Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 9 Location: Bushkill,PA
Jealous of Porn ?? Is That Normal?? Posted: 12-20-04 20:11pm
I seem to feel betrayed when I go on the
computer after my husband and see that he
has been looking at porn. I don't know
why. I just get this feeling that my
blood is rushing. He always hides it from
me so that angers me even more. I don't
know maybe im mad beacause I feel like im
not included. Not sure. I talked with
him about it he said that he would be more
open with me about it. But still late at
night I lay in bed paraniod that he is
looking at porn while I sit alone.
Thanks for listening
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Granps
Experienced User , Rather EHEALTHy
Joined: 12 Nov 2004 Posts: 225 Location: Arlington, TX
Posted: 12-20-04 20:40pm
You may want to go online and look for
yourself, in front of him. You may tell
him you want to look at some porn w/ him.
I look a porn w/ my lady friend and we
discuss some scenes, too.
If you really want to rock his socks, go
to "google" and search for "shemales".
This is a sight that shows half female and
male.
Obviously, he feel embarrassed, but you
can make him feel more comfortable by
watching w/ him.
Some of it is funny to me and some is
gross. I don't like anal sex.....
I hope this helps and doesn't offend you.
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bd1012
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 31 May 2004 Posts: 1998
Re: Jealous of Porn ?? Is That Normal?? Posted: 12-20-04 21:04pm
babylugo2000
wrote:
i seem to feel betrayed when
I go on the computer after my husband and
see that he has been looking at porn. I
don't know why. I just get this feeling
that my blood is rushing. He always
hides it from me so that angers me even
more. I don't know maybe im mad beacause
I feel like im not included. Not sure.
I talked with him about it he said that he
would be more open with me about it. But
still late at night I lay in bed paraniod
that he is looking at porn while I sit
alone.
Thanks for
listening
i feel that way sometimes.. But I try to
not let it bother me.. I find it very
handy now that my libido is gone.. It
makes us both happy because I can be left
alone to watch tv or whatever and he's not
bugging me and he doesnt' have to suffer
and walk around with a swollen member.
Trust me..If you get like I am now.. Porn
will be your friend..Anything to get him
off your case.
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 12-20-04 21:49pm
Okay,are we talking using porn as a
substitute for real intimacy with you or
just looking at porn for giggles once in a
while???If it is an occasional thing,no
biggie.Just be glad he's not in a strip
club wasting the college fund or worse,out
trolling for fresh meat.If he is using
porn as his primary source of
stimulation,then,my dear, you have a
serious problem.I was once engaged to a
man who would rather watch porn(the real
hard core stuff!!)than make love to me-and
it's not like i'm an unwilling partner!!I
finally had enough and left him!I am
married to a wonderful man who does not
need to see naked barbie dolls to get
off.We watch porn sometimes,but we can't
stop laughing at it,we think it is
amusing!If your situation is the latter.Pm
me and we''l talk.Best to you!
Patty
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babylugo2000
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 09 Dec 2004 Posts: 9 Location: Bushkill,PA
Re Pattyv Posted: 12-21-04 09:05am
We still have sex. But any chance that he
can get if I go to the grocery store or to
my mothers or to bed he is on the computer
looking at porn.... And its not for
giggles he gets off on it. We have a porn
movie that he supposidly bought for us to
watch together because I told him that I
feel left out and we have had it for 5
months and he has seen it... By himself
everytime that I say oh lets watch it he
is like oh I dont feel like moving the vcr
now. I try to talk with him to understand
it and he says that its just a man
thing...
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PattyV
Extremely EHEALTHy
Joined: 01 May 2004 Posts: 1103 Location: Chicago area
Posted: 12-22-04 13:20pm
Have you tried to calmly explain to him
that you feel left out when he views
and/or gets off on porn without you??If
you know he's watching porn or
online,maybe join him and surprise him
with a little show of your own??You might
surprise yourself as well.A little effort
on both of your parts may help resolve
this issue.Sometimes,viewing porn becomes
a sort of addiction and he may need some
help from you to overcome it.Do not
approach him in a confrontational
matter,this will only add to the
problem.As long as he is not using porn as
a substitute for real intimacy and your
sex life is still good,maybe he needs a
little shaking up,try something new in the
sack.(maybe have sex in a different room
or try some toys).Good luck to you.
Patty
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Emianne21
New User, Becoming EHEALTHy
Joined: 24 Nov 2004 Posts: 13 Location: Ames, IA
Posted: 12-22-04 16:07pm
My fiance was 'addicted' to pornography.
I hear this is a common problem for some
men. Don't let any one tell you not to
let it bother you, because your feelings
are true and shouldn't be denied. The
only way he and I got over it is when we
sat down and discussed it. . . At
length. Because he loved me he was
willing to work on it and now his porn
viewing is minimal. It took me a while to
trust him again however, because he did
lie about it.
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