You need to do what is in your heart. I don't think anyone can tell you what is going on in your heart. Your family needs to be more supportive. I think you just need to do what you need to do to be ok with yourself.

Well think u can do anything u put your mind to. I thought couldn't take care my son but I did it. Just believe in yourself. I have faith in u dear that u can do it.

The journey...

May your life flow smoothly
like a gentle stream
carried on the current
of a beautiful dream.

May your hope never stray
as you travel from the source;
may you find a strong embankment
as you continue on your course.

May a warm light from above
guide you every day
around the obstacles
that arise to block the way.

May your sight remain sure
when the rapids are rough,
strength calming the waves,
keeping your resolve tough.

May you find contentment
where each leg led
and embrace new things
along the path ahead.

And at the end of the journey
may the greatest wealth lie within;
may you find yourself much richer
for the places you have been.

I am sorry hearing your story made me cry. I am also pregnant so I am a little emotional. Your family should be more supportive but you can't control them. Do what you think is best for you and the baby don't think about what everyone wants you to do. I have an ex similiar to yours. I actually got the abortion he asked for and it was the hardest thing in the world to get over. He got me pregnant again and I refused another abortion and he left me. If you need to talk email me.

anytime you need talk..I'm here, too. I don't think you need a man to raise this baby!! There is a lot of state help out there. Medicaid, wic, foodstamps. Apply for it..At least until you get back on your feet.

Aww hunny!! I am so proud of you for standing up for yourself and no going through w/the abortion! I too will be a single mom! If you don't mind me asking why did you lose your job? My ex wanted me to have an abortion also and I told him to beat it lol. You can do it alone but it won't be easy. You should take his sorry butt to court for child support. Goodluck sweety and don't lose hope things will get better!!

Sweetie, you can get lots of support here. Iknow we're not in person but it'll still help. As for the other things, I am in canda so i'm not too sure of the support programs in the states but i'm sure there are many--especially for a young woman like yourself. Good luck from the bottom of my heart.

On another note:
newmommy I love your e-mail addy name!

Thanks lilblaze but I am still mad at u for making me cry w/your post in the abortion forum lol! It was so powerful!!

i'm sorry ----it was powerfull.. It caused some caca up in there...

Jlee I say screw them!! We are here for you girl!!

that's ok she seems to have no regard for people as she wants the human race to end... It's kind of scary to know there are kids like that out there.

When I found out I was pregnant I was 18 too. I basicly lost all but one or two friends. And I still miss the life I was living and things are really hard, but I knew what my heart was telling me, and now my daughter is 4 years old, I also had a son and now I am 12 weeks with my third. I cant imagine a single day without them. If your heart wouldnt let you get an abortion, then you already have love for it. Dont let someone else make a choice for you that will leave you crying for the rest of your life. Listen to yourself and there is always help for single young mothers, because the world is full of them. Dont give up...

i do have regard for people ok.. You don't know me, you don't know anything about me. I told you that was something way back in my head. Anyway.. I came in here to support the girl who posted above

hun.. Don't let anyone tell you what to do if you don't feel it is best.. Do what is best for you. Hopefully your parents will come around when they see their grandchild, they really need to support you more.. That is what they are there for but since they aren't.. I don't know what to tell you.. Sorry I am not more help.. I wish I could help you more.

Aw honey, sounds like a rough ride. Have you looked into what welfare you're entitled to?

Don't worry, nobody can force you to adopt.

Sorry, it has been a while sence I have been on and I am so happy to hear from people that believe in me. You have no idea how gratefully I am to everybody. Moira, yes I have looked in to welfare but texas doesn't offer that much. I am on wic, and food stamps for right now and I have the local christian outreach centers helping pay my rent. Newmommy23, I lost my job because my boss told me I was a liability being 7 months and that if I got hurt waitressing that it would be put on him. Chinese restaurant and he is very to the book. There was no changing his mind. But he called me and wished me a merry christmas this past week and told me, my job is there after I have kailey, so that helps.
Thank you all again so much! That poem heavenlyangel made me cry and really is what I needed right about now. My parents though on good note have kind of come around. My mom wants to help plan my baby shower in january and talked about her babysitting for me if I find a job in the evening time. I guess blessing are out there, I really just have to pray and believerthat the lord only puts so much on you and never to much. Just give it to him and really show faith.
And you are all right I can do this and I love my daughter. Everyday she kicks more and more and I feel that much closer to her. Also I got a good friend I ran into from long ago and she has 2 kids at 26. She really has helped as far as mental support and I think it is really good to put my self around people who have kids and/or aren't as party crazy. Lol.
But thank you all again and i'll keep emailing all.
Much love, merry christmas and thank you for believing in me!

I am glad that things are working out for you! God works in mysterious ways! I am sure your mom will come around even more after her granddaughter is born! Goodluck hun! Oh btw I will be living in texas in a few weeks so we should have lunch or something! Where in texas are you?

Seeker, hang in there. It is your life, not anybody else's. So you stick with what you need to do for yourself. You are the one who has to live on in your shoes. Make your decision and then see what can work from then on. If you decide to keep the little one, then there certainly are help available to support you, both from private and public institutions and groups.

If you can't stay at home, you may be able to get housing assistance for your own place. You should hopefully be eligible for food stamps. And you certainly should then also qualify for the wic program. Check with the county welfare department, and you might also try to call the help-line by dialing 211 if it is up and running where you live. Tell them your situation, and they will direct you in the right directions for assistance.

There are also various groups that will assist women who are pregnant. Most of them seem to be set up as laternatives to abortion, but their help can be very valuable for you as well.

Remember, while the decision is yours and not anybody else's, there is help for you if you go with your heart rather than people's pressures on you. It is your life, not theirs.

Maybe adoption is a route you could look into giving your child a life you are unable to provide...

Why did you loose your job? No maternity leave? Did you quit or get fired? What did you do?

Is insurance giving you anything for your car accident? Who was at fault?