w/ birth defects. W/ all that said I was 18 and my son was born w/ a lot of medical problems and I was one that grew up very fast and took classes to learn how to take care of him. While I was in the nicu w/ him I saw a lot of newborns being given up by teenage mothers who couldn't handle a baby that was born w/ problems. It broke my heart. So before u go leaping w/ out thinking long and hard make sure u r prepared for anything. I am now 34 and my youngest is 13 and I am raising her to not even think or go down that path. There is plenty of time for getting bf's and getting married and or having kids. I can say I have had to take care of two children on my own w/ no high school education and busting my chops for 6 and a quarter to keep a roof over our heads. I talk to my 13 year old a lot about her life and choicing the right best path for her. I don't want to c her have to struggle like I have had to. Also when I had my son I didn't know at the time I was a carrier of a chromosome abnormality and he has an extra peice and that is why he was born w/ birth defects and my daughter is a carrier and now she has to keep in mind when she gets older that she is at a high risk of having a child born w/ birth defects. Give yourself a chance to live and learn and when u r older then have kids. U will be glad u waited.

I am going to be a mom next august or september so I am already starting to think about what is important to my child and my boyfriend..I am 15 and scared shitless but ya know I made the mistake it's my responsiblitie..So I am not going to regret it because that is a mistake alot of mothers do is regret having their child..They wont pay attention to it and then their child will commit suicide or start doing drugs you have to think about your child's future not yours when it comes to this kind of stuff.

Being on here made me see how alot of teenage mums to be have to grow up, they do, and they are so responsible. I beleive that each person is diffrent, yes some girls arnt ready, but then some are. Theres no 'teenage mums' about it.For example there may be a 25 yr old that doesnt want to be a mother, and a 16yr old that does. Who do you think will be a better mum? - who knows!! Each and every person is different. Nobody can say how they will be a mum. End of!

Support support support!!

True, but trying that early is just plain selfish. They should finish school and get a job to support their baby first.