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Q: Could This Happen Without Me Knowing...
asked by: bailysbutterfly on December 11th, 2004
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Im sure you have read my other post in this section about when I can get pregnant, and this is why... Tell me what you think:

tell me if this is even possible… I hope I am not freaking out… ok… let me start off my saying that when me and my bf usually have sex… up until about 1-1.5 weeks ago, he could hardly last 5 minutes… literally!!! He would cum so fast…. And it would bother him, he would always say, "how can you even enjoy that?!?" and all this stuff… but he said he couldn't help how turned on he was and how good it felt and bla bla bla… I was never unsatisfied or anything and he knew that… ok now about 1-1.5 weeks ago…he started saying that he wanted to stay and cum inside me and see how it felt and of course I said no (we have unprotected sex)… ok well I have noticed that the sex we have the first time of the night is always fast… always… and the second time is looooonnnng… well now… last night we were having sex and I was on top (which he begs me for and never lasts over 5 minutes still) and I noticed that his face was like he had cum but I didn't feel anything (i don't know if you are supposed to feel it inside you) or anything like that.. And he didn't totally act like he came but the way some things on his body were twitching a little, kinda made me think he did… well then all of a sudden he went limp…!!!!! I was like what!!! How can it just go limp while we are having sex…. And he was like… wait, no im not done and all this… and he wanted to keep going... So then we kept having sex and he went for like an hour straight... No stopping... Which is the longest by far… and it was the first time we had had sex all day well actually, the first time in 2 days… after we got through… I noticed that "down there" on me, felt different... Felt really really wet… so my question is… do you think he went inside me without me knowing and that's why it went limp and he lasted so long like he usually does after he already cum… please don't laugh… thanks
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June4life
replied on December 11th, 2004
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I'm kinda confused...

Usually if a guy wears a condom it takes him longer to cum than if he went without one...
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PosrscheLvr
replied on December 11th, 2004
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I would say he did cum inside you. Plus if you are having unprotected sex you need to get on the pill/shot/patch whatever. Sex is fun and all but you sound really young and I don't think you need to be having a child
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bailysbutterfly
replied on December 11th, 2004
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june4life wrote:
i'm kinda confused...


Usually if a guy wears a condom it takes him longer to cum than if he went without one...


he doesn't wear one...
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bailysbutterfly
replied on December 11th, 2004
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posrschelvr wrote:
i would say he did cum inside you. Plus if you are having unprotected sex you need to get on the pill/shot/patch whatever. Sex is fun and all but you sound really young and I don't think you need to be having a child


im 21... I am a little embarrased to put this topic up but I wanted to know if I was overreacting.... I plan to get on bc after the first of the year... I know that it would be our own faults if something happened, but I am not really worried about anything... I just have never had to worry about this before... And to me it seemed as if he did cum inside without telling me but I have never had someone cum inside me before because I have always worn condoms with anyone else (my ex bfs)... So I did not know if I was supposed to feel it inside me or anything..
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l2at24
replied on December 11th, 2004
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Very confusing, and way tmi girl. I don't think I even know what the question is, but you're going to get pregnant so I hope that's okay with you. Okay, I just re-read and see the question is do we think he came? Okay, well, why wouldn't he tell you that? There's no reason for him to lie about if he came or not.
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bailysbutterfly
replied on December 11th, 2004
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l2at24 wrote:
very confusing, and way tmi girl. I don't think I even know what the question is, but you're going to get pregnant so I hope that's okay with you. Okay, I just re-read and see the question is do we think he came? Okay, well, why wouldn't he tell you that? There's no reason for him to lie about if he came or not.


well... He is always talking about how he doesnt want to pull out, but I told him no... That he has too... I dont know... I dont know why he would do it either, but im telling u.. Something was different
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PosrscheLvr
replied on December 11th, 2004
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im 21... I am a little embarrased to put this topic up but I wanted to know if I was overreacting.... I plan to get on bc after the first of the year... I know that it would be our own faults if something happened, but I am not really worried about anything... I just have never had to worry about this before... And to me it seemed as if he did cum inside without telling me but I have never had someone cum inside me before because I have always worn condoms with anyone else (my ex bfs)... So I did not know if I was supposed to feel it inside me or anything..


ok girlie well you should be able to tell if he came in you or not.
Trust me when you get up it's an immense amount of liquid. There is no reason to be embarassed. I think it's a great idea that you want to get on bc after the ny. Maybe now would be better tho? Just be sure to take care of yourself, your health is the most important.
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bailysbutterfly
replied on December 11th, 2004
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posrschelvr wrote:
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im 21... I am a little embarrased to put this topic up but I wanted to know if I was overreacting.... I plan to get on bc after the first of the year... I know that it would be our own faults if something happened, but I am not really worried about anything... I just have never had to worry about this before... And to me it seemed as if he did cum inside without telling me but I have never had someone cum inside me before because I have always worn condoms with anyone else (my ex bfs)... So I did not know if I was supposed to feel it inside me or anything..


ok girlie well you should be able to tell if he came in you or not.

