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lusciouskiss16

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Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Posts: 516
Location: Missouri

Depressed..!! Posted: 12-08-04 07:09am


Ive been so depressed lately..!! It sucks so bad! Okay first off, as you all know I am 6 months pregnant with my first child ( a boy )! Im 17..I have no job, im not with the childs father, so he has been no help. I absolutly have nothing for my baby.. Just a few hand me down clothes..:p! I live with my mom and younger brother and sister in a 3 bedroom house. So there really isnt room for another person, so I really wanna get my own apartment just me and my son..But I cant exactly afford it. Ive tried getting a job but nobody will hire me because im pregnant. Ever since I got pregnant..My friends just kinda forgot about me and went on and are still doing their usuall partying..I havent talked to any of them in forever. So I dont exactly plan on a baby shower or anything. This is so hard. I just wish I had someone to help me out..!! I feel like nobody is here for me and nobody cares..! I just wanna move out, get my own place, raise my son...And be able to do it all. But I cant.. Did I mention..My brother is 16 and my sister is 14..So they are both teenagers..And they cuss, smoke..Are disrespectfull and what not. So I dont exactly wanna raise my son here.. Another reason why I need my own place. I just need some help and am having trouble getting it. I dont even have any maternity clothes..!! ..

lilangel2905

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Joined: 21 Oct 2004
Posts: 225
Location: PA

Re: Depressed..!!
Posted: 12-08-04 07:57am

lusciouskiss16 wrote:

ive been so depressed lately..!! It sucks so bad! Okay first off, as you all know I am 6 months pregnant with my first child ( a boy )! Im 17..I have no job, im not with the childs father, so he has been no help. I absolutly have nothing for my baby.. Just a few hand me down clothes..:p! I live with my mom and younger brother and sister in a 3 bedroom house. So there really isnt room for another person, so I really wanna get my own apartment just me and my son..But I cant exactly afford it. Ive tried getting a job but nobody will hire me because im pregnant. Ever since I got pregnant..My friends just kinda forgot about me and went on and are still doing their usuall partying..I havent talked to any of them in forever. So I dont exactly plan on a baby shower or anything. This is so hard. I just wish I had someone to help me out..!! I feel like nobody is here for me and nobody cares..! I just wanna move out, get my own place, raise my son...And be able to do it all. But I cant.. Did I mention..My brother is 16 and my sister is 14..So they are both teenagers..And they cuss, smoke..Are disrespectfull and what not. So I dont exactly wanna raise my son here.. Another reason why I need my own place. I just need some help and am having trouble getting it. I dont even have any maternity clothes..!! Sad

it will get better! If it makes you feel better I don't have any maternity clothes either.... I am not with the father either, but I did just get married oct. 29th to a guy who wants to be my baby's daddy more than anything... I never thought I could afford an appartment either... But now I have a two bedroom appartment.... If you want to have a babyshower just invite family... Thats what I am doing... I don't hang out with my friends anymore either... But thats probley a good thing since it was a bad crowd... What kind of places did you try for a job? I hope not any factories or plants.... I didn't work until I was 5 months preggo... I work at a subway (sandwiches not trains) lol so far all I have are my brother's kids hand me downs... Which is pretty good though because he was a 2 yr old and a 1 year old... Both boys.. And thats what I am having... I don't think I have to worry about clothes... I ever get the hand me down crib.... But anyways.... I thought there would be no hope at me making it with a child all by myself... Then look what happened... I believe everything happens for a reason... Everything will get better I promise!!!

lusciouskiss16

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Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Posts: 516
Location: Missouri

Posted: 12-08-04 08:04am


Ive pretty much tried fast food resturants..I cant exactly get a good job with out a high school education.. about inviting my family to the baby shower..All my family lives far away..The only family that lives near me is my mom and little sister and brother and older sister..Who lived on her own with her family. Thats about it..Im not really close to any of my family..

lauren_prk

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Joined: 06 Dec 2004
Posts: 253
Location: Wisconsin

