Joined: 07 Dec 2004 Posts: 1 Location: NORTH HALEDON NNJ
My Frist Time Posted: 12-07-04 04:35am
hello my name is kristi.
My bf and I want to have sex and he has
had sex b4 and I really want to. But i'm
scared it will hurt really bad ( I know I
sound stupid for asking) but i'm 19 and I
can't ask my family they will hate me for
even aking. Please help....
Thanks
krisri
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l2at24
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 06 Nov 2004 Posts: 1509
Posted: 12-07-04 08:35am
I always hear it hurts too, but it didn't
hurt me. I'm not clear on what your
question is, but i'm sure he knows your a
virgin and he will be gentle. If you're
too scared wait until you're married,
you'll never regret it. :d
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BeckLyn
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 04 Nov 2004 Posts: 476
Posted: 12-07-04 14:00pm
If its your first time, just be sure you
really care about him and he really cares
about you. And be smart. Use
protection. And it didn't hurt me much
and I barely bled, but my legs did feel
kind of funny for the next couple of days
cuz of the stretching... All women are
diff. Some women say it hurts alot or
that they bleed quite a bit.... Good
luck!
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2ferano
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 23 Dec 2003 Posts: 3717
Posted: 12-09-04 21:20pm
Well, it hurt me like hell. He wasn't
even very large at all and it still hurt.
Yes, he was gentle, but urgh, you are
being penetrated where you never have been
before. But, yeah, make sure you really
care about him and that this is the best
choice for you, and make sure he knows it
is your first time and that he is
gentle.
I personally would never wait until I was
married to have sex. You wouldn't know
what you were getting yourself into. You
could end up with someone who couldn't
last more than two minutes, or just plain
couldn't please you. I personally would
have to know my man was good for me in all
ways. No, sex isn't everything, but it
is very, very important to some people, me
being one of them.
But, also, it is an absolutely wonderful
thing to wait until marriage! I am not
telling you not to, because that is a very
respectable thing! It is just a choice
for you to make! Good luck.
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drexl
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 37 Location: canada
Posted: 12-14-04 03:32am
If your hymen is still intact it could
hurt especially if you plan on going to
physical ed training the next day. Alot
of girls don't have one, it's a thin
membrane of tissue up your vagina if he
breaks it, it will likely bleed a little
bit, take the pain wimp.
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MyLoveBugs
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 13 Dec 2004 Posts: 42
My First Posted: 12-14-04 21:56pm
My personal opinion is that since you are
already 19 if I were you I would wait.
All my friends that I have talked with
said they wish they would have waited
until they were married, and besides, that
would be something that you could cherish
forever. How long have you 2 been
together just asking just to make sure he
is not sleeping with you just for sex.
But if you feel like that you can trust
him, and you really like him I say go for
it, this is really up to you. Just make
sure you tell him that you are still a
virgin that way he might be a little more
gentle with you.
