My boyfriend and I have been together on
and off for 6 months,
a couple of months ago his ex girlfriend
and mother of his son killed herself and
their son, I was there to support him any
way I could,
before this happened we decided to try for
a family of our own.
We then split up after 2 months and went
our separate ways.
After a month we realised how much we love
each other and decided to give our
relationship another go and we seemed to
be getting on better than ever.
Then last week the girl he was seeing
after we broke up, turned up at his house
to say she was pregnant, they have had
tests done and it has been confirmed she
is now 13 weeks pregnant.
She has now said that if he does not leave
me and go back to her, she will have an
abortion.
I do not want him to have to make a
decision like that and he shouldnt have
to.
With everything he has had to go through
the last couple of months I dont know what
to do for the best, should I just say go,
even though I know he does not love her,
i dont believe in abortions and neither
does he.
But I do know that using this as a reason
to get him back is hurtfull and wrong, how
could any person use an unborn (or born)
child as blackmail?
Is this illegal?
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steen
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 18 Nov 2004 Posts: 1797 Location: Upper Midwest
Posted: 12-18-04 13:29pm
It doesn't seem illegal, but it certainly
is emotional blackmail. How this girl
ever figured that he would appreciate this
or in any way provide her with a good
relationship is beyond me. If I was him
and my conviction against abortion is so
strong that I would go back to her, then
(1) I would despice her for her blackmail,
and (2) never have any respect for her per
her casual regard towards abortion.
They seem to have almost nothing in
common, so I fail to see how this would be
a reasonable relationship. And if they
did, I would worry about him as well..
But yes, he certainly is in a bind. He
could go and see a counselor birefly to
help him sort out his emotions. That can
be very helpful, having somebody help
sortiong out emotions and options.