Posted: 12-08-04 08:14am


There's absolutely nothing wrong with nabd downs!! The only people who came to my baby shower was family and family friends. I'm not close to alot of my family eigther, but they showed up anyways, they kind of have to, you know? And I know how hard it is for all your friends to abandon you, I stopped talking to all of my friends about a month after I got married (which was over 2 years ago), so when I became pregnant I had no friends to even talk to. But hey, all the nice people on here make up for the idiots I used to call "friends". I also believe everything happens for a reason, and everything will work out!!

lusciouskiss16

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Joined: 01 Sep 2004
Posts: 516
Location: Missouri

Posted: 12-08-04 08:22am


Thanks a lot for your support! It means alot to me.! I love coming here because you guys actually make me feel like I belong. Im actually embarassed to go out in public anymore because I feel everyone is looking down on me..And just thinking.."what a failure"...

Princess385

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Joined: 03 Dec 2004
Posts: 407
Location: Wisconsin

Posted: 12-08-04 16:19pm


They have many programs out there to help you get things for your child....To help you get a place to live, but I do think you have to be 18 for the section 8....I could be wrong. They have many other programs out there, food stamps, wic....And so on. All you have to do is go to a health department in your area and they'll be able to help you out some more!! Good luck hun!

xLove x Lostx

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Joined: 28 Nov 2004
Posts: 127
Location: Pompano Beach, FL

Posted: 12-08-04 17:16pm


Look sweetie, you're not a failure. Hand me downs arent bad at all. Whatever works, you know? Have a baby shower. Whether alot of people come or not its always good to have what you can have. You cant have the world, but theres always the next best thing. As long as you have yourself and your son, you have what you need. Hold your head high and forget about the "friends" you had. If they really were friends, they'd stay by your side throughout thick and thin. We're here for you, and I hope you know that. Dont be embarrassed to go on welfare or food stamps, if it feeds you and your child thats all that matters. Sooner or later you're gonna get a good job that pays well, and it'll be just you and your son. And yes, everything happens for a reason. It will work out just fine. Have a little faith, and it'll all be fine. Best of luck. P.S. Dont they have high school night classes that you can take?

sarahsweet

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Joined: 23 Oct 2004
Posts: 2485
Location: traverse city, michigan

Posted: 12-08-04 23:45pm


Hi dear, i'm sorry to hear you are feeling down, I know there are some days where you think nothing is going right, and you feel alone. But you know what? You will never be alone again! You are bringing another life into this world that will be there with you forever (well until he goes on to college... ) you are never alone. Who cares if some of your best friends are girls online who talk on a pregnancy forum, thats how I feel sometimes! Some of the girls I have met on here are better friends to me than I have ever had, and probably ever will have. We are always here, no matter what, and you can tell us anything, and we are here to support you. Sometimes when I have depressing days, I cry and cry and think that it will never get better. Not true. Tomarrow when you wake up, tell yourself, "today I am going to do somthing to better my life, and my son's life." so tomarrow when you wake up, go to the health department, look into everything that you can get your hands on. Like wic, food stamps, and what not. Are you into going to school? See what your highschool has to offer, I don't know if you aren't going anymore, but if not, get back into the scene. I really think school is important because it has so much to offer you later. Get back into classes. I know there are a lot of highschools who have daycare, so if need be, you can take your son there while you get an education. That way, you can get into college. Or what about a ged? You can start off in a community college, then get credits to go to a university. Then you can get a good job that you will be able to support your son with. It's a lot easier said than done, I know. But keep your head up girl, because you deserve the best, so give it to yourself! Who cares about the baby's daddy, you don't need his help anyway. Look what he gave you though, a beautiful precious little bundle that you will thank god for everyday! You need a job so that you can make some money for yourself and the babe. Go to more places than fast food. Go everywhere! Someone is bound to hire you, keep trying trying trying! Then maybe you could get enough money to move out. Do you have any friends that you might be willing to live with? Anyone? That way rent will be cheaper split. You have a lot of options hunny, just keep trucking along, and you will find somthing, but don't waste a day that you didn't try. I hope you start feeling better. Keep your chin up, make yourself proud. You can do this, I promise you. You will be just fine. I know it may be hard to see, but you w I l l do this. Let us know if there is anything else you need help with. Take care girl, things will get better, I promise.