Trust me when you get up it's an immense amount of liquid. There is no reason to be embarassed. I think it's a great idea that you want to get on bc after the ny. Maybe now would be better tho? Just be sure to take care of yourself, your health is the most important.


thank you for your kind reply... Im waiting for the new year because our doc has taken the rest of the year off for vac. There are some free clinics around here but I would feel more comfy at our reg. Doc....

Anyways, there was alot of liquid "down there" even like 2 hours after we had sex... I did not go to the restroom after sex... It was much more than usual... Especially that long after sex... Thanks so much
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Newmommy23
replied on December 11th, 2004
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First of how old are you? Anytime you have unprotected sex wether he cums inside of you or not you run the risk of getting pregnant! Why are you waiting until next year? If you were pregnant what would you do?
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bailysbutterfly
replied on December 11th, 2004
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newmommy23 wrote:
first of how old are you? Anytime you have unprotected sex wether he cums inside of you or not you run the risk of getting pregnant! Why are you waiting until next year? If you were pregnant what would you do?


read my previous posts for both of your answers
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PosrscheLvr
replied on December 11th, 2004
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thank you for your kind reply... Im waiting for the new year because our doc has taken the rest of the year off for vac. There are some free clinics around here but I would feel more comfy at our reg. Doc....

Anyways, there was alot of liquid "down there" even like 2 hours after we had sex... I did not go to the restroom after sex... It was much more than usual... Especially that long after sex... Thanks so much


you are more than welcome. If you aren't going to the doctor right away maybe try sex with some foam, it doesn't really interrupt anything and it's just an extra percaution. I think you should be using condoms, but if not maybe you should go get an iud in. No pills to remember, there is an iud w/o hormones and then you just don't have to worry about protection (providing you are in a monagamous relationship with someone). Just be safe and healthy in whatever you choose.
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steen
replied on December 11th, 2004
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*really good* chance that you could be pregnnat per your description. If you are trying to get pregnant, you certainl;y can, but if you don't want to, then you are sure exposing yourself to a lot of risk. *anytime* you have any kind of sex without a condom, you risk pregnancy, and certainly if you actually have intercourse, the sperm can be carried in pre-cum. As such, even if he doesn't ejaculate, you could be pregnant.

It is a pretty safe assumption that if you have sex without a condom or other contraception, you can almost certainly assume yourself pregnant, if not the first time, then certainly within to long.

The choice is all yours, but it is a very safe assumption that:

unprotected sex=pregnancy.
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bailysbutterfly
replied on December 11th, 2004
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Yes I am aware that pregnancy chance is high without some sort of bc... Thanks guys for all the advice
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l2at24
replied on December 11th, 2004
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I sent you a pm. It's at the top in the menu bar - private messages.
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bailysbutterfly
replied on December 11th, 2004
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l2at24 wrote:
i sent you a pm. It's at the top in the menu bar - private messages.


ty... I wrote u back Smile
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mama2bn05
replied on December 11th, 2004
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Just from my experience with my husband....It sounds to me like he did cuz my husband is the same way. He can last longer then 5 min. Now but when he does cum he will either go limp or last a lot longer the second time.
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Tazzy D
replied on December 11th, 2004
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I think this is a question that you need to talk to your husband about. I really cant answer this one. By your post I would say yes he did, but I wasnt in your bed so im not forsure... Good luck
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bailysbutterfly
replied on December 11th, 2004
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tazzy d wrote:
i think this is a question that you need to talk to your husband about. I really cant answer this one. By your post I would say yes he did, but I wasnt in your bed so im not forsure... Good luck


i have asked him and of course he said no... But I just think maybe he did and was/is hoping I dont know...
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Tazzy D
replied on December 11th, 2004
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bailysbutterfly wrote:
tazzy d wrote:
i think this is a question that you need to talk to your husband about. I really cant answer this one. By your post I would say yes he did, but I wasnt in your bed so im not forsure... Good luck


i have asked him and of course he said no... But I just think maybe he did and was/is hoping I dont know...


well to be blunt if he went limp then he did.
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