Joined: 17 Dec 2004 Posts: 4 Location: Corydon Indiana
What to Do!!!????!!!??? Posted: 12-17-04 10:36am
I am eighteen years old and just recently
found out that I was pregnant, I am about
two months along and have a major problem.
While it took me a good long time to let
my mother and father and the rest of my
family know about me, my boyfriend (of not
very long) was the first to know since it
is his baby as well. He has been nothing
but supportive and while he is very mature
and should be at 20 years old~he refuses
to meet my parents. They are not angry
with me but they are very upset that they
do not know what the baby will look like
or that they do not even know what kind of
father it will have. I have talked to
him about this time and time again and I
get more frustrated all the time. What
should I do. He needs to meet my parents
because it only seems fair to them.
Help!!
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Teen_Father29
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 17 Dec 2004 Posts: 3 Location: Newton, IA
Posted: 12-21-04 13:40pm
I am a teen father and I know that this
might seem like a major problem but there
worse things that could happen. I think
that you should try to get him to mabe
write a letter/e-mail telling your parents
why he wont see them. Then after they
reply mabe you could get him to talk to
them on the phone or mabe something like
that. What I am suggesting is that you
need him to do this but don't make him do
it cold turkey let him worm up to it then
after the telephone call mabe he will see
them. Also don't force him into anything
because that is how you will make him
realy mad or even mabe even lose him. I
might only be 17 but trust me, my gf has
been pregnant for about 3 months and the
only people that know are my parents. My
gf and I arn't even togeter anymore. She
wont even tell me why she wont let me see
her or the ultra sounds or anything. She
wont even answer my calls. Feel luckey
that your boy friend did even stick
around. I wanted to and I guess I can't.
-teen_father29
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LightFreeze
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Jan 2005 Posts: 5 Location: uk
Posted: 01-18-05 15:18pm
You are only 2 months on so I guess he has
only just found out for sure that he is
going to be a dad, give him a chance for
this to sink in, he`s probably just as
worried scared and apprehensive as you
are.Once he gets his own feelings sorted
he may be more willing to help
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xomandyxo
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 25 Apr 2006 Posts: 6 Location: MD
Posted: 04-26-06 17:42pm
Rebecca - I have honestly
been in your situation before. When I
first got pregnant, I was 17. My
boyfriend (now dh) was 20 years old. At
first, after telling my father I was
pregnant, he refused to meet him.
I think he was more scared than anything -
scared my father wouldn't like him/my
father would blame him.
Maybe your boyfriend is feeling the same
way. He might just be scared. Give him
some time to evaluate things, and figure
out what he wants to do. Atleast
he is sticking around for you and the
baby. And - right now - that is all
you need. Tell your parents to wait
around - and give him some time. I am
sure they will understand!! :)
and maybe in the future - your bf with be
like my husband and father, lol.
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NickVellios
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 Nov 2006 Posts: 55
Posted: 11-26-06 20:08pm
Well whatever happens, make sure your
parents make his first meeting with them a
comfortable one. If he meets them for
the first time and they drill him with
every question in the book, no matter how
good their intentions are he will have a
negative view on them for life and won't
want to meet them again. If their first
meeting is good, and your parents stray
away from uncomfortable discussion and
just talk about work, where he grew up,
and non baby related or without questions
drilling him about what type of character
he is then it will go better in the long
run. Make sure you talk to your parents
about this ahead of time. Let them know
it isn't personal (obviously, he doesn't
know them so it can't be personal) it's
just that he is nervous because of what is
going on with the pregnancy.